Thumbelyna Quick Hands wrote:
And that is my take. My husband and I have battled long and hard about this issue. I disagree with the medication and there are times when I have not given him his medicine and his behavior is unchanged. But my husband swears that he sees a problem. A couple of my son's previous teachers have said they think my son is no more and no less inattentive as other children they have in their class. And one teacher has said my son does have a behavior problem. I'm opposed to the medicine, but my husband isn't.
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I went in and talked with his teacher this morning. She told me she doesn't see my son as having a behavior problem, just a problem focusing on the task at hand.
Again, as someone pointed out, there's a difference between Attention Deficit Disorder and ADD with hyperactivity (ADHD.) ADD without the hyperactivity component tends to be more common in girls, but it can happen in boys as well. If there is no hyperactivity component, it may very well be that you
won't see a change in
behavior on the medication.
The difference comes in the way he's able to stay on task. ADD is due to a lack of dopamine receptors in the brain. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter that essentially tells your brain, "Hey, listen up! This is important!" and thus makes things easier to focus on. What Ritalin and Adderol and similar meds (most all of which are actually stimulants--Adderol is amphetamine salts) do is stimulate the production of dopamine, which helps to compensate for the shortage of receptors.
Having spoken with a number of psychologists who specialize in attention disorders, I can tell you that ADD is actually NOT as over-diagnosed as the panic-mongerers would have you believe. Think about it: ADD meds are very small doses of some very powerful stimulants, some of which are narcotics. If doctors were prescribing massive quantities of these medications without sufficient diagnostic justification, it would throw up red flags with certain government agencies whose job it is to make sure the wrong people aren't getting their hands on certain controlled substances. Most doctors would rather avoid that kind of static.
One thing to keep in mind is that this shortage of dopamine receptors is actually a genetic trait. That means if your son does have ADD, in all likelihood there are relatives with it as well. Sometimes, however, these relatives will have gone undiagnosed, in which case the ADD can manifest as a strong tendancy toward substance abuse and depression. The substance abuse comes into play because people find ways to self-medicate, and most intoxicants have have the effect of triggering dopamine spurts. Depression comes in because 1) the brain NEEDS things to be interesting, NEEDS to be stimulated, and without that stimulation, other neural processes suffer. Also, depression can result from the number of negative cognitions one absorbs about oneself after having lived a lifetime of being told (or just thinking) that one is lazy, undermotivated, forgetful, inconsiderate, stupid, a poor learner, etc, etc, etc.
So look at your and your husband's families. Among your sons grandparents and aunts and uncles, how many cases of chronic depression, alcoholism or drug addiction are there? Or are there relatives with notoriously short tempers? (One other manifestation of ADD is a marked lack of patience, which often leads to a hair-trigger temper.) If there are people with these problems, talk to them and ask them about what their childhood was like. Did they struggle in school? Do they suffer from insomnia, where they can't sleep because they just can't "turn their brain off" at night?
Your reference to temper-tantrums your son is throwing is a bit of a red flag. It might be that lack of patience/hair-trigger temper I referred to, or it might be that he's already manifesting some depression from the fact that, for a great deal of his childhood, he's been feeling second-rate because of his academic performance. Unless there's already some emotional/psychological factors at play, in elementary school, most kids WANT to do well, because excelling in school is a sure path to adult approbation, and young kids crave that. If at this age, your son has gotten a lot of negative messages about his academic abilities, it's going to impact his emotional state.
You might also want to attempt to corrolate the times when he "busts his ***" on his schoolwork and the times when he doesn't do as well to whether or not he's on his medication, since I believe you mentioned that sometimes you don't give him the meds?
I would encourage you to keep an open mind. ADD is a very misunderstood disorder, and it's gotten a lot of flack in the media which has resulted from and contributed to that misunderstanding. I would recommend that, if you can get the insurance to cover it, you consider taking your son to a psychology/therapist who specializes in attention disorders and have him or her do a much more comprehensive evaluation than either your school or your physician will do. Aside from being able to make a much more accurate diagnosis, this specialist can also help you understand what's actually going on with your son in a way that your physician probably can't.