What is wrong with my parents?Follow

Meh, I don't put too much stock in a college degree as far as intelligence is concerned. I have one, and I went to school with some total morans. Plus, Joph is just now getting around to it and he's hands-down the smartest person I know.



Edited, Aug 29th 2006 at 11:19am EDT by Atomicflea

So this thread was born not of your concern for lil sis so much as your contempt for your parents' double-standard? Garsh, that's sort of petty. If you really disapprove of her choices, then you have every right to let her know. Sabotauging her like you did with the myspace dude may be a tad over-reaching(cOck-blocker), but a healthy dose of guilt via your voiced disappointment can work wonders in the battle for a young mind that is desperately seeking acceptance.

/bizarroDrPhiloff

It is either that or sit their kids in front of the electronic babysitter, i.e. playstation, xbox, computer, et cetera.


Basically, we have no disagreement. Slight confusion.




As for Katie:



Now being the same age as you:

I have been to 9 countries that cover every continent on this planet save for Antarctica(who counts that really), I own my own car(2003 Civic, plan to buy a Camaro in 09 when it is re-released), and I own a house in MN which I rent out. I did it all unmarried, and by me onesy(PotC +1). Now why do I bring this up?




So how does it feel to be in the back of the line?

I thought you brought it up to have a ***** measuring contest and to troll. Do I get a prize if I'm right?

Yep. My ex-boss is absolutely brilliant - went to college at 16 or so, decided it wasn't what he needed to get where he wanted to be, and quit to go to work programming - all of which was self-taught at the time.

While he was around, college degrees on resumes were considered fluff next to work experience. An interviewee would get farther talking about collossal fUckups and how they'd learned from them, than waving degrees from "good" schools.

But, the tech field is different that way.

Gawd, the board code is kickin' my aSs today.

Edited, Aug 29th 2006 at 11:46am EDT by Samira

Well, Rime, you are the only one of the two of us who have a *****.

I don't have a little sister, but I do have a good friend whom I saw ******** up her life in all sorts of ways. I tried to talk to her about it and got sloughed off.

An older friend who had been through many of the same mistakes told me, "Let it go. You can't help her until she's ready - but when she's ready, your words will be there."

I followed his advice, and sure enough, ages later she came around on her own. We had a heart-to-heart talk (you know, pre-pillow fight) and she admitted that she was angry with me at the time because she knew I was right.

So: my advice is to say it one more time, and tell her it's a closed subject as far as you're concerned. She'll hear you when she's ready, and not a minute before.

Excellent advice.

My family (and it's a nice large Filipino family) has always been in each other's business so to not have someone talk to another about behavior they think is going to be harmful in the wrong is just an unknown concept in my family. We've also been instilled the idea of "You don't do anything to embarrass or shame the family and if you see something going on, you do something about it."

A few of my cousins have gone down the path of drugs, drinking, sexing it up, and the other cousins (first cousins, second, godcousins, honorary) banded together for a mini-intervention. Most realized how much it was hurting the family and shaped up. The few that didn't found out the cousins didn't pull punches and we would go to our parents to step in. The very real threat of being sent back to the Philippines to work in the rice fields is more of a deterrent than anything, especially when we saw someone who was sent to the PI and when he came back he was a changed person. We all toed the line at that point and knew how much of the boundaries we could push before being handed an airline ticket.

Katie, you've done all you could. Tell your sister that you realize that your sister has made her choices and you'll be there for her if and when she falls. That's all you can do at this point.

I think its cute that mommy and daddy somehow convinced you that you were some sort of super genius and capable of skipping ahead years.

Let's be honest with ourselves. I ain't buyin it.

I'm glad both of you knew right out of high school what you wanted to do professionaly with your life. I was still bouncing between pharmacy and physical therapy. This was before I realized I hate people and want as little contact with them as possible. I've explored several avenues and I think I've finally found one that I can satisfied with for awhile. My main issue is that I want a job that I can take anywhere, that I can work from home with and that promotes family life. I want to be home with our children when we have them. I want to be able to do home work with them every afternoon, I want to attend every PTA and soccer game. I want to enjoy dinner as a family every nite.

This may not seem much to some of you, but now take into consideration Mr.Katie being in the military he can deploy at anytime, he could be gone for months, his hours can change at a moments notice and he could leave tommorrow. I want to know there will be a steady parental person with our children at all times. I dont want them to be raised by TV Nanny or by some person who isnt their parent. I dont want to only see them between 6 and 8 every evening. I want for us to be active in our childrens lives as I believe that makes all the difference. When I was young my mother stayed home. My oldest younger brother and myself had the full advantage until almost high school of having her home full time. Our grades were significantly higher than our other two siblings, our respect for our parents much higher, neither of us caused this much havoc. Mr.Katie agrees with me on this.

What ever gets your jollies off Neph. I'm aware you want me, everyone knows, its the worst kept secret in the Asylum. I'm sorry Neph, I just dont go for guys with small limp schlongs. I read somewhere that there is a pill that you could take that could help correct your little problem. Just sayin.

Actually I worked in pharmacy from 18 to 23. The past year and a half I worked from home or didnt work at all depending. Mr.Katie and I have been together 4 years, married 2. It's been nice not having to juggle days off and vacation time for us to spend time together and be able to just pack up and go when ever we want. I've been the nice stay at home wife who cooks every meal, does the laundry, cleans house and all that nice domestic jazz. It's definantly helped while going through all the infertility appointments, treatments and the horribly sick days from the medication they put me on.