My little sister is 17 going on 25. I'm so ready to flay her hide. If she were mine I'd have already sent her to boarding school. She's into drugs, drinking, sleeping around. She tries to deny it but being this is a small town and older sister has contacts, I know better. Plus having pictures to back up your claims, ALWAYS helps.
So I just got my hands on pictures of her drinking and then I know she drove herself home this weekend. I'm so royally pissed. My mom's repsonse is, "I know, I know.". Why is it not the more appropriate response of taking car + keyes away, groundation, taking away the cell phone and beating the ever living **** out of her *** with a paddle? I'm aware she's going to drink, I dont know how many times we've told her to call us if she's going to drink so that we can pick her up. It just amazes me how ******* stupid she is. We are disappointed she chooses to drink, but we (well myself atleast) are more upset that she's driving afterwards. Her argument is she only had a couple of coolers or only a few shots.
I'm mad at her but I'm pissed at my parents. If that had been me, I would have gotten the **** beat out of me. When I did start drinking I always either stayed or had a ride home. I never drove. She is incredibly smart in some ways, but ******* clueless in others. After 2 other kids are my parents just tired of fighting to keep their kids in line? Is it because they both work 12 hour days and the last two are on their own most of the time? Do they just not care? Grrrrrr......
Plus, last month I found she was ******* a 26 year old. "We love each other." was the response right up until I made a fake myspace and had him agreeing to meet the made up chick for hot sex. Funny how all of a sudden she hates him. Grrr
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The oldest always gets the most discipline, I think it's because by the time the younger kids get to that age the parents are wore out so they don't put as much effort into it.
So... can I get your sister's number?
So... can I get your sister's number?
Some people are like slinkies, they aren't really good for anything, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.
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Plus, last month I found she was @#%^ing a 26 year old. "We love each other." was the response right up until I made a fake myspace and had him agreeing to meet the made up chick for hot sex. Funny how all of a sudden she hates him. Grrr
Tough love for the win!
She's 17 and therefore immortal. She's the third, and yeah, your parents are worn out and just hoping for the best.
Good luck. Hope she survives to adulthood, and doesn't kill anyone else on the road along the way.
In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
I know you love your sibling, but this is your parent's problem (and after she's 18, her problem alone). Be there, give her advice, don't enable her, but try not to absorb it all to the point where you're interfering. She may thank you for it later, but it also may distance you to the point where she loses whatever trust she has in you and it doesn't make a difference what you say. Hardlining it is your folks' job.
I ought to, it would might teach her a lesson.
I find it amusing in a sick way how in most cases, the elder has such strict guidelines put before them, with dire consequences for breaking said guidelines as they grow up. But when it comes to the next kids, they can usually get away with murder with just a small shake of the parents head. I get that with your first you as a parent are learning, but its almost as if a 180 is being done, making up to the second child what the first child had to endure. Until my Sr year in high school I had to be home by dark. You do realize dark in the winter time is 4pm? Yet my brother as a freshman could stay out until 11pm, and by his jr year, he didnt have to come home until 2 am on a school night.
Katie,make sure your concerns are heard, show the pics if you have to, but ultimately it is your parents who need to step up and take responsibility of their get. But if they dont freak out over her latest "love" or that shes drinking and driving, then I dont know what will except for a trip to the ER where your sister is in a coma from some kind of accident. GL hon. I wouldnt want to be in your shoes
Katie,make sure your concerns are heard, show the pics if you have to, but ultimately it is your parents who need to step up and take responsibility of their get. But if they dont freak out over her latest "love" or that shes drinking and driving, then I dont know what will except for a trip to the ER where your sister is in a coma from some kind of accident. GL hon. I wouldnt want to be in your shoes
you're in Texas, don't they still use these things there?
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She's into drugs, drinking, sleeping around. She tries to deny it but being this is a small town and older sister has contacts, I know better. Plus having pictures to back up your claims, ALWAYS helps.
Do I even have to ask?
I always approved of the disciplinary device wherin the young offender is treated to an over-indulgence in their vice of choice. So you'd get her puking drunk and then set up a gang-bang. If that doesn't cure her misbehaviour I'd just give up on her.
Edit: "Do I even have ask?" is a little more caveman than I was shooting for.
Edited, Aug 29th 2006 at 10:30am EDT by Barkingturtle
I feel maternal towards my siblings. I was the care giver while my mom was in the depths of depression, I took numerous beatings for those kids. I watched them while Mom was in college. I did homework with them, took them to and from school, cooked dinner and made sure they did their chores. I feel like I helped raise them, there for I get an opinion. Not that my opinion gets anywhere. We have this talk all the damn time and it just goes in one ear and out the other. She's going to end up killing or being killed. Mr.Katie, though it pisses me off to hear him say it, thinks she wont make it through her senior year without getting pregnant.
The youngest boy is 14 and constantly in detention, they both can barely pass their classes ( anything below a B was unacceptable and grounds for groundation when I was in school), he's constantly in fights, has an anger management problem and just generally doesnt give a ****. It just pisses me off. Ok, I think I'm done fuming. This is the reason why I think one parent should be there every day when kids get out of school.
The youngest boy is 14 and constantly in detention, they both can barely pass their classes ( anything below a B was unacceptable and grounds for groundation when I was in school), he's constantly in fights, has an anger management problem and just generally doesnt give a ****. It just pisses me off. Ok, I think I'm done fuming. This is the reason why I think one parent should be there every day when kids get out of school.
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hey both can barely pass their classes ( anything below a B was unacceptable and grounds for groundation when I was in school), he's constantly in fights, has an anger management problem and just generally doesnt give a sh*t. It just pisses me off.
I know this song and dance so well its like I lived it!... Oh wait a minute... I did
Maybe it's not such a big deal to them after watching the way that you turned out.
Yeah, its alot like that DSD. My parents were super strict while I was growing up, or atleast my mom was, my dad didnt give a **** as long as you didnt block the TV. My mom tries to explain it as my sister wants to fit in and thats why she does the things she does. She tries to explain it that because I was "popular" and had "good" friends I wouldnt understand. I realize how aqward teen years are. I went through them. I did have friends that would have kicked my *** had I drank and driven myself home. When we "partied" it was always chapperoned by someone's parents or grand parents. If we were going to drink, the parents took the keys and everyone had to call their parents to let them know where they were. I never slept around because it was always in the back of my mind how many people had STDs but even more the thought, " How will I explain this to my husband one day? ". I know thats kind of *** backwards to some but I felt I owed it to my future partner not to be a complete fuCking whOre.
Katie,
Get off your haterade, and quit taking your haterpills.
You know you did the same shìt as a teenager. With my best guess, probably more so than your willing to admit to.
Bottom line is she is young, and doesn't give a shìt. Better to have her the way she is now and happy than 19 married and miserable in a marriage statistically bound for failure.
Get off your haterade, and quit taking your haterpills.
You know you did the same shìt as a teenager. With my best guess, probably more so than your willing to admit to.
Bottom line is she is young, and doesn't give a shìt. Better to have her the way she is now and happy than 19 married and miserable in a marriage statistically bound for failure.
Maybe I'm in the minority Rimesume, but between work, school and band I didnt have much time. I was one of those teeny boppers who cruised the strip in my beat up old truck talking and flirting. I thought my truck was the hottest thing ever. I've been to a club less than 5 times in my life. I did drink, but I've already gone over the circumstances for that. I did not fail anything except for second semester algebra II (twice even, I had to finish it in summer school), I was national honor society and graduated in the top 50 of my class and no, not percentage. I worked 40 hours a week at the local pharmacy, volunteered with the local Teen Court, was a member of Upward Bound, Flag Captain 2 years straight and all that other jazz. My PSAT scores qualified me one of the top students in the nation, I had national recognition and am exempt because of those scores from SATs, ACTs and TASP for 10 years from the date I took them. Take that and chew it, *****!
PS, I actually have an award from one of the presidents ( I think it's Bush Sr.) because of my test grades. I was nationally recognized in third grade. I was tested back then for advanced classes and my scores were highschool and college levels.
Edited, Aug 29th 2006 at 10:59am EDT by Katie
PS, I actually have an award from one of the presidents ( I think it's Bush Sr.) because of my test grades. I was nationally recognized in third grade. I was tested back then for advanced classes and my scores were highschool and college levels.
Edited, Aug 29th 2006 at 10:59am EDT by Katie
The One and Only Katie wrote:
Maybe I'm in the minority Rimesume, but between work, school and band I didnt have much time. I was one of those teeny boppers who cruised the strip in my beat up old truck talking and flirting. I thought my truck was the hottest thing ever. I've been to a club less than 5 times in my life. I did drink, but I've already gone over the circumstances for that. I did not fail anything except for second semester algebra II (twice even, I had to finish it in summer school), I was national honor society and graduated in the top 50 of my class and no, not percentage. I worked 40 hours a week at the local pharmacy, volunteered with the local Teen Court, was a member of Upward Bound, Flag Captain 2 years straight and all that other jazz. My PSAT scores qualified me one of the top students in the nation, I had national recognition and am exempt because of those scores from SATs, ACTs and TASP for 10 years from the date I took them. Take that and chew it, *****!
That all said, what do you do for a living now?
Yeah, your sister is doing alright for herself.
Again, I don't see where drinking to excess and sleeping with whatever moves is part and parcel of being a teen, but I understand the general sentiment. Of course your teenage years are filled with a certain sense of invincibility, but that doesn't mean that you have all the emotional or intellectual tools you need to make adult decisions. You're still in development, and you still need a guide.
She may not do as you say when speaking to you, but your attitude when saying it has a lot to do with whether you're the voice she hears in her head or not. It's not enough to react when they ***** up. They need consistency, and if you're not there to give it and your mother got a little too comfy with you doing her job, then forget it.
She may not do as you say when speaking to you, but your attitude when saying it has a lot to do with whether you're the voice she hears in her head or not. It's not enough to react when they ***** up. They need consistency, and if you're not there to give it and your mother got a little too comfy with you doing her job, then forget it.
I'd hit it.
Rimesume the Shady Posted: Aug 29th 2006 at 7:56am PDT wrote:
A bunch of stuff.
Get to Ops side and go to work.
Rimesume, it's ok to be jealous. Goodness knows it used to **** my friends off that I could pass a class without cracking the book. I used to get in trouble for getting ahead of the class. One of these days you'll have to tell me what it's like to be at the back of the class.
The One and Only Katie wrote:
Rimesume, it's ok to be jealous. Goodness knows it used to **** my friends off that I could pass a class without cracking the book. I used to get in trouble for getting ahead of the class. One of these days you'll have to tell me what it's like to be at the back of the class.
And your degree is in what?
The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
Again, I don't see where drinking to excess and sleeping with whatever moves is part and parcel of being a teen, but I understand the general sentiment. Of course your teenage years are filled with a certain sense of invincibility, but that doesn't mean that you have all the emotional or intellectual tools you need to make adult decisions. You're still in development, and you still need a guide.
She may not do as you say when speaking to you, but your attitude when saying it has a lot to do with whether you're the voice she hears in her head or not. It's not enough to react when they ***** up. They need consistency, and if you're not there to give it and your mother got a little too comfy with you doing her job, then forget it.
She may not do as you say when speaking to you, but your attitude when saying it has a lot to do with whether you're the voice she hears in her head or not. It's not enough to react when they ***** up. They need consistency, and if you're not there to give it and your mother got a little too comfy with you doing her job, then forget it.
Atomicflea,
I was not saying every teen aged girl should fùck anything that walks, however I am saying that with a teenager especially a late teenager (17-19) certain expectations go out the window, and I view this as a developmental stage in early adulthood for some(certainly not everyone). I meant that she is enjoying her youth(and by all rights she should) but how people enjoy their youth is completely subjective and based wholly on self regrets, and others experiences. How much truth behind my statement is completely about perspective of course.
Af, I've decided I'm just going to leave it alone. She's not my kid and no matter how much I try to take the initiative to have the "talk" with her, if my parents dont care and if they wont consistently reprimand her it means nothing. She'll learn the hard way and thats that. Nothing I can do to change it. In a few years she'll remember all the talks we've had and know that it could have been different.
The One and Only Katie wrote:
One of these days you'll have to tell me what it's like to be at the back of the class.
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NephthysWanderer the Charming wrote:
And your degree is in what?
I love how she avoided my question.
I rock.
Edited, Aug 29th 2006 at 11:19am EDT by Rimesume
Rimesume the Shady wrote:
I was not saying every teen aged girl should fùck anything that walks, however I am saying that with a teenager especially a late teenager (17-19) certain expectations go out the window, and I view this as a developmental stage in early adulthood for some(certainly not everyone). I meant that she is enjoying her youth(and by all rights she should) but how people enjoy their youth is completely subjective and based wholly on self regrets, and others experiences. How much truth behind my statement is completely about perspective of course.
The kid's job is to test boundaries, the parent's job is to try to keep him from offing him/herself or doing permanent harm. AIDS and jail are both pretty lasting, and while your child may have no idea of the long-term effects of his rash actions, that's what you're there for. Too many parents care more about being their kid's pal.
I actually start college tommorrow. My degree will be in computer science. I'm 24 and have just decided what I want my first degree to be. I see a few more before its all set and done with. Do I regret taking this long to decide what I want to do? No, I'd not have met Mr.Katie if I hadnt put myself through the things I did. Do I wish I'd gone on to college directly after getting my Cpht? Yes, I wish I'd been one of those lucky ones who knew right out of high school what they wanted to do with the rest of their lives.
I'd say we've not done too badly. We own our home, own our cars, own our RV, we've vacationed in some very beautiful places. We've done alot, seen alot a will even more in the future. He's 29 and I'm 24. For having no degree and not working the past two years, we've done well. Now it's time to move on and open up a few more doors, maybe one of those will get us the hell out of of this town.
I'd say we've not done too badly. We own our home, own our cars, own our RV, we've vacationed in some very beautiful places. We've done alot, seen alot a will even more in the future. He's 29 and I'm 24. For having no degree and not working the past two years, we've done well. Now it's time to move on and open up a few more doors, maybe one of those will get us the hell out of of this town.
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