CNN.com wrote:
(AP) -- Penny Grossman cringes each time a student mentions a birthday party during class at her Boston, Massachusetts-area preschool. The rule there, and at a growing number of America's schools, is that parties and play-dates shouldn't be discussed unless every child in the room is invited.
Gone are the days when a kindergartner dropped a handful of party invites in the classroom cubbyholes of their closest buddies. Today, if anyone is excluded the invitations can't be handed out at school.
The idea that protecting kids from rejection is crucial to safeguarding their self-esteem has gained momentum in recent years.
Take Valentine's Day: At some schools, a second-grader can't offer paper valentines or heart-shaped candies to a short list of pals and secret crushes anymore. They give cards to everyone or no one at all.
Or sports: In many towns, scorekeeping no longer happens at soccer or softball games played by kids under 8 or 9. Win or lose, every player in the league gets a trophy at the season's end.
Gone are the days when a kindergartner dropped a handful of party invites in the classroom cubbyholes of their closest buddies. Today, if anyone is excluded the invitations can't be handed out at school.
The idea that protecting kids from rejection is crucial to safeguarding their self-esteem has gained momentum in recent years.
Take Valentine's Day: At some schools, a second-grader can't offer paper valentines or heart-shaped candies to a short list of pals and secret crushes anymore. They give cards to everyone or no one at all.
Or sports: In many towns, scorekeeping no longer happens at soccer or softball games played by kids under 8 or 9. Win or lose, every player in the league gets a trophy at the season's end.
The article goes on to discuss different feelings towards this from different parents. It surprises me that more people don't see something wrong with this kind of thing. Not only based on the fact that it creates a false impression of what children should endure in growing up, but also that it makes children at specific ages less of an individual and more of a systematic figure...downplayed as not having individual feelings and emotions that should be expressed because they're "Only 8 or 9 years of age".
I think it's ridiculous that people think something like this is a good idea. The amount of false structure it builds into a childs mentality of how things work in life has to be damaging, if not downright destructive. If a child isn't taught to deal with challenges, face fears, and deal with things like rejection...how can they possibly adapt to future events that are in every sense a reality that they are going to have to face at some point. I think things like this are the very destructive element that they're trying to avoid by implimenting it. Should we really mask reality for our children?