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#1 Aug 09 2006 at 9:10 AM Rating: Excellent
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LONDON, England (Reuters) -- A man and a woman sit side by side in a New York cafe, drinking beer, sharing food, and not saying a word. Instead of chatting, they are typing on a laptop about the tunes played through a shared iPod.

"Realizing that communicating via typing was far more comfortable ... we conducted ... our date without speaking. We traded headphones back and forth and typed and ordered beer and wine and more food ... The waitress thought we were crazy," wrote singer Amanda Palmer on her Web site.
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Coined by bloggers responding to a column on the online version of "Wired" magazine, couple-surfing describes "netaholics" or "infomaniacs" who surf alongside each other -- doing together what used to be seen as a solitary activity.

It can make cyber-love more playful and informative than the caches of steamy e-mails left in the late 1990s.
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"Our new relationship was often the subject of my LJ (blog) entries and I would often say things in there that I wouldn't tell him to his face," writes Kathryn.

Another couple -- married for 12 years -- say that for a while they communicated through blogs without ever discussing their feelings face to face.
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Couples? Do you ever communicate via electronics when you are in the same building? The ex used to get on IRC and start messaging me when we were in the same room. I generally wound up saying "You know, I'm right here" and then she'd get pissy. A lot of asinine things made her pissy. I once sent a PM to Flea (our computers are at opposite ends of the house) and she yelled back "I knew it'd come to this!" but it really hasn't. Then again, she's not online much at home so anything I ask would have to wait until she's at work the next day to respond.

By the way, I'm not talking solely about a mutual computer experience such as MMORPGs where the game is the experience itself. But rather if you were in the same room playing some MMORPG with just one another and "spoke" in text rather than speech.

If you sit in the same room and use TeamSpeak to communicate, you have stranger issues than I could imagine
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#2 Aug 09 2006 at 9:11 AM Rating: Good
Often I instant message my wife to bring me a sammich when I'm in the other room.
#3 Aug 09 2006 at 9:16 AM Rating: Decent
Sometimes I do it as a joke, but that's about it.

What I really hate is the coworkers who won't walk 10 feet to talk to each other. When I used to work in a cube-farm there were plenty of times where I'd be sitting at my desk and the person on one side of me would call the person on the other side of me. It gets even worse when one or both of them decide the conversation should be on speaker-phone. Smiley: motz
#4 Aug 09 2006 at 9:18 AM Rating: Good
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It can make cyber-love more playful and informative than the caches of steamy e-mails left in the late 1990s.

Oh great! So now all my steamy emails are already out of style, gone the way of bell bottoms and breakdancing! Smiley: frown

#5 Aug 09 2006 at 9:22 AM Rating: Good
The Mrs. and I communicate via email constantly while we are work. She works 80 miles away so I guess thats ok. As for being at home or out, I couldn't think of a situation where and why we would communicate using electronic devices. Now I am hip to the cyber movement and all that jazz but going on a cyber date really shows that you are more comfortable with animinty then you are talking face to face with your mate.
#6 Aug 09 2006 at 9:24 AM Rating: Good
I've never, even in MMO atmosphere, used typing to my spouse as a way to communicate other than being cute or adding humor to something. It seems, to me, a little ridiculous that people cannot communicate face to face, or don't feel as "comfortable" doing so. I mean, it's your spouse/friend/lover/etc for God's sake. Why the hell would you be with that person if you couldn't openly communicate with that person?

Teamspeak, though, or a similar application would be logical in the instance that computers are seperated by a distance throughout the house (ie. my computer is downstairs and my wife's upstairs)...it would be the same logic as an intercom system. Although I couldn't do it long-term or have full discussions in such a manner...if it was down to that, I would relocate one or both of the PC's to be within speaking distance of each other.
#7 Aug 09 2006 at 9:31 AM Rating: Decent
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I have sent my wife a text message a couple of times when she was upstairs and I was down. Admittedly, the first time I did it, she was sick and I wanted to see if she needed anything, but keeping me at a minimum exposure to her sickness.

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#8 Aug 09 2006 at 9:41 AM Rating: Excellent
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Sometimes I do it as a joke, but that's about it.


/nod I've just an IM as a joke and the husband thought it was funny. A couple of times when I've been at work and he's been at home and I've tried to call home, the line was busy. So I would send a quick message to him asking him to check the phone (phone would be off the hook).

My son, though, would prefer to IM with all of his friends instead of just calling them on the phone. Most of them seem to actually just hang out on MSN instead of actually meeting up to hang out somewhere. Sign of the times I suppose.
#9 Aug 09 2006 at 9:47 AM Rating: Excellent
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I think it would be great if I could pull it off, but I am not currently. Like most men, I often do not realize the ramifications of what I have said until after I have said it. Writing it down first, enables a review before sending it and will help avoid foot in mouth disease. Though I would prefer a platform with a spell checker.

Having a written record will also enable me to counter the formerly uncounterable arguement that I said XXX the other day, while I remember no such thing.


Edited, Aug 9th 2006 at 10:49am EDT by fhrugby
#10 Aug 09 2006 at 9:54 AM Rating: Decent
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Having a written record will also enable me to counter the formerly uncounterable arguement that I said XXX the other day, while I remember no such thing.
I'm afraid this will do more harm than good.
#11 Aug 09 2006 at 9:55 AM Rating: Excellent
I wouldn't mind communicating with a lady in this fashion, but I mostly dig chicks who can't read. I saw some news magazine show the other night which expounded upon the horrors of American life and how busy we are all the time by using as prime example a couple who worked at home in the evenings and really only communicated with IM's and such. I didn't pay it much mind as they weren't the type of folks I'd like to watch having intercourse anyway, so I could care less about their cold, empty relationship.


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Having a written record will also enable me to counter the formerly uncounterable arguement that I said XXX the other day, while I remember no such thing.

I'm afraid this will do more harm than good.


Many women readily admit to bluffing for the win or whatever the goal is, in this type of arguement, and guys traditionally have no defense.
#13 Aug 09 2006 at 10:04 AM Rating: Good
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We did when we played EQ together. Generally we use the old-fashioned face-to-face communication technique.
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#14 Aug 09 2006 at 10:11 AM Rating: Excellent
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My fiancee and I have our computers in the same room, so we generally just talk. We will send IMs back and forth though occasionally for fun (she'll IM me BOOBIES or something while I'm trying to work), but that's about it.
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#15 Aug 09 2006 at 10:14 AM Rating: Excellent
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The whole point of software is that it's supposed to be a tool. If this tool is interfering with your real-life communication, relationship, whatever, then it's time to quit using it. I PM Joph from work all the time, but we also call, and we talk at home. If I had something to discuss, I wouldn't say that I felt more comfortable doing it online. If that were the case, I would have serious concerns about the viability of said relationship. Maybe dating you can do online, but having children, balancing your monthly bills and talking about retirement are much more complicated. You have to be able to communicate face-to-face.
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Danalog the Vengeful Programmer wrote:
My fiancee and I have our computers in the same room, so we generally just talk. We will send IMs back and forth though occasionally for fun (she'll IM me BOOBIES or something while I'm trying to work), but that's about it.


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Maybe dating you can do online, but having children [is] much more complicated.
So wait.. you can't get pregnant from cyber sex?
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#18 Aug 09 2006 at 10:23 AM Rating: Decent
fhrugby the Sly wrote:
Many women readily admit to bluffing for the win or whatever the goal is, in this type of arguement, and guys traditionally have no defense.
Trying to 'win' all the time is the part that causes the problem. In my experience, most arguments aren't even really worth having.
#19 Aug 09 2006 at 10:24 AM Rating: Good
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Jophiel wrote:
The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
Maybe dating you can do online, but having children [is] much more complicated.
So wait.. you can't get pregnant from cyber sex?


/waits for server to shut down from sudden surge of PMs.

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#20 Aug 09 2006 at 10:25 AM Rating: Good
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So wait.. you can't get pregnant from cyber sex?
I thought Joph, Jr. looked a bit pixelated, but I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Smiley: frown
#21 Aug 09 2006 at 10:25 AM Rating: Decent
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So wait.. you can't get pregnant from cyber sex?
If this is true, varus's child support payments are about to drop drastically.
#22 Aug 09 2006 at 10:26 AM Rating: Excellent
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Tare wrote:
Jophiel wrote:
The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
Maybe dating you can do online, but having children [is] much more complicated.
So wait.. you can't get pregnant from cyber sex?


/waits for server to shut down from sudden surge of PMs.


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#24 Aug 09 2006 at 10:45 AM Rating: Decent
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Mr. Ambrya and I don't use IM programs at all, so IMing each other is not an option. However, sometimes if there's something he wants to remind me of and make sure it doesn't go in one ear and out the other, he'll email me the reminder. Sometimes we'll email during the day while he's at work and I'm between classes, rather than calling on the phone.

My last roommate and I, however, both liked to hang out on the same IRC server with a bunch of our other friends, and we found that, even though we were in the same room, while we were on IRC we would "talk" to each other via IRC rather than just say it aloud. This was accompanied by much laughing at ourselves, both by us and our friends who knew we were roommates.

#25 Aug 09 2006 at 10:54 AM Rating: Excellent
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My husband and I "courted" through some old school instant messaging program called Win Message or something. I forget what it was called. We were in the same dorm one floor apart and we both had significant others. Once I broke up with my bf I started going down to his room to talk until 6 am. Ahh memories... I think I still have printouts of some of the chat somewhere.
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#26 Aug 09 2006 at 11:01 AM Rating: Excellent
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The only way I'd send an IM to someone in the same room is either as a joke or to toss over a link to something. Bout it.
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