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Belkira wrote:
Wow. Regular ol' Joph fan club in here.
Oh, now you're just putting words in my mouth.
If I was a woman, I would SO place my hands on my hip and bring up something that happened 5 years ago and rub that in your face. So take that.
If I was a woman, I would SO place my hands on my hip and bring up something that happened 5 years ago and rub that in your face. So take that.
something I have noticed on women who breastfeed. There are two categories of them: the first, which I am one, who believe that nursing is very natural and do not have an issue with nursing in public, however they try and respect other people while they hope for the same respect back. In other words, I try and find an out of the way corner when nursing, and I do try and make it as discreet as possible.
Then there is camp two: the women who not only will find the most public place to nurse, but glare at every person walking by, with their breast exposed more so for shock value than function. Truly, you dont need your breast out the entire way for all to view. I swear you could give these women a spotlight and they still would think they are not getting enough attention. These are the ones I find most people who speak out, have an issue with. It has little to do with the actual discussion of breastfeeding in public, but its the dramatized martyred performance of camp two that inflames both sides of the issue.
Now granted, there are ******** in every form, and there are some idiots who think that breasts are only for mans entertainment and not actually used for babies nourishment. These are the ones who will come right up to you when nursing and start an argument on how indecent you are being, Yeah, Ive been there before. But I have not found the majority of people to be that way. Most smile, when they realize my intent, and respectfully, look away, giving me the "privacy" I appreciate, even in a public place.
Then there is camp two: the women who not only will find the most public place to nurse, but glare at every person walking by, with their breast exposed more so for shock value than function. Truly, you dont need your breast out the entire way for all to view. I swear you could give these women a spotlight and they still would think they are not getting enough attention. These are the ones I find most people who speak out, have an issue with. It has little to do with the actual discussion of breastfeeding in public, but its the dramatized martyred performance of camp two that inflames both sides of the issue.
Now granted, there are ******** in every form, and there are some idiots who think that breasts are only for mans entertainment and not actually used for babies nourishment. These are the ones who will come right up to you when nursing and start an argument on how indecent you are being, Yeah, Ive been there before. But I have not found the majority of people to be that way. Most smile, when they realize my intent, and respectfully, look away, giving me the "privacy" I appreciate, even in a public place.
DSD wrote:
Then there is camp two: the women who not only will find the most public place to nurse, but glare at every person walking by, with their breast exposed more so for shock value than function. Truly, you dont need your breast out the entire way for all to view. I swear you could give these women a spotlight and they still would think they are not getting enough attention. These are the ones I find most people who speak out, have an issue with. It has little to do with the actual discussion of breastfeeding in public, but its the dramatized martyred performance of camp two that inflames both sides of the issue.
Exactly, these are the ones I hold issue with. The gal I saw in the food court in the mall was one of these.
DSD wrote:
But I have not found the majority of people to be that way. Most smile, when they realize my intent, and respectfully, look away, giving me the "privacy" I appreciate, even in a public place.
I tried to look away, really, I did.
Some people are like slinkies, they aren't really good for anything, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.
DSD wrote:
Most smile, when they realize my intent, and respectfully, start rolling film.
maybe its just my DSD personality, but people stop looking very quickly. Ive been told there is a glint in my eye, but I think people are just seeing things. /shrug
I suppose I would try to be discreet. I'm not an extrovert to start with, so I don't think I would become one only by virtue of becoming a mother. I'm not down with women who make a big deal out of breastfeeding for the same reason I don't like seeing men peeing in the street, like jacobsdeception said. I just don't care to see your bits in public, whether you're drunk or militant. While I understand a baby's got to eat, there's such a thing as common courtesy that gets thrown out the window.
Most malls I have been in lately have a "family room" near the restrooms for the food court area. They are designed to provide an out-of-public-view area for changing dipers and breastfeeding. Maybe this mall didn't have one of those rooms, more likely though the lady was just looking for an excuse to glare at people and dare them to say something.
Growing up, my mother taught Lamaze at our house. She would have reunions for each class after they had their babies and talk about how things went. Can't tell you how many times I have walked in the house just as some lady is taking a breast out to feed her baby. Most of the time they were discrete, but there were plenty over the years that weren't and glared at me for darring to walk into the room. I got in trouble once cause some lady went off on how I should respect her privacy, when my friends and I entered the house. I told her, "My house. My living room. Keep yout boobs in your shirt if you don't want people who live here to see them."
Growing up, my mother taught Lamaze at our house. She would have reunions for each class after they had their babies and talk about how things went. Can't tell you how many times I have walked in the house just as some lady is taking a breast out to feed her baby. Most of the time they were discrete, but there were plenty over the years that weren't and glared at me for darring to walk into the room. I got in trouble once cause some lady went off on how I should respect her privacy, when my friends and I entered the house. I told her, "My house. My living room. Keep yout boobs in your shirt if you don't want people who live here to see them."
I recently had to feed my little buddy in the mall and there was no way I was going to bust out in the food court where we were even with a blanket, so I took him to the handicapped stall in the bathroom and stood up and nursed him. Made my arms feel like falling off and it felt kinda gross, but I just wasn't comfortable with doing it in the middle of hundreds of people.
I think the thing is also that feeding a baby is not as easy as it sounds. They develop their own little routines, that seem to change every week if no day, they want feed NOW! Also many mothers struggle to get their children to attach and drink or they get munched to death so it is hard and if you can get your baby to drink there and then congrats.
So you have to cut them a lot of slack and since I have become a dad I notice that generally the public looks on a screaming child as if you are the Anti-Christ and why can't you shut your child up, when realy you are trying manically.
But hey look if you think bewbs are wrong then look away, breast feeding is very natural and that sort of thing was common place in society until the church made us ashamed of our bodies.
So you have to cut them a lot of slack and since I have become a dad I notice that generally the public looks on a screaming child as if you are the Anti-Christ and why can't you shut your child up, when realy you are trying manically.
But hey look if you think bewbs are wrong then look away, breast feeding is very natural and that sort of thing was common place in society until the church made us ashamed of our bodies.
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