The paradox of being a "Nice Guy"Follow

So any update Demea?
Did you tell her yet that you want get nakey with her?
"Best to strike while the iron is hot."
"No time like the present."
"He who hestitates is lost."
"The early bird gets the worm."
"Speak softly and carry a big stick."
"Every dog has his day."
"When oppurtunnity knocks, open the door."
"If not now, when? If not you, then who?"
"People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, make them."

Any of this hitting the mark?
Let us know now as we have a short attention span and a couple weeks it will be necro posting to bring this back up.
Go get that girl!

Seriously, just talk to her. You don't have much to lose. Would you rather shag her and then act like an *** about it the next morning?

Don't be the kind of guy who shags a girl when she's drunk. There's no respect in that.

Nice guys do have the potential to not finish last. It's all in the matter of how much you want to "win" .. even if it means confessing your feelings before it's too late.

Yeah. Rather than remaining in the dreaded "Just Friends" category, take a shot, and remind yourself that despite your (undoubtedly) strong feelings for her, the worst thing that can happen is that she says "No, I'm not interested in you like that." (Which 99% of the time won't happen if you're confident about the discussion).

Just be down-to-earth with her about your feelings, be brave, and remember a condom. If you can get her alone and explain that you care about her and you don't want to be like the other jerks (for x and y reasons) you see her hanging around with, YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO PULL HER OFF WITH THE JAWS OF LIFE.

Trust me. I've been in your situation. This is the easiest, most direct, and impressive way to get it over with. There are two possibilities: one is: you win! the other is: she says "No thanks" and you can move on with your life.

Best of luck. I mean it.

Telling her really is the best situation, even if she says no and that she wants to stay friends. The idea that you want her will stay with her and things can change down the road because of it. I have been there and done that.

Good god...

You CAN be a nice guy and still get the girl. I'm a nice guy. I have the girl of my dreams. Oddly enough, I met her through Match.com and she's told me outright that there was "nothing special" about my profile. I won't tell the lie that I'm butt ugly because I'm not, but there are lots of guys who are better looking out there. Most are taller. I certainly don't impress with flash or glitz because I have none of that stuff.

What did land me a date was the fact that I asked for one, and pretty quickly. I made it clear that I liked what I knew of her and that I wanted to know more. So we went out. And have continued to go out despite the fact that she had problems reading my wants early on (I'm pretty good at hiding them without meaning to). We have a good relationship because we do communicate. If I don't get something but know she's trying to send it across, I just ask. She does the same and when I'm being my normal dense self and not noticing the subtle flares she's sending up over something, well she speaks up and tells me in short simple sentences what the problem is. It works.

In most relationships that fail, the partners both actually want for it to succeed but become disabused of the belief that it can and then it's just a matter of time before that belief asserts itself in a breakup. So long as you are willing to put forth the effort to go get that girl you've been wanting, then you shouldn't have any problem actually doing it. I think your biggest problem is that you don't know what you actually want. You want this girl, you want that girl. You have a general idea: you want A girl. Now get specific and figure out which girl you want. Then go get her and hold onto her.

There's only one solution.

Roofies.