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Reading over some of my responses to Nexa in the Bisexuality thread, I realized something about myself: Try as I might, my pimp hand is weak. I was raised pretty liberally by my boomer mother in secret from the almost-reactionary conservatism of my WW-II era father, plus I'm bicultural, so I had this idea of sex as sacred, but not always within the confines of marriage.

I realize that even when I've wanted it not to, sex meant something, and I've never had a sexual encounter that wasn't either in the confines of a relationship or didn't become one once I became sexual with the individual, like I felt I had to give it a decent go, just in case. I realize that it's considered healthy and all that, but the one experience I had where I had sex with someone I was no longer in love with was awful, emotionally speaking, and I suppose I don't know how to think of one without the other. I can't think of my body as a fun toy to toss under some random person when I haven't the foggiest who that person is-and especially when I can't escape who I am.

So I'm curious. No judgement (not that I don't expect any, but I don't plan to return it), but what have your experiences in this department been? I expect the obvious gender divide, but I'm curious to see if there has been anyone else that felt this, or maybe the opposite, someone who didn't feel emotion at all, and didn't miss it.

Oh good! My gender gap's not what I thought it would be on this subject. I feel ya, Debbie.

My primitive caveman male brain cannot overanalyze sex like this.

Yep.

You have to realize though that we're all wussy nerds here. Sooner or later Varrus will be along to tell us all how a real man like him lays down fifteen cocktail waitresses a night after impressing them with his cherrywood clocks and Renoir shirts.

Really, we know that he got drunk, tripped, fell, and knocked into a waitress, starting a domino effect.

"Caveman Lawyer" flashbacks.

"I am just a simple caveman. I was hunting mammoths when I tripped and fell into a glacier where I remained frozen for tens of thousands of years until your scientists thawed me and allowed me to go to law school. My primitive caveman mind is frightened by your 'automobiles' and 'clock-radios'..."

Not to mention your baby. Those things are chick-magnets!

No meaningless sex for me. I've only ever had sex with 1 person and I'm married to her.

Seriously. There's meaningless, and then there's utterly pointless.

I'll confess that every one night stand I've had (with one exception) I ended up feeling a lot of guilt and stress over for days, and sometimes weeks after it happened. The one exception turned into a relationship, albeit a rather odd one, mostly just a "fu[Aqua][/Aqua]ck-buddy" which was pretty fun for a while.

I'm a bit suprised that most everyone is falling into the same line more or less, as my friends think I'm an oddball. They're constantly pushing me to try to hook up with a random female just to get some. I tried explaining it to them, but I think that they believe I'm just pulling their leg. I just realized years ago that one night stands don't do it for me, and that I'd rather go without till I find someone that I can get to know and feel comfortable with first.

Granted, if the lady in question is really hot and happens to be nice as well I could probably get to know her pretty fast.

Just curious here: How old are you?

I call it "The P-Factor."