New Slant on an Old SubjectFollow

That's actually a good point. I acknowledge when I see insight. :P



Well, this is the Asylum ain't it. Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't.


To quote, if not wit, a future post:



Thank you.

Edited, Jun 24th 2006 at 3:44am EDT by MonxDoT

Life story time, and I'll try to keep it brief.

Growing up, a couple of the men in my family decided I made a good dumping ground for their rage. Not suprisingly I developed a fairly hefty fear of men's physicality. I have always been sexually attracted to men, but when I was young that fear became aversion to getting intimate. I simply couldn't be that vulnerable with a man because I wouldn't allow myself to be in a position of being abused again, and I didn't trust my judgement to choose a man who wouldn't. Make sense so far?

I also read voraciously as a youngster & was introduced to the idea of lesbianism at a young age, so when I got older the concept didn't alarm me.

The span of my life where I dated women (15+ years) I identified myself as a lesbian. These weren't simply sexual encounters. My lovers and I had regular relationships and I was pretty "out". I assumed that wasn't going to change. All this time I also found men sexually attractive, though I had no interest in acting on that attraction.

Time and a lot of introspection helped me work past my fears & I knew I could settle down on either side of the fence when choosing a life partner with equal chances of happiness. I thought to take the easy route by going hetero. Legally and socially it is easier. Emotionally I find women to be much easier to understand (kind of a no-brainer there).

The actual answer to Flea's query:

I have always had the choice in the gender of my partner, though I didn't always believe it. I believe most people are a little more bisexual than they may realize, or be comfortable admitting to themselves. We are socialized very strongly from a very young age to view homosexual contact as an abomination, so most people avoid it at all costs. It's not exactly the best way to encourage people to be true to themselves.

Because of my past I'll never consider myself "straight" (plus I still get busted periodically for checking out cute girls). Being married to a man I'm obviously not a lesbian either. This is one of the reasons I find labels to be so limiting. I'm just me. Put a label on me if it helps you figure out where I'm coming from, but know that none of them really fit.



Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 7:09pm EDT by Yanari

Wrong Post!

While I'm here though, I thought that was a very well reasoned post Yanari.

Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 7:19pm EDT by baelnic

Well I don't stop anyone else, why would I try to prevent you!

from fantasizing people, just the fantasizing.

Nexa

Yeah, Amen.

And now, I Present my Poem
Entitled
Goodbye Sex

Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 8:40pm EDT by MonxDoT

Gnawed Maraschino cheeries between the toes For All!

Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 8:50pm EDT by MonxDoT

Whip cream twinkle nose as far as I can recall

Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 9:22pm EDT by MonxDoT

Sweeties for Life1!1!

Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 9:33pm EDT by MonxDoT

But enough about Me
Let's talk about You
So?
What do you think about Me?

<SouthBeach_oooh_wooh-_oooh_wit_1998>

Ooops, almost forgot,



If you change "wife" to "husband", you're as money as
Take my Wife
Please.

Edit IV (or) V: I mean "contextually" as in da Man buying da Girl da Gift

I asked my wife where does she want to go for her anniversary?
She said
Somewhere I've never been before
I said
Ok
Try the Kitchen.

Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 9:51pm EDT by MonxDoT

Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 9:56pm EDT by MonxDoT

I take my wife everywhere
But she finds her way back

<extended_applause>

I love this crowd.

Pateint went to see a doctor
Gave him six months to live
Couldn't pay his Bill
Gave him another six months

Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 10:01pm EDT by MonxDoT

Lots of people, 90% women, that I knew in high school were bisexual, grew out of it. I think it was just trendy.

I don't know anybody who's "grown out of" being gay.

Take that as you will.