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Because so many people do place that much emotional investiture in physical intimacy?

If you want to dork multiple people, have at it. Just be sure to find partners who are okay with that.

I'm gonna go a bit further than Joph and state that if sex has no emotional attachement for you, you wouldn't and shouldn't place yourself in an exclusive relationship, be it dating someone exclusively or marrying them. What's the point?

Regular and reliable access to snatch?

Did Joph really just quote Jill Sobule? Maybe you should take Nobby's test again and anwser honestly this time.

BTW I think I broke the test, it kept telling me to refer to Sabo's results.

I'm the same way. One of my worst sexual experiences ever involved some "goodbye" sex. It wasn't even that the sex itself was awful, it was that I felt so awful for performing the act with someone I didn't love anymore.

This is where we differ then, I will have sex with just about any girl I find somewhat sexually attractive. I wouldn't dream of a meaningful relationship with a lot of the women I've slept with. <Insert obligatory giggidy goo here>

Please tell me you have a flat top or perhaps some spikey hair?

Pain killers.

I've never been the trendy type..


As an aside, the swinger movement seems to be in full up-swing these days. It's becoming even more commonplace than many would have ever suspected. (I'd cite that statement, but I'm at work.) Perhaps there are more people who think like me. Austin powers had it right all along baby. Yeah!




Edited, Jun 23rd 2006 at 3:39pm EDT by Elderon

Emotional committment is all fine and dandy (and oft can make the sex better if it isn't even the most satisfying part of a relationship), but what's with the denial [not to mention the not even so subtle judgement] about animal sexual attraction? Putting emotion on a pedestal is putting the biological baggage cart before the horse.

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I think "emotional committment" is too often used as mental prozac. Jawbox's regular access to snatch comment was far too swiftly dismissed, when it could very well accurately depict the vast majority of relationships. What about all those people out there who don't get or aren't currently with their first choice partner? "If you can't love the one you want, love the one you're with?" That's a lie and a croc brewed from the same mental prozac secretion.

Watch some PBS mammal documentaries. Cheating has a biological purpose. Committment is an artifical social construction that has evolved in strict darwinian fashion. Societies with rules against adultery were more prosperous than those without such rules. And it's easy to understand why. Care eminates from the other's suppresion of outside animal sexual instinct. That's easily proved by the opposite reaction to cheating. Exclusive private property pwnership of the partner's sexuality breeds prosperity, care, and emotional committment. But that doesn't necessarily maximize an individual's happiness, at least on an unbroken time continuum.

And don't forget about fantasy as well. It would be such fun to vividly explore in eplicit detail your partner's sexual fantasies with people you might know. Well, maybe not for the majority. Jealousy and excessive jealousy like to rear their ugly heads now and then.

What I wonder is how current times compare to past times in the percentage of the population tying committment knots while having had mutliple previous sexual partners. At least in some if not the majority of cultures virginity is an increasingly rarer commodity before long-term committment. What are the cannotlinktod {word was x-tern-al, who knew I couldn't link *that*} and subconscious emotional effects of not saving oneself for their true love for both oneself and one's partner? Some b.s. "maturity" excuse? Not to mention how about the generations growing up with the internet having vivid record of past thoughts and other (hehe) things. Pornography, and that might very well include discussions such as this, of all forms has literaly exploded in the last few decades, for good or bad, or both.

Edited, Jun 24th 2006 at 2:13am EDT by MonxDoT

I would think people would get burnt out a bit faster in a relationship if they felt they could only have sex with the single person they're involved with at the moment.

Monogamy's a bi[black][/black]tch, ainnit?

Well, apparently there is if "there's no way such brutally honest disclosure will occur."

But then again you're nuts, so whatever.