Thumbelyna the Hand wrote:
True. But there's a big difference between trying your damnedest to make a relationship work and putting a candle in sh[brown][/brown]it and calling it chocolate cake.
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The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
Thumbelyna the Hand wrote:
True. But there's a big difference between trying your damnedest to make a relationship work and putting a candle in sh[brown][/brown]it and calling it chocolate cake.
Umm...you would probably figure it out after a mouthful or two.
NephthysWanderer the Charming wrote:
The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
Thumbelyna the Hand wrote:
True. But there's a big difference between trying your damnedest to make a relationship work and putting a candle in sh[brown][/brown]it and calling it chocolate cake.
Umm...you would probably figure it out after a mouthful or two.
You would think so.
Oh come now Neph
True story.
Edited, Jun 12th 2006 at 12:41pm EST by bodhisattva
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True story.
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Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
You forgot the one saying that I would be right behind you.
SCHWING!
And the one where he links to pictures of his Pepe el Conquistador.
We are getting our own apartments.
I'm done with video games (only played my one MMO anyways)
We are still together, I agreed to a road trip down to Ottawa/Montreal in September. If all is pleasant I agreed to start doing the math/saving up for a move.
Basically realized that I am 25 and its time to grow up and start making plans. Turns out the flowers (and giant teddy bear) only made her angry cause she was planning on giving me the boot. However the phone call I gave her last night saying that I finally got what she was getting at and that she was the girl worth stepping up for managed to win her over.
I'm done with video games (only played my one MMO anyways)
We are still together, I agreed to a road trip down to Ottawa/Montreal in September. If all is pleasant I agreed to start doing the math/saving up for a move.
Basically realized that I am 25 and its time to grow up and start making plans. Turns out the flowers (and giant teddy bear) only made her angry cause she was planning on giving me the boot. However the phone call I gave her last night saying that I finally got what she was getting at and that she was the girl worth stepping up for managed to win her over.
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
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giant teddy bear
Giant teddy bear was always my weakness. I have 2 that are 4 feet tall and a third that's 3 feet tall. Hope you guys are able to work things out for the long run.
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I'm done with video games
You're still going to be poosting here though right?
Thumbelyna the Hand wrote:
You're still going to be poosting here though right?
Professor CrescentFresh wrote:
Thumbelyna the Hand wrote:
You're still going to be poosting here though right?
Then I guess he's about 695 past his deadline.
Of course.
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
Good to hear it Bodhi sorry I'm a bit late
You "quitting video games" to make specifically her, and of course, only her happy even after the enthusiasm you showed in this thread gives me a mix feeling of being happy I'm single and happy that I'm not a patsy.
Edited, Jun 13th 2006 at 11:10pm EDT by Exodus
Edited, Jun 13th 2006 at 11:10pm EDT by Exodus
I have to ask, is she a Gemini? Just pure, honest curiousity.
Queen bodhisattva wrote:
We are getting our own apartments.
I don't even have to read the rest of it to know that you're still together. Just one question: If you can't live with her now, what makes you think you can live with her at some point down the road?
The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
I don't even have to read the rest of it to know that you're still together. Just one question: If you can't live with her now, what makes you think you can live with her at some point down the road?
Everything will work out fine now.
"I started out with nothin' and I still got most of it left" - Seasick Steve
Nobby wrote:
He's quitting EQ2.
Everything will work out fine now.
Everything will work out fine now.
Well, good luck to ya, buddy. Hope the drama continues to fulfil both your needs.
In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
I'm just going to echo what some of the others have said: quitting something you obviously enjoy just to make someone else happy rarely works.
Quiting something that makes you happy to make her happy wont work. I've been there doen that. It's just going to make you unhappy and then what are you going to do? Making an agreement that you can play but not everyday to all hours of the nite helps. Or buy her an account of her own and a computer to play it on. It worked for Mr.Katie. Now he's the one who plays DAOC more than I do!
Fu[/Aliceblue]ck you Cluster 2! Fu[Aliceblue]ck you straight in the ear! You smoldering piece of STD ridden ****** spittle! Die!
Edited, Jun 14th 2006 at 11:20am EDT by Katie
Edited, Jun 14th 2006 at 11:20am EDT by Katie
Nadenu wrote:
I'm just going to echo what some of the others have said: quitting something you obviously enjoy just to make someone else happy rarely works.
I agree to a point, but personally, I'd do it, if my s/o said they were feeling that WOW/EQ2/FFXI/etc was taking up too much "us" time. I'd try to come to a compromise first of course, like setting times aside for it and so forth. But, in the end, RL > game. Always. My 47 human mage is not worth arguing over with the woman I intend to marry :P
So what hobby are you going to take up to take the place of gaming? Is she going to bi[Aliceblue][/Aliceblue]tch, whine and moan about that hobby too? Does she expect you to come home and hang on her every word until death do you part?
After saying he plays way too much, I asked Bhod how often he actually plays per night. His answer? 2 hours. While its different for everyone, IMO 2 hours is not much. Thats enough time for her to watch her shows for her entertainment and him to enjoy his game. But, whatever.
Bhod, you love this girl. You've expressed it a lot. But you have also been nonstop unhappy, unsatisfied for months, except fpr the immediate time after a great makeup.
I've seen you write this a few times. And each time it only lasts a couple of weeks.
The fundamental difference in how we view things (my contentment with where I am in life and her need to break new ground in the hope that contentment lies around the next corner) has led to a situation where as much as we like/enjoy/love each other we are gonna chafe over it. Either she is going to resent me for holding her back or I am going to resent her from pulling me away from friends/family etc.
Look, Im not trying to be a bi[Aqua][/Aqua]tch and shove this in your face. You will never hear this again, and maybe you'll resent me for dissing your GF, but despite your constant whining drama queen persona, you deserve better.I can garuntee you two will find yourself in the same situation in the near future. She has never been nor ever will be content. Its her nature. And making you feel as if you have to give up one of your only hobbies while she can keep her own entertainment is not a fair stance for a relationship. In the end, one of you will begin to resnet the other. And neither of you will find the contentment of a good, stable relationship.
I wish you luck. I hope whatever happens will be good for the both of you. But you've been riding this cycle for awhile now. The cynic in me doesnt see it ending anytime soon. I hope you can prove me wrong
Bhod, you love this girl. You've expressed it a lot. But you have also been nonstop unhappy, unsatisfied for months, except fpr the immediate time after a great makeup.
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We had a cathartic no more than 2-3 weeks ago where we had this state of the union of the relationship and she stated what she wanted and I stated what I wanted. It was sealed with a round of intense make up sex.
Needless to say it didnt stick. I feel like any futher effort would be prolonging the inevitable because in the end no matter how much I give she still suffers from the same mentality that we arent meeting some fictional standard of a relationship. Even if I somehow became the guy outside her window holding the boombox she wouldnt be happy because she doesnt realize what it takes to be happy.
Needless to say it didnt stick. I feel like any futher effort would be prolonging the inevitable because in the end no matter how much I give she still suffers from the same mentality that we arent meeting some fictional standard of a relationship. Even if I somehow became the guy outside her window holding the boombox she wouldnt be happy because she doesnt realize what it takes to be happy.
I've seen you write this a few times. And each time it only lasts a couple of weeks.
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The fundamental difference in how we view things (my contentment with where I am in life and her need to break new ground in the hope that contentment lies around the next corner) has led to a situation where as much as we like/enjoy/love each other we are gonna chafe over it. Either she is going to resent me for holding her back or I am going to resent her from pulling me away from friends/family etc.
Look, Im not trying to be a bi[Aqua][/Aqua]tch and shove this in your face. You will never hear this again, and maybe you'll resent me for dissing your GF, but despite your constant whining drama queen persona, you deserve better.I can garuntee you two will find yourself in the same situation in the near future. She has never been nor ever will be content. Its her nature. And making you feel as if you have to give up one of your only hobbies while she can keep her own entertainment is not a fair stance for a relationship. In the end, one of you will begin to resnet the other. And neither of you will find the contentment of a good, stable relationship.
I wish you luck. I hope whatever happens will be good for the both of you. But you've been riding this cycle for awhile now. The cynic in me doesnt see it ending anytime soon. I hope you can prove me wrong
Nadenu wrote:
I'm just going to echo what some of the others have said: quitting something you obviously enjoy just to make someone else happy rarely works.
She's right. Never sacrifice anything for anyone. Especially not juvenile video games for some trick that you love.
Where are your priorities?
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