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#77 Jun 11 2006 at 10:18 PM Rating: Excellent
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Queen bodhisattva wrote:
I dunno.

I've been sitting here for an hour looking at her letter.

There is the part of me that knows that its time to end it.

Then there is that crazy illogical part that remembers the good times and wants to do everything I can to make it work out so at least I can say I gave it my all.

I guess it would be easier if I had cause to hate her.



Woooo. Been through that one.

A few months ago, I went into my AIM Logs (I have dead AIM installed and it logs my chats for me) at work out of sheer boredom, and bumped into the ex's SN.

Started reading and mourned a little. For a shear moment there, I was wondering if maybe...just maybe...

Then I read the next IM. Then several that followed.

"Oh yeah. THAT'S why I'm better off. Smiley: grin"

Do yourself the favor and just break it up. A relationship is supposed to be a two-way street. If you have to make each other happy; not one of you be miserable in a lame attempt to keep the other content. Think of your own benefit; be selfish.

As much of a nice feeling it is to make someone else happy; you're happiness counts, too.
#78 Jun 11 2006 at 11:36 PM Rating: Good
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I'm going gay. I've had enough of women.

Sabo, where do I sign the charter and learn the secret handshake?


Wait, I thought you already came out... I'm confused.

At any rate, the sex is better. I've had it both ways, and trust me... boys know how to play with boys' toys better than girls do. =D
#79 Jun 12 2006 at 12:44 AM Rating: Good
Saboruto wrote:
At any rate, the sex is better. I've had it both ways, and trust me... boys know how to play with boys' toys better than girls do. =D


It all comes down to familiarity with the equipment Smiley: cool
#80 Jun 12 2006 at 6:23 AM Rating: Good
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Nexa wrote:
Queen bodhisattva wrote:

Then there is that crazy illogical part that remembers the good times and wants to do everything I can to make it work out so at least I can say I gave it my all.


Haven't you though, really? What else is there to do?


That's what I'm sayin'.
#81 Jun 12 2006 at 8:35 AM Rating: Decent
I'd wait until she said what she came to a conclusion to before you open up the break-up routine. I mean, for all you know, her friends have beat (or currently are beating) it into her that she's crazy to treat a guy, who is as obviously devoted and loyal as you are, the way she is.

If it is the case- just think of the *awesome* make-up sex :)
#82 Jun 12 2006 at 8:41 AM Rating: Good
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just think of the *awesome* make-up sex


I thought make-up sex was a myth many years ago. I was so wrong.
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#83 Jun 12 2006 at 9:53 AM Rating: Good
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Saboruto the Silent wrote:
At any rate, the sex is better. I've had it both ways, and trust me... boys know how to play with boys' toys better than girls do. =D


Girls know how to play with girls' toys better than the boys do! Smiley: tongue I think that's just an innate thing. Girls know what they like so they do that for the girls, same thing as a guy-guy situation.
#84 Jun 12 2006 at 10:11 AM Rating: Good
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If you didn't mourn a relationship that was on its tail-end, it would be like saying that you didn't love the person. I'll take being hurt and knowing that I have the potential to really love someone over numb resignation any day. The key to decision-making is thinking about what you can safely be proud of later. If you think you won't be able to look yourself in the eye if you don't give it one more shot, go ahead, but make a promise to yourself about the outcome and stick to it.

Sorry, kid. Sometimes things just suck.
#85 Jun 12 2006 at 10:14 AM Rating: Good
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I'll take being hurt and knowing that I have the potential to really love someone over numb resignation any day.


Fu[/Antiquewhite]ck that sh[Beige]it.
Numb resignation ALL THE WAY


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#86 Jun 12 2006 at 10:15 AM Rating: Good
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Sorry, kid. Sometimes things just suck.


Ain't that the truth.
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#87 Jun 12 2006 at 10:22 AM Rating: Decent
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Queen bodhisattva wrote:
Well I got home from work and found a letter telling me she is staying at her friends for a week 'thinking things over'.

blah just blah.

Quit my job, lost my girlfriend. I'm tempted to pack up and head back home and start from scratch.


Good call. Maybe your mom saved your binky and has some milk ready for you. I've heard that with enough stimulation, anyone's mammary glands can become functional again. This way you won't have to be stressed out with trying to find food for yourself either.

Dude seriously, suck it up and quit being a f'ucking baby.
#88 Jun 12 2006 at 10:23 AM Rating: Good
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while it doesnt help you now, one thing I learned from failed relationships is that we learn something vital with each one. It can be lessons on what we may have done that could have been changed, but most importantly it's also us learning what we can and can not accept in our final relationship with someone. Its always a hard lesson, and it takes time for it to sink past our subconcious, but each failed relationship is a stepping stone to finding that one true person to share our lives with.

Empty words for the present, but in hindsight, I hope they help

Edited, Jun 12th 2006 at 10:32am EST by DSD
#89 Jun 12 2006 at 10:29 AM Rating: Excellent
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Neph, I know this is the asylum but you are a ****! He never said he was running home to mommy, just "home" which is familiarity. Does that make me a baby when I moved "home" when my ex cheated on me? I had moved to a strange city to be with him, nothing wrong with moving home to regroup and get your head together. Bodhi is one of our own, we should rally to keep his spirit up.

But in asylum fashion... Bodhi have a good hearty ************ session and a hefty GFY Smiley: wink2
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#90 Jun 12 2006 at 10:38 AM Rating: Good
Queen bodhisattva wrote:
There is the part of me that knows that its time to end it.
Agreed. Do you need to borrow a cup of bleach?
#91 Jun 12 2006 at 11:04 AM Rating: Decent
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Mistress Darqflame wrote:
Neph, I know this is the asylum but you are a ****! He never said he was running home to mommy, just "home" which is familiarity. Does that make me a baby when I moved "home" when my ex cheated on me? I had moved to a strange city to be with him, nothing wrong with moving home to regroup and get your head together. Bodhi is one of our own, we should rally to keep his spirit up.


No...actually he did say he should go home.

I'm sorry for not being a better support system for you in your revaginazation process.

Bohdi bohdi, he's our man, if he can't do it, no one can!
Yay Bohdi!!! Smiley: yippee



Give me a fu'cking break.
#92 Jun 12 2006 at 11:12 AM Rating: Excellent
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That's the Nephy I know! Smiley: wink2
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#93 Jun 12 2006 at 11:31 AM Rating: Good
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Said I was tempted, not that I was going to give in.

Oh and I am a complete suck, as we speak there are roses incoming to her at work.

/shameless
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#94 Jun 12 2006 at 11:33 AM Rating: Good
Bodhi, just go out and shag another chick. It will put things into perspective for you.

Edit: That always worked for me. Great tactic used right up until I got married.



Edited, Jun 12th 2006 at 11:34am EST by Elderon
#95 Jun 12 2006 at 11:42 AM Rating: Good
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If I salvage this it will be a complete miracle.

However after a kick in the shins and some time to think about it I realize that as much as I ***** about her I do love her. Might as well try right, even if I do get rejected at least I'll have no regrets.
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#96 Jun 12 2006 at 11:42 AM Rating: Good
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Queen bodhisattva wrote:
Said I was tempted, not that I was going to give in.

Oh and I am a complete suck, as we speak there are roses incoming to her at work.

/shameless


Smiley: disappointed Even though you did that, keep us posted on what happens in the coming weeks. I'll be Smiley: yippee for ya, even though it looks like you're stuck on a Smiley: deadhorse.


Edited, Jun 12th 2006 at 11:52am EST by Thumbelyna
#97 Jun 12 2006 at 11:44 AM Rating: Decent
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Oh and I am a complete suck, as we speak there are roses incoming to her at work.

And even as you send them, from what you've said in this thread, she'll wonder why they weren't hand delivered, twice as many, or with a song.
#98 Jun 12 2006 at 11:44 AM Rating: Good
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Queen bodhisattva wrote:
If I salvage this it will be a complete miracle.

However after a kick in the shins and some time to think about it I realize that as much as I ***** about her I do love her. Might as well try right, even if I do get rejected at least I'll have no regrets.


All right, I take back my last post. If you have to walk away later, at least you'll do it with a clear conscience that you tried everything.
#99 Jun 12 2006 at 11:56 AM Rating: Good
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Oh and I am a complete suck, as we speak there are roses incoming to her at work.

And even as you send them, from what you've said in this thread, she'll wonder why they weren't hand delivered, twice as many, or with a song.

Smiley: laugh
We've all had our moments. Glass houses, people. If you haven't had your heart truly broken after trying your damnedest, you haven't lived.
#100 Jun 12 2006 at 11:59 AM Rating: Good
The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
We've all had our moments. Glass houses, people. If you haven't had your heart truly broken after trying your damnedest, you haven't lived.
Hence why he should go sleep with another girl (just for the sake of sex with a new woman). It lessens the blow.
#101 Jun 12 2006 at 11:59 AM Rating: Good
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The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
We've all had our moments. Glass houses, people. If you haven't had your heart truly broken after trying your damnedest, you haven't lived.


True. But there's a big difference between trying your damnedest to make a relationship work and putting a candle in sh[brown][/brown]it and calling it chocolate cake.
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