Thumbelyna the Hand wrote:
So what are the specifics of what's wrong? And more importantly, are you willing to work with her on fixing whatever's wrong?
I've been thinking that question over and I don't think I can properly express what I think is wrong because its tangled mess of a knot of issues.
If I had to address the core issue I would have to say its her persistant belief that in order for anything to be meaningful things must break out of the mundane into some transcendental moment.
So if I get off work early, come home and clean the house, cook her a beautiful dinner and spend the evening showering her with attention that 'nice' but in her view if I really loved her and cared I would have taken her out to dinner at some exotic restaurant followed by a evening of indepth soul sharing conversation leaving us in tears (I exagerate but you get the picture).
I realize that things have come to a head. The fundamental difference in how we view things (my contentment with where I am in life and her need to break new ground in the hope that contentment lies around the next corner) has led to a situation where as much as we like/enjoy/love each other we are gonna chafe over it. Either she is going to resent me for holding her back or I am going to resent her from pulling me away from friends/family etc.
After seriously trying to resolve the issue no headway has been made so its to the point where we know the break up is inevitable but we both really like each other and are sad about it. Plus the whole living together, 2 years invested into the relationship thing is just /blah.
Anyways my ****** has been aired, the girlfriend is spending the weekend at a girlfriends house. I think once she gets back I will do my best to end it amicably.