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of course it hurts. No matter what its going to hurt: you and him both. But your hubby needs to stand up for himself and you to her. I hear him making comments, but I dont see him telling her under no certain circumstances is her behavior acceptable. You know if it were your mom, you would verbally kick her *** for treating him like this. Why cant he?

Unfortunately, if you get involved, you will be the scapegoat. Shes sending barbs at *you* because she knows it hurts *him*. If he can not stand up and stop this, even if it means cutting off ALL communication until or id she grows up, then this will continue the rest of your relationship

Wow Katie I'm sorry that this is happening. But like DSD said, until and unless your husband tells his mother that if she doesn't stop her harrassment or attacks on you, he'll cut off all contact and supports you, the crappy status quo is going to continue.

Your MIL is threatening all that stuff because she knows it grabs your husband's attention, and for that moment, she knows that she's got him and you don't. Has he tried not fighting back and just saying "Sorry that you're having a hard time." That way, he acknowledges her, but doesn't respond to her. She's feeding off your guy's reactions. If you guys go bland on her, she might back off because she knows that she can't get a rise out of you.

But again, it's all on your husband to take some kind of step.

I think that would be highly unlikely to tell the truth. She may try but she probably wont get anywhere.

See even an imposing MIL is better than the wicked witch of the East that I got stuck with.

Average hit is approx. six grand depending on difficulty, I live in TN so a discount for no travel expenses.