Its not the access to *****, but rather the backrubs that keep me from speaking my mind.
I had tried earlier in the evening to broach the subject with her, and she got defensive and emotional and I hit the "ABORT" switch because I didnt want another night of drama.
I did talk to her later about the whole 'wanting attention only when I occupied' and my thoughts on that. Tried my best to relay that I truly am interested in what she has to say however I feel she waits until I am busy to approach for attention reasons. Put it a little more eloquently than that (writing this at 6am) and the response was positive.
I also let her know in advance that it was xp weekend for eq2 and if I was playing more than normal that was the reason, not because I was ignoring or avoiding her.
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Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
Why don't you try to include her in XP weeked? Maybe not playing the actual game, but more over showing her exactly what an XP weekend is all about, chit chatting with her about your toon, such and such.
It gives her attention and gets your toon some fights in. When you need to concentrate, let her know to hold that thought for a moment, do what you gotta do, then tell her what just happened. Make a convo out of it.
It's what I would try to do at least and hope she doesn't get bored. Hell, it would be interesting if she got into it and has her own XP weekends.
It gives her attention and gets your toon some fights in. When you need to concentrate, let her know to hold that thought for a moment, do what you gotta do, then tell her what just happened. Make a convo out of it.
It's what I would try to do at least and hope she doesn't get bored. Hell, it would be interesting if she got into it and has her own XP weekends.
I got her playing WoW for a bit. However she has the multitasking ability of a lesser ape. She couldnt figure out how to chat, got lost easily etc so she got very frustrated and then I had to deal with that frustration.
I quickly got her to stop.
Perhaps I should buy her a crochet set or an easy bake oven?
I quickly got her to stop.
Perhaps I should buy her a crochet set or an easy bake oven?
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
Why don't you try getting her hooked on City of Heroes?
It's a simple MMO. No way in heck you can get lost (mostly because the game actually points out where you are going) and she can have tons of fun with character creation.
It's not that bad of a game, really.
It's a simple MMO. No way in heck you can get lost (mostly because the game actually points out where you are going) and she can have tons of fun with character creation.
It's not that bad of a game, really.
The fact is she is not a gamer.
I'm not much of a video gamer myself, I usually have my one MMO that I play and thats it. Sometimes I fire up Total War and play out a campaign.
I'm not much of a video gamer myself, I usually have my one MMO that I play and thats it. Sometimes I fire up Total War and play out a campaign.
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
Mold her into one! 
On a serious note, alright...so getting her hooked on a MMO is out...does she have her own friends? Anyone she talks to? Tell her to go out and have a girl's night out.
If she has 0 friends other then you...then...I feel for you.
On a serious note, alright...so getting her hooked on a MMO is out...does she have her own friends? Anyone she talks to? Tell her to go out and have a girl's night out.
If she has 0 friends other then you...then...I feel for you.
Oh she has friends, I encouraged her to sign up for capoeira which she does with a gal pal. That only gets her out of my hair on Thursdays though.
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
Queen bodhisattva wrote:
I got her playing WoW for a bit. However she has the multitasking ability of a lesser ape. She couldnt figure out how to chat, got lost easily etc so she got very frustrated and then I had to deal with that frustration.
I quickly got her to stop.
Perhaps I should buy her a crochet set or an easy bake oven?
I quickly got her to stop.
Perhaps I should buy her a crochet set or an easy bake oven?
Not to state the obvious, but I think I would have self-esteem issues too if I lived with someone who so clearly expressed their opinion that I was less intelligent and beneath them so frequently. You sound so resentful toward her already that I just can't imagine how you have any hope at all of a satisfying life with her.
Nexa
“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
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Queen bodhisattva wrote:
I got her playing WoW for a bit. However she has the multitasking ability of a lesser ape. She couldnt figure out how to chat, got lost easily etc so she got very frustrated and then I had to deal with that frustration.
I quickly got her to stop.
Perhaps I should buy her a crochet set or an easy bake oven?
I quickly got her to stop.
Perhaps I should buy her a crochet set or an easy bake oven?
Not to state the obvious, but I think I would have self-esteem issues too if I lived with someone who so clearly expressed their opinion that I was less intelligent and beneath them so frequently. You sound so resentful toward her already that I just can't imagine how you have any hope at all of a satisfying life with her.
Aye, however I am just venting via an internet forum. It in no way reflects my action in real life.
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
Queen bodhisattva wrote:
Aye, however I am just venting via an internet forum. It in no way reflects my action in real life.
You don't think she can sense it somewhat? Alternatively, you don't think she might ever read any of this?
Nexa
“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
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Queen bodhisattva wrote:
Aye, however I am just venting via an internet forum. It in no way reflects my action in real life.
You don't think she can sense it somewhat? Alternatively, you don't think she might ever read any of this?
Thats a stupid question!
jeeez girls are such a pain.
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
Queen bodhisattva wrote:
Oh she has friends, I encouraged her to sign up for capoeira which she does with a gal pal. That only gets her out of my hair on Thursdays though.
WTF is capoeira? Is it a sexual thing? If so, pics plz!
Some people are like slinkies, they aren't really good for anything, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Capoeira
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
If you arent mentally compatible it wont work. If you really feel the way you speak about her, let the poor girl go. She deserves better, because no matter what you say I bet she KNOWS how you feel. Thats almost abuse in a way. I'm not saying you do it on purpose or you ever meant for it to hurt her, but I bet it affects her more than you realize.
The One and Only Katie wrote:
If you arent mentally compatible it wont work. If you really feel the way you speak about her, let the poor girl go. She deserves better, because no matter what you say I bet she KNOWS how you feel. Thats almost abuse in a way. I'm not saying you do it on purpose or you ever meant for it to hurt her, but I bet it affects her more than you realize.
<Must Resist Urge to Troll>
In all honesty we get along just fine, I'm not going to dump her, and we are both happy with the relationship. The fact that the worse thing I have to complain about is her buggin me while I am busy should be a sign of how good things are.
/bodhi out
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
lol Well good luck. It could be worse. You could wake up one day and find your sleeping next to Niobia...
Queen bodhisattva wrote:
Its not the access to *****, but rather the backrubs that keep me from speaking my mind.
I had tried earlier in the evening to broach the subject with her, and she got defensive and emotional and I hit the "ABORT" switch because I didnt want another night of drama.
I did talk to her later about the whole 'wanting attention only when I occupied' and my thoughts on that. Tried my best to relay that I truly am interested in what she has to say however I feel she waits until I am busy to approach for attention reasons. Put it a little more eloquently than that (writing this at 6am) and the response was positive.
I also let her know in advance that it was xp weekend for eq2 and if I was playing more than normal that was the reason, not because I was ignoring or avoiding her.
I had tried earlier in the evening to broach the subject with her, and she got defensive and emotional and I hit the "ABORT" switch because I didnt want another night of drama.
I did talk to her later about the whole 'wanting attention only when I occupied' and my thoughts on that. Tried my best to relay that I truly am interested in what she has to say however I feel she waits until I am busy to approach for attention reasons. Put it a little more eloquently than that (writing this at 6am) and the response was positive.
I also let her know in advance that it was xp weekend for eq2 and if I was playing more than normal that was the reason, not because I was ignoring or avoiding her.
now that its past 6am, more details on how both convos went please?
The One and Only Katie wrote:
lol Well good luck. It could be worse. You could wake up one day and find your sleeping next to Niobia...
One day I clicked on her Myspace page, I frankly have to admit that the picture fits the posting persona precisely (hurray alliteration) in that she looked a)crazy as a sh[Aqua][/Aqua]ithouse ***** b)not smart in fact border line remedial math drop out candidate. Lets not forget coyote ugly.
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
Details?
Well I was an idiot and tried bringing it up right off the bat when she got home from work. Not a good plan, she started to get snarky and defensive so I backed off.
After an hours cool down period I suggested taking a walk to a nice coffee place. It was nice out, we chatted about nothing important and had a good time. When we got home I rubbed her feet and when I was sure the edge was off I said my piece, she saw where I was coming from and it was resolved amicably.
Hopefully it sticks.
Well I was an idiot and tried bringing it up right off the bat when she got home from work. Not a good plan, she started to get snarky and defensive so I backed off.
After an hours cool down period I suggested taking a walk to a nice coffee place. It was nice out, we chatted about nothing important and had a good time. When we got home I rubbed her feet and when I was sure the edge was off I said my piece, she saw where I was coming from and it was resolved amicably.
Hopefully it sticks.
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
All you can do is hope and what you think is right. Good luck.
Unrelated story,
I have to work Saturday morning so myself and the girlfriend went out for a walk and about 2km away is an amazing ice cream place. We grabbed some icecream and sat down on a bench. Some person dropped a napkin on the grass and just kept on walking.
10 minutes later this really nicely dressed couple in their thirties walks by and the lady picks it up. At first I though she was gonna throw it away. The she started using it. Gross stuff.
I have to work Saturday morning so myself and the girlfriend went out for a walk and about 2km away is an amazing ice cream place. We grabbed some icecream and sat down on a bench. Some person dropped a napkin on the grass and just kept on walking.
10 minutes later this really nicely dressed couple in their thirties walks by and the lady picks it up. At first I though she was gonna throw it away. The she started using it. Gross stuff.
Bode - 100 Holy Paladin - Lightbringer
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