Queen bodhisattva wrote:
I've been mulling it over for a couple weeks now. Usually given enough thought and time things tend to figure themselves out. Its just not happening this time.
She has this whole thing where she only wants my attention if I am occuppied (reading, playing a game, going out with friends). If I dont drop what I am doing for her then I am a bad boyfriend.
She has this whole thing where she only wants my attention if I am occuppied (reading, playing a game, going out with friends). If I dont drop what I am doing for her then I am a bad boyfriend.
This is something she could work on, and that counseling could be very helpful for. I'm assuming you've already discussed this issue with her at length...
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She is obtuse. Example she read Life of Pi and didnt get the whole animals being representation of people aspect even though its clearly explained at the end.
Do you find yourselves to be generally incompatable intellectually? If so, that can be a very difficult thing to deal with and if you really feel this way about her than it's also likely that you'll both end up resenting the other. This actually sounds more like your issue to deal with than hers, in my opinion.
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She is unhappy with various aspects of her life and tends to have a "grass is greener" type approach to pursuing happiness. "If only I did this or moved here" I would be happy.
That sort of escapist mentallity is fairly common, and again, counseling sounds like a really good option for her if she doesn't seem capable of dealing with it on her own. I admit that I have my own issues with this personally, but I suck it up and deal and realize that I'll probably just never be happy, hahaha.
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Part of me knows that these are probably issues that are too big to get resolved however I have been going out with the girl for just 1 month shy of two years an despite these things I really like her and hold out hope that somehow things will work out.
2 years is a long time. The rest of your life will hopefully be alot longer.
Nexa