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Sab, this might not sound like consolation, but here goes.

I had the same reaction from the 1st former Mrs Nobby's mom when we made our announcement. You'd have thought we'd just told her there was no ********* left in the bathroom.

As time moved on we became firm friends. Ironically, when our marriage went all wonky, my mother-in-law was an absolute star and helped me through it.

Only just put the phone down from her asking if I need a helping hand while I'm out of action.

Always hope, mate.

And no, before anyone asks the question. I didn't, you sick bastards.

You can pick your SO's, but unfortunately you can't pick their relatives.

I don't think I've ever had a girlfriend that had a cool family. And given how disfunctional my family is, my standards aren't that high.

Thanks for the advice and feedback, everybody. You guys are cheaper than a therapist, and a lot more blunt. I'm trying really hard not to say anything to her, because I don't want to hurt her feelings (which would happen) and I doubt anything would change. She has done some truly wonderful things to make me feel like part of the family, but this isn't the first time she's made me feel like sh[Aqua][/Aqua]it either.

Back when we were still living in the same town as Nate's parents, I was looking for work. Since Warner Robins GA is an airforce town and everyone's on active duty, there aren't many jobs available (all the desperate housewives and military brats snatched up most of the work in town). I had applied as a location manager for Journeys, the shoe store in a mall near you. When Debra heard that I'd applied, she went to the website to check up on me and see if there really was a manager position listed, because she didn't believe me. And another time, she accused me of having spilled a bottle of champagne all over the refrigerator. Turns out, she hadn't put the cork back in properly and pressure shot it out of the bottle and into the door of the fridge, where she couldn't find it. It's always just stupid stuff, and it's incredibly insulting.

The worst one was last Thanksgiving, when she insisted Nate go with her to her side of the family's dinner but told him that she didn't want me there. She's basically told him that he's not allowed to come out to her side of the family for fear of how her parents would react. When we were having the wedding talk yesterday, Nate said he wanted his uncle Don and aunt Nicci there, and her exact response was "Well... let me think on that and decide if it's a good idea to tell him or not." Is murder ALWAYS wrong? =(

You could not tell them, but it's kind of awkward for them to find out at the wedding.

Trust me on this one, 'k?

There is a gulf of difference between accepting your child's gayness, and getting excited at a their gay wedding.

Fair enough. There's also a difference between being excited, and being gracious. Even if she's not over the moon about her son marrying another man, she could put herself out and empathize with their excitement.

I think I expect too much from people.

Isn't that what I stated was my stance on marriage?
Unless you count the kitties as children, 'family' isn't really an issue for some time.

So what? If you marry someone and an accident renders you infertile, you're not a family? Spouses don't count?

Argh sorry to hear that Sab. I would have been so insulted too. But congrats for the engagement. And remember that the difference between in-laws and outlaws is that outlaws are wanted! :P