So yesterday the boyfriend and I drove down to visit his mom and stepdad and to take her out for Mother's Day. We also decided that yesterday was the perfect opportunity to make the big announcement to them that we're getting married. We "stepped outside for a cigarette" to run through it one more time, and we were all grins and butterflies as we walked back into the house holding hands and asking them to take a seat.
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Nathan: "Well, the reason we wanted to sit you guys down is because we have an announcement to make. We've decided to get married!"
Nathan's Mother: "Oh, really?"
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Now, as if that underwhelming reaction wasn't enough, in the same conversation she brought up the fact that Target has jeans on sale right now. We were expecting waterworks and congratulations and excitement, and instead we got a recommendation for a nice bed and breakfast in the mountains that we could have it at. Apparently this place is owned by two lovely gay men, and Nathan's parents stayed there a couple of years ago and thought it was just wonderful. When we said that we were planning on having a church wedding, her response was "Oh, well they don't do that."
The rest of the evening was a blur of fake smiles and me trying very hard not to say anything inappropriate. Am I wrong in getting this insulted? And Nathan's crushed. This is the biggest announcement of his life, and she treated it like he had said "We're getting a cat." Even his stepfather hopped up and hugged him (and me) and congratulated us. His mother never said congratulations, she never took an interest... I was very insulted, especially after I've tried so hard for her to like me and accept me. It was obvious that this was a big deal to us, and she brushed it off as a minor thing. Why would anyone do that? Anyone have any mother-in-law-murdering jokes?