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I had the misfortune of starting a relationship with someone 3 weeks before their birthday. This leads me to wonder what I buy a girl for a gift that I don't even know all that well, because I am sure it is expected.

Thinking something more personal than a gift card and less personal than something slutty. Any suggestions?

How old are you and the little filly?

I suck at buying gifts for people I do know. I can't imagine the frustration I would have at buying someone a gift that I pretty much just met.

I did get this one chick a box of Lucky Charms for her birthday once. It went over suprisingly well. Apparently she used to keep baggies of Lucky Charms in her locker as a snack in High School, and she thought I remembered.

Easy.
Extravagent/classy dinner, walk in the park/by the river side during sunset.

Saves you the trouble of trying to find an acceptable present on such short notice, and leaves a good memory with her. win/win.

Flowers. Nothing expensive or frilly. Avoid the single rose or anything red.

If she has no plans dinner the night of or before. Take her out and do something that day.

If you are going out to the bar that night buy her drinks but at no time put the moves on her. Play the part of the gentleman.

Those are tried and true moves that work most of the time.

I wouldn't go the breakfast cereal route but Kakar does have a point: perhaps you've listened enough in the past 21 days to determine if she has hobbies, interests, a field of academic study? An item or book related to one of those may go over well. Nothing too weighty but something that shows you've been doing more for the last three weeks than staring at her tits. If the gift seems "not expensive enough", you can always up the ante with flowers along side.

Well, if you guys were in love, the snow would melt before you, flowers would bloom, birds would sing, fawns would nuzzled her hand and the banshee of Karen Carpenter would follow you about, singing "Top of the World".

So get on that.

Taking her to dinner with flowers is the perfect gift for this stage of the relationship. The dinner would also be an appropriate time to bring up whether she is into **** sex; you said 3 weeks right, that's about the perfect time. Remember its always better to ask her (preferably after the first bottle of wine) than to play the oops wrong hole game later that night.


Edited, Tue Jan 24 15:46:35 2006 by fhrugby

I think the better question here is, "Why are you in a relationship with an individual you don't know all that well?"

Honeslty, if you know the person well enough to be in a relationship with them you should be able to get them something. Even if the relationship is in it's early stage you should know something about the person. Likes and dislikes seem to be something you should know about them.

Harry Anderson's evil twin wrote:

No, no - that's the best advice yet!

Never thought of trying that for a birthday. Usually reserved it for anniverseries and easter.

Head over to the bookstore and buy her a book on how to make floating shots. Ties in nicely to her turning 21 and a book is pretty neutral in this case.

I would go the route of taking her out someplace. It's harder to misconstrue than a gift that could be taken in an unintended way.

As Joph mentioned if you have paid any attention to her interests over the last three weeks you should be able to go from there. A museum, shopping somewhere besides the local mall, a concert, dancing....don't forget the card and maybe a small bouquet of flowers (no roses). Hey, if you do wanna combine it with drinking you could always go to one of them beer museums...I'm sure they still have them in Wisconsin don't they?

Chances are at the three week stage you're still 'taking' her out anyways as opposed to dragging her to a buddies house to watch football and get drunk.