Is that considered cheating? How should I feel? What to do?Follow

Well I appreciate all the input. Some was useful and raised some interesting points, and some indicated that the postee was a prick who didn't bother to read or look into the original post.

Some -as usual- are the regular asylumese attention-whores and funny-wannabes.

But I brought it up, in the Asylum no less, so it was expected.

I'd like to thank klyia though. He/She raised the best point.

Isn't this the same **** who was bragging to this forum about a $30,000 Faberge pen?

Greg wrote:

Whenever I read these "epic" threads, the only thing that comes to my mind is laughter from the exquisite bullshi[/i]t that flows from your keyboard to this forum.

Because this post is every Asylumite's dream, ripe with idiotic behavior, retarded life-choices, and all set on beautiful backdrop of the interwebs. Your post is full of the stuff that Dracoid whacks the proverbial willy to, the imagery is the ***-rag of proof, and your feelings are the butt-plug in Spinshark's over-used and abused ****.

You and your stupid choices are the reason that the Asylum exists. Your complete ignorance of anything logical and realistic is why we are here.

Thank you for your contribution.


Kick this ***** to the curb, chalk it up to stupidity, and move on. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You'll have a laugh about this someday.

Think of it this way...if she wasn't hot, would you even care?

Are you seriously that clueless? Reread Flea's post. OK. Read it again. Slower. Now, read it one more time.

Hostile as you may think, it's about the best advise you can get that will actually HELP you, versus bullsh[/b]it "oh, yes, e-love is in the air."

Did you honestly think that she'd wake up one morning and seemingly just completely forget that she spent 5 years with what she thinks/doesn't think is the love of her life? Hell, if she can forget someone she knew for 5 years, what makes YOU hot sh[/b]it? Your choice of font and color is more captivating than his?





On a side note. Flea, I <3 you. Dump your SO and let's run away together.

Better hope you have good security features with your mail client.

I concur with one of Flea's points - in this situation, you are the other man. As she had not yet fully reconciled herself to the breakup, you cannot hold her responsible for "cheating" with you by remaining part of her existing relationship.

Breaking up isn't easy to do, particularly in live-in arrangements that have years of duration behind them. Her ex, Rich, had every right to try and make amends - though from the reading of it, these came off as too little, too late (this is often the case).

Similarly it's hard to fault her for trying for three days to see how things could be. You would want her to make damn sure she really meant to leave before she ditched for UAE, right? Better to spend three days prior to her leaving sorting it out than to have regrets and second thoughts after moving to your country.


The other man is a hard role to play, as you're the male version of a homewrecker. On the one hand you can promise the woman happiness and fulfillment, which you'll probably mean until you have some kind of fight. On the other hand, you're intruding into an existing relationship, be it happy or not, and your influence has brought things to an end.

When the infatuation wanes and you have your first arguments, you may suddenly find yourself cherishing the independance you sacrificed when you moved out of single life. You may find all kinds of fun and interesting reasons to blame the impending breakup on her. Hell, for all I know, you're already setting up an exit strategy of sorts by dwelling on this subject before she's come to join you.

The hostility, as you put it, is the fact that you came into the Asylum to seek advice. You could have Google'd for a forum that strictly deals with online relationships and post there. But you didn't. You opened up the door, issued an invitation, and we walked right on in. Don't get all pissy because some people decided to sh[sm][/sm]it in your cornflakes.

I almost read that entire post.

Samira hit the nail on the head so I thought I would relate some stories:

My Friends mother met a man online, left his dad and moved to England. Six years later she died of Crohns disease.

This one absolute hog of a girl from my home town posted a picture of a prettier girl when online flirting. The guy flew over half the country to meet her and found out what she looked like and the drama hit the fan. Absolutely fantastic.

I had an online girl thing that worked out for a bit once.

Of course, she wasn't all that far.*



*wasn't all that far: she was driving distance, and by driving, I mean 15 minutes.

Fixed.