Patrician wrote:
There is a big hoohar in the UK at the moment about a poll where a sizeable portion of people believe a woman is partly to blame if she is raped having been drunk/flirtatious/wearing provocative clothing etc.
Linky Uber un-PC opinion to have. Shocking says Amnesty International.
But is it? Recently, I was mugged, and although I was a victim of crime, I partly blame myself as I definitely put myself in a situation where I was a very vulnerable and tempting target, and it was entirely avoidable. I have learnt a lesson as a result.
few things here.
1. RAPE is nothing to do with sex.
2. Rape and a mugging are 2 completely different things.
3. RAPE has nothing to do with sex. oh did i say that already...
4. Rape has nothing to do with sex... cant say that enough because it is a proven FACT.
clothes or the lack there of have nothing to do with a womens being a victum of RAPE/Sexual Assult(SA). Actions, flirting, drinking, etc. have nothing to do with SA.
5. RAPE and SA are all 100% about power.
i could go into a HUGE discertation on the criminal mind when it comes to rapist but to cut things real short, ill just give you some basic ways of reducing the odds of becoming a SA victum.
some stats:
1 in 3 females will be SA in their life time.
every day the average person comes within 100 yards of a rapist.
1 in 6 males will be SA in their life time.
those who fight back have better then a 90% chance of getting away without major injury.
that vast majority of rapeist will not kill you.
roughly 3-5% of all rapiest will kill.
the average RAPE lasts, get ready for this one, 4 - 6 HOURS...
now some ways to avoid being a victum of a SA crime.
1. be aware of your surroundings.
2. if you go out, go out with friends and COME HOME with those same friends. do not accept a ride from someone you just met at the party/bar/club/concert/etc...
3. always have enough money on you for a phone call and or a taxie.
4. in todays world of the cell phone, always keep your charged and minute free to make calls.
5. think before you act.
6. if uncomfortable, go someplace different.
7. being in a crowd is ok as long as the crowd is THERE. if the crowd moves, you have to move with the crowd.
example: you are at a buss stop with several other people. all of the people get on a bus that you are not wanted to get on, but you think youa re being fallowed. get on that bus and go were ever it goes. you can get off that bus later.
8. if you think you are being followed, cross the street.
9. DO NOT TAKE SHORT CUTS THROUGH ALLIES OR BETWEEN CARS OR NEAR SHRUBS ETC...
10. avoid blind corners and large pillars. if you can not see around it, avoid it. that does not mean you can not walk around the corner, just dont be close enough to it to get blitzed by a supprise attack.
11. do not tell someone you just met to much information about yourself. First name is all they really need. they do not need to know were you work, or who you work for, or what part of town you live in, or if you have a roommate, etc... none of their business YET. someday that may be important information for them, but not on the first date, not while at the bar/club/1st date/etc...
12. when out drinking, keep your hand over your drink at all times. never turn your back on your drink and if you do, toss it out and buy a new one. not worth being the target of the "date rape pill/drug"
in short the drug is oderless, tasteless, and colorless, and worst of all leaves ZERO trace for the medical field to track. only way to know you have been the victum of this drug is the side affects of lack of memory and a few other feelings of numbness in the limbs and feeling unrested from the night before even though you have been asleep for up to 8-14hrs. also having your cloths off or in disaray when you do not remember taking them off.
anyways, ill say it again
RAPE IS NOT SEX, IT IS ABOUT POWER and that being said and that also being FACT, then a woman can not be "asking for it" by her actions, dress, or words. NO means NO if more happens past NO, then it is RAPE and that is a crime.