Question for the parents, Part DeuxFollow

Sister?

I awlays got the "If I have to tell your Father..."

That sentence was never completed a single time that my brother and I lived at home. Hell, some of my friends parents would threaten to tell my Father and they'd behave. He scared the everloving hell out of all of us without even trying.

I don't recall a single time he ever told me I had it coming that I didn't get it after supper. He could tell me at 11:00 in the morning and let me sweat it out all day until after supper. (Kindly chap, he never put me into condition to eat supper standing or sent me to bed without supper. He just striped my *** after supper, and good, too.) You'd think we would have learned that there was no getting off assbeatin row, but my brother and I would try anything and everything under the sun to make amends to no avail.

In the long run, I think that the inevitability of the session was good for our outlook on life, but in the short term it was terrifying as hell. If my old man had ever striped your ***, you'd understand what I mean.

As far as putting up with other people's kids, I mostly don't do it. I'll remove myself before I start looking for something to brain the parent with. I (think I) know how to teach the child to behave, but it's not my job to deal with their kid. If I wanted to do that, I'd take a job as a nanny or have my own rugmonkey(s).

I have Tourrete's syndrome, and when people around me get all jittery and loud, my Tourrete's bothers the hell outta me. So if some little kid is yelling it sounds like


Kid: "Mommmy!"

Me: *****************

Kid: "I wanna toy!"

Me: "***!" *twitch*

Mom: "No honey, maybe later"

Me: *twitch*

Kid: "I wanna toy NOW!"

Me: "I want some GODDAMN BALLS!"

Mom: "No honey"

Kid: *stomping* "NOW MOMMY!"

Me: "You can go fu[/b]ck [b]yourself, you ****-craving SH[b][/b]IT *****!!!!"

Me: *twitch*

Kid: "Mommy, that man is scaring me"

Mom: "Lemme go talk to him"

Mom: *tap-tap tap-tap tap-tap tap-tap*

"Excuse me sir, you're frightening my child"

"You know what else is frightening?"

"What?"

Me: "SCANDINAVIAN **** WAFFLES"






I'm not joking, this is usually what it's like.

This thread made me cry laughing.

Scandanavian ****-waffles and goblin children, lol

But seriously, Some kids have their weakpoints where they'll totally go quiet.

My best friend was always able to take his 2 year old to the movies all the time. The child was literally entranced by the screen when the movie started.

Also, I knew this one guy's kid, no matter how bad he was crying/screaming, would go into a quiet trance-like state when placed in front of a video game screen.




Edited, Tue Nov 22 02:41:08 2005 by Takumaku

Edited, Tue Nov 22 02:45:27 2005 by Takumaku

I don't see where the trend has changed from parents watching over their kids expecting to take care of them, to expecting places of business and commerce to do it for them. When I was growing up, I would have recieved the death by wooden spoon out in section A-7 of the mall, if I was acting out of line. How many of us were asked multiple times throughout our childhood, "Do you want to go for a walk?"

Personally, I think the manager has every right to let people know what he expects from his customers when they enter his place of business. It is not as if his store is a required visit; if people do not like the atmosphere or attitude he is attempting to promote, then don't come into the store, simple as that.

I don't understand why parents let their kids run around like spoiled brats in today's society. Maybe its the threat that they are worried about legal action, charges of abuse, or something equally ridiculous*, I don't know. But there comes a line when you need to put your kid in check, before he starts listening to 50 cent and walk around like he is the original gangsta in a predominatley white neighborhood.

*Yes, abuse is a horrible thing and it is prevelant in society. But sometimes kids need a good smack on the rear to get them in line. Hell, worked for me.


Edited, Tue Nov 22 09:10:05 2005 by Credos

Forget the proof. I just want to hang out in the booth across from you in a Chucky Cheese's. I would find this highly entertaining, right up there with cop watching.

hence why I said in my comment unless you see a case for possible DSS...

It was abusive not because of the method, but the frequency and the seeming divide between the behavior and the rate of punishment. At one point, this kid reached out to take something off a table to look at it, and his mother creamed at him and smacked him on his hand. HARD. Seemed a bit excessive and like she was just strung wayyyyy too tight.

These are my thoughts exactly.

I have a six year old and a two year old. My son (six year old) is old enough now to know when I mean business and is easily settled down. My daughter is naturally very well behaved, if she is crying it is because she is either hungry/thirsty, or needs her diaper changed (just started potty training).

There are times when things get a bit outta hand, mom will hiss at them and it usually works. If it doesn't, I will get the "dad help me out here" from her, at which point a nice stern "knock it off" will shut them up. Daddy doesn't play and if mom tells my son "wait 'till your father gets home" he knows he's in deep **** now.

Now the issue is getting him to behave at school. He decided it was ok to slap a girl in his class the other day, I was livid and he got his butt whipped good. Thankfully the need for spankings are few and far between at Filter's house as I really don't like doing it, but I suppose that is for another thread entirely.


Long post, but to summarize:
If your kids cannot be controlled, leave them at home. No one else deserves to listen to them raising hell.

Right-O. At that age a kid should understand why his mother doesn't want him reaching out for things and a quick explanation would go a long way. If you tell a child that breaking something will come out of his allowance, he will probably put it down. I think in a couple of cases a hiss and a "If you touch one more thing, we're leaving and no McDonald's for you" type of thing would have served her better. It just seemed like she couldn't even handle the child making noise, and the more noise he made or the more he acted out, the more violent and insane she seemed to get. I had visions of her drowning him in the tub when she got home.