Danalog the Vengeful Programmer wrote:
Totem wrote:
Here's some free advice for all you who are single and never been married: Do. Not. Marry. A. Divorcee'. Especially. One. With. Kids.
Extra advice from observations of my fiancee's family:
Never marry a widow(er) whose spouse died under a year ago. Re-bound ahoy!
It's ironic. My wife spent 4 to 5 years each, with 2 different men and had 1 child with each of them, but did not marry the fathers of her first 2 children. There were plans to marry but it ended before that happened. Then a year after she left her second child's father, and a year after I left my cheating ex-wife, we met. In 9 months we were pregnant (Planned pregnancy. Not accidental) and 12 months after we met we were married. So after nearly 10 years, spending solid time with 2 men and having children with them and plans on marriage, she married neither. With me, we were married with planned child within 1 year. Now, 10 1/2 years later (We celebrate 10 years of marriage in May 2006) we are still very much in love, extremely happy with eachother and enjoying life to the fullest raising our 2 boys (9 and 5 years old. My step-children live with other family members now after we had them for a long time).
Moral of this story: Sometimes a re-bound can be from either side or sometimes both sides, and might actually work.
Our secret? We weren't looking for someone when we met. And no, sparks didn't fly immediately and fireworks did not go off the first day we met. We actually dated and became friends before we even considered sleeping together or becoming "boyfriend/girlfriend".
In closing I will leave you all with something said to my wife and I during our wedding ceremony spoken to us by the Retired Mayor of Daytona Beach/Justice of the Peace:
"When you learn to become true friends first, and then lovers, then and only then will you succeed in marriage."
Regards,
Edited, Wed Nov 9 20:03:38 2005 by Holllow