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The problem isn't the video game, it's the relationship. I wish I could give you some magical answer as to how to fix it, but that's between you two. Right now escapism is his mistress.
Oh, I am aware of that. I am willing to bet Thumb is as well, and I started posting how I am dealing with it because, well, maybe it will help one or both of us, who knows. Unlike Thumb, we do not have children yet, so that part is a non-issue.
After looking very, very hard at our relationship (which is otherwise quite happy and normal) I think 99% of our problems stem from deployment and what it does to your head. Or maybe just the army in general, I dunno. He is aware of the fact that being in Iraq did something to him. He went to some medical "thing" where they asked if he had mental issues stemming from deployment, and he immediatly said he is yelling at his wife too much. He set up all of these counseling appointments with mental health, totally without my prompting. Then...the next deployment came up. We were really doing great, honestly. This bombshell of "you are getting extended and going again" hit, and he shut down and shut me out. He went from "lets work this out" to "leave me alone" overnight.
Sorry to rant, and I am not even sure if that made any sense. It just bothers me. I keep this hope alive that he will go, come home, be out of the army, and eventually all will be okay.
I am figuring that there is something quite similar going on with your husband, Thumb. But who knows.