Strategies I've tried:
1: Hubby doesn't like wireless controller.
2: Setting up a schedule was adhered too for a bit, but then it fell to the wayside.
3: Tried the sex activities, but once said activities are done, he'll rush back to the games.
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Are they duo games or single player? If duo, any teeny weenie chance you could try playing with him?
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Edited, Mon Nov 7 17:55:05 2005 by DSD
Sweet Hosanna!!! Reading this thread with Niboobia in it, is like sitting on a city bus between Sybil and your average homeless lunatic who talks to signposts.
Ohh and Thumbelyna what Elinda said.
Ohh and Thumbelyna what Elinda said.
My husband and I have the "video game problem," and he also will swear that me on the couch surfing the internet and him playing Socom III or whatever else is spending time together. I blame it on some sort of male/female miscommunication. If you come up with a solution, I would love to hear it.
Tolerating the game because that is how he relaxes after work backfired, because then he decided he had free reign to just log on from the time he walked in the door until bed. Then I make the excuse "he is very unhappy at work and escaping", but that doesn't help us out at all. He always comes back with, "what are we going to do instead, watch TV?" and if we do that, he is so tired from work he passes out. Heh! The times that the playstation is not around, I feel like we are much happier as a couple.
Yes I play games, but I put real life first in a way he seems to refuse to.
Oh, I've played some of the games with him, but I can't play the games for hours on end. There's other things around the house to do like laundry, cooking, homework with the kids. I'm also taking classes to get my second degree and will be starting on my thrid degree. So my time is a tad crunched.
Oh, and Niobia, good manners bid me to thank you for the PM where you stated
I'm glad that you pointed out that I had a very valid post. I wish I could say the same.
Oh, and Niobia, good manners bid me to thank you for the PM where you stated
Quote:
You have a very valid post and rather then continue to contribute to it going to hell by a bunch of morons I decieded to PM.
It sounds like he is addicted to the video game. I went througha stage like this with FFXI (I just quit it a few months ago and now my character is permenently GONE) Its easy to get sucked into these games.
You two look beautiful together. 9 years is past the worry zone of a military marriage (3-5 is when we typical divorce) losing a wife to cancer is rougha nd you are to be commended for adopting his sons & being a good mother to them.
I hope he gets a clue that real life is more important that video games.
Alot of folks here dont understand the bed of nails a military wife sits upon. even when they are with us, we know that at any point in time someone can call them up & make them do something. Nomatter how much they love us the military will always come first.
Can you play the game with him? would that help? What about deleteing the game & his account and destroying the disk or telling him if he doesnt shape up thats what will happen. That game wont keep his bed warm or give him hot meals, that game wont hold him when he's hurt or offer a strong shoulder to share his burdens.
I wish you the best.
It sounds like he is addicted to the video game. I went througha stage like this with FFXI (I just quit it a few months ago and now my character is permenently GONE) Its easy to get sucked into these games.
You two look beautiful together. 9 years is past the worry zone of a military marriage (3-5 is when we typical divorce) losing a wife to cancer is rougha nd you are to be commended for adopting his sons & being a good mother to them.
I hope he gets a clue that real life is more important that video games.
Alot of folks here dont understand the bed of nails a military wife sits upon. even when they are with us, we know that at any point in time someone can call them up & make them do something. Nomatter how much they love us the military will always come first.
Can you play the game with him? would that help? What about deleteing the game & his account and destroying the disk or telling him if he doesnt shape up thats what will happen. That game wont keep his bed warm or give him hot meals, that game wont hold him when he's hurt or offer a strong shoulder to share his burdens.
I wish you the best.
I'm glad that you pointed out that I had a very valid post. I wish I could say the same.
Quote:
Nomatter how much they love us the military will always come first.
My husband would find that statement hilarious.
Thumbelyna wrote:
Oh, I've played some of the games with him, but I can't play the games for hours on end. There's other things around the house to do like laundry, cooking, homework with the kids. I'm also taking classes to get my second degree and will be starting on my thrid degree. So my time is a tad crunched.
Oh, and Niobia, good manners bid me to thank you for the PM where you stated
I'm glad that you pointed out that I had a very valid post. I wish I could say the same.
Oh, and Niobia, good manners bid me to thank you for the PM where you stated
Quote:
You have a very valid post and rather then continue to contribute to it going to hell by a bunch of morons I decieded to PM.
It sounds like he is addicted to the video game. I went througha stage like this with FFXI (I just quit it a few months ago and now my character is permenently GONE) Its easy to get sucked into these games.
You two look beautiful together. 9 years is past the worry zone of a military marriage (3-5 is when we typical divorce) losing a wife to cancer is rougha nd you are to be commended for adopting his sons & being a good mother to them.
I hope he gets a clue that real life is more important that video games.
Alot of folks here dont understand the bed of nails a military wife sits upon. even when they are with us, we know that at any point in time someone can call them up & make them do something. Nomatter how much they love us the military will always come first.
Can you play the game with him? would that help? What about deleteing the game & his account and destroying the disk or telling him if he doesnt shape up thats what will happen. That game wont keep his bed warm or give him hot meals, that game wont hold him when he's hurt or offer a strong shoulder to share his burdens.
I wish you the best.
It sounds like he is addicted to the video game. I went througha stage like this with FFXI (I just quit it a few months ago and now my character is permenently GONE) Its easy to get sucked into these games.
You two look beautiful together. 9 years is past the worry zone of a military marriage (3-5 is when we typical divorce) losing a wife to cancer is rougha nd you are to be commended for adopting his sons & being a good mother to them.
I hope he gets a clue that real life is more important that video games.
Alot of folks here dont understand the bed of nails a military wife sits upon. even when they are with us, we know that at any point in time someone can call them up & make them do something. Nomatter how much they love us the military will always come first.
Can you play the game with him? would that help? What about deleteing the game & his account and destroying the disk or telling him if he doesnt shape up thats what will happen. That game wont keep his bed warm or give him hot meals, that game wont hold him when he's hurt or offer a strong shoulder to share his burdens.
I wish you the best.
I'm glad that you pointed out that I had a very valid post. I wish I could say the same.
NP hun. You are to be commended for those things, needing help isn't something I would look to make fun of you about.
Katarine wrote:
Quote:
Nomatter how much they love us the military will always come first.
My husband would find that statement hilarious.
Your husband who would rather spend time with you but gets deployed whether he wants to or not. Whether he likes it or not, it does come first.
niobia wrote:
Thumbelyna wrote:
Oh, I've played some of the games with him, but I can't play the games for hours on end. There's other things around the house to do like laundry, cooking, homework with the kids. I'm also taking classes to get my second degree and will be starting on my thrid degree. So my time is a tad crunched.
Oh, and Niobia, good manners bid me to thank you for the PM where you stated
I'm glad that you pointed out that I had a very valid post. I wish I could say the same.
Oh, and Niobia, good manners bid me to thank you for the PM where you stated
Quote:
You have a very valid post and rather then continue to contribute to it going to hell by a bunch of morons I decieded to PM.
It sounds like he is addicted to the video game. I went througha stage like this with FFXI (I just quit it a few months ago and now my character is permenently GONE) Its easy to get sucked into these games.
You two look beautiful together. 9 years is past the worry zone of a military marriage (3-5 is when we typical divorce) losing a wife to cancer is rougha nd you are to be commended for adopting his sons & being a good mother to them.
I hope he gets a clue that real life is more important that video games.
Alot of folks here dont understand the bed of nails a military wife sits upon. even when they are with us, we know that at any point in time someone can call them up & make them do something. Nomatter how much they love us the military will always come first.
Can you play the game with him? would that help? What about deleteing the game & his account and destroying the disk or telling him if he doesnt shape up thats what will happen. That game wont keep his bed warm or give him hot meals, that game wont hold him when he's hurt or offer a strong shoulder to share his burdens.
I wish you the best.
It sounds like he is addicted to the video game. I went througha stage like this with FFXI (I just quit it a few months ago and now my character is permenently GONE) Its easy to get sucked into these games.
You two look beautiful together. 9 years is past the worry zone of a military marriage (3-5 is when we typical divorce) losing a wife to cancer is rougha nd you are to be commended for adopting his sons & being a good mother to them.
I hope he gets a clue that real life is more important that video games.
Alot of folks here dont understand the bed of nails a military wife sits upon. even when they are with us, we know that at any point in time someone can call them up & make them do something. Nomatter how much they love us the military will always come first.
Can you play the game with him? would that help? What about deleteing the game & his account and destroying the disk or telling him if he doesnt shape up thats what will happen. That game wont keep his bed warm or give him hot meals, that game wont hold him when he's hurt or offer a strong shoulder to share his burdens.
I wish you the best.
I'm glad that you pointed out that I had a very valid post. I wish I could say the same.
NP hun. You are to be commended for those things, needing help isn't something I would look to make fun of you about.
stop thumb it hurts The wireless controller was a joke :)
This is a serious problem. This is outright failing to respect you and his family. A marriage is not going to work if you two cant respect each other. Asking him to stick to a schedule you both agreed too is pretty basic. I would seriously consider giving him an ultimatum. If he cannot handle both his family and the video games then he has to make a choice between the two.
Edited, Mon Nov 7 19:22:30 2005 by xythex
Quote:
2: Setting up a schedule was adhered too for a bit, but then it fell to the wayside.
This is a serious problem. This is outright failing to respect you and his family. A marriage is not going to work if you two cant respect each other. Asking him to stick to a schedule you both agreed too is pretty basic. I would seriously consider giving him an ultimatum. If he cannot handle both his family and the video games then he has to make a choice between the two.
Edited, Mon Nov 7 19:22:30 2005 by xythex
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Lord xythex wrote:
The wireless controller was a joke :)
This is a serious problem. This is outright failing to respect you and his family. A marriage is not going to work if you two cant respect each other. Asking him to stick to a schedule you both agreed too is pretty basic. I would seriously consider giving him an ultimatum. If he cannot handle both his family and the video games then he has to make a choice between the two.
Edited, Mon Nov 7 19:22:30 2005 by xythex
Quote:
2: Setting up a schedule was adhered too for a bit, but then it fell to the wayside.
This is a serious problem. This is outright failing to respect you and his family. A marriage is not going to work if you two cant respect each other. Asking him to stick to a schedule you both agreed too is pretty basic. I would seriously consider giving him an ultimatum. If he cannot handle both his family and the video games then he has to make a choice between the two.
Edited, Mon Nov 7 19:22:30 2005 by xythex
Seriously, talking and nagging is kinda useless. He needs a distraction. Be devious, I wouldn't ever mention your intentions but try and schedule his time away from the games, away from home if that's what it takes; Example: schedule a kids lessons or doctors appt at a time that it's impossible for you to take them - so he HAS to do it. Plan dates, shows, sporting events - something he likes to do on the weekends. Invite (adult) friends over frequently. Sweetly ask for help or advise fixing something around the house, but be patient as he might need to finish off a mob before complying.
Keep your chin up, the good thing about electronic games is you finish them or get bored with them eventually. If all else fails take care of yourself and talk to a professional if needed.
Alma wrote:
I lost my post
When I was addicted to ffxi,I would play all night long. One night, my wife came to me wearing nothing but a smile.
I fu[b][/b]cked her brains out while my whole party died. (I was a whm)
Drop the game for a while and pay attention to your woman. The game is not going anywhere, but the woman just might.
I fu[b][/b]cked her brains out while my whole party died. (I was a whm)
Drop the game for a while and pay attention to your woman. The game is not going anywhere, but the woman just might.
Wingchild, may I suggest a fruitful relationship with a doe eyed prison inmate? They will be getting plenty of experience at playing Mommy and Daddy depending on their standing in the yard, so regardless of your sex or orientation you will have both bases covered. Moreover, the marriages consummated in the dark, dank cells and laundry rooms in prison aren't recognised by the state, thus ensuring you have received a blushing virginal bride. Or groom. The icing on the cake is you don't have all that expense of Jophiel's suggestion. You can just mosey over to the local hoosgau and pick one out at your leisure.
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Elinda wrote:
So, what if he chose the video games, Thumb would be sitting there with three kids and no Dad.
Seriously, talking and nagging is kinda useless. He needs a distraction. Be devious, I wouldn't ever mention your intentions but try and schedule his time away from the games, away from home if that's what it takes; Example: schedule a kids lessons or doctors appt at a time that it's impossible for you to take them - so he HAS to do it. Plan dates, shows, sporting events - something he likes to do on the weekends. Invite (adult) friends over frequently. Sweetly ask for help or advise fixing something around the house, but be patient as he might need to finish off a mob before complying.
Keep your chin up, the good thing about electronic games is you finish them or get bored with them eventually. If all else fails take care of yourself and talk to a professional if needed.
Seriously, talking and nagging is kinda useless. He needs a distraction. Be devious, I wouldn't ever mention your intentions but try and schedule his time away from the games, away from home if that's what it takes; Example: schedule a kids lessons or doctors appt at a time that it's impossible for you to take them - so he HAS to do it. Plan dates, shows, sporting events - something he likes to do on the weekends. Invite (adult) friends over frequently. Sweetly ask for help or advise fixing something around the house, but be patient as he might need to finish off a mob before complying.
Keep your chin up, the good thing about electronic games is you finish them or get bored with them eventually. If all else fails take care of yourself and talk to a professional if needed.
NAS Lemoore isn't known for it's nightlife. We had to go 40 miles to see a first run movie, back when I lived there. I couldn't wait to get back to civilization.
Thumbelyna, you can see if you can set up marriage counseling at the Family Center for the two of you and get his CO to order him to attend. Just complaining to his command is sure to get his attendion. If nothing else book a few parties while he is at home and fill the house with other wives playing loud Tupperware games.
Were are you going to school if I may ask. I did one year at West Hills in Lemoore to try to stay sane during our last year there. When he was working Mids, I use my term paper to torture him with a drive to Frenso State 2 days a week so I could use the Library there. Made up for his playing computer games while I was stuck with bedrest for 13 weeks, in next room.
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Sir Weebs wrote:
When I was addicted to ffxi,I would play all night long. One night, my wife came to me wearing nothing but a smile.
I fu[b][/b]cked her brains out while my whole party died. (I was a whm)
Drop the game for a while and pay attention to your woman. The game is not going anywhere, but the woman just might.
I fu[b][/b]cked her brains out while my whole party died. (I was a whm)
Drop the game for a while and pay attention to your woman. The game is not going anywhere, but the woman just might.
This may very well be one of the only "This one time while I was playing FFXI" sex stories ever written.
Because mine happened with WoW.
Edited, Tue Nov 8 06:03:34 2005 by NaturalDisaster
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Attention. When Im giving it to her she doesnt want and when Im not she does. She seems to need to talk only when I am a)reading a book b)sleeping c)Playing World of Warcraft.
Edit - Tone of Voice. I might in the end turn out to be right when arguing a point of fact however I will in the end be wrong because when arguing said point I used a tone that was "mean, condescending, etc". Which is true I might have been but unless I argue a point like a vulcan I am liable to be at fault.
Edit - Tone of Voice. I might in the end turn out to be right when arguing a point of fact however I will in the end be wrong because when arguing said point I used a tone that was "mean, condescending, etc". Which is true I might have been but unless I argue a point like a vulcan I am liable to be at fault.
This nails my problem, well, annoyance rather on the head heh.
As for the video games. My significant other got to a point where she was feeling a little put off as I seemed to pay more attention to gaming than I did her. (Well, I was somewhat) So we made a deal.
I get to raid 3 nights a week, meaning I only miss one night of scheduled raiding anyway, and she leaves me alone when I do so. The rest of the time, I put all my attentions on her. This has helped us immensely in the relationship department, and happier g/f = happier Filter.
Since you mention a "controller cord" I will assume he is a console gamer. As such there is a memory card, and you can restart/reload whenever you want. I wish I had that option in MMO's, but as many of you already know, bailing on the raid in a raiding guild = bad for your future ingame.
So in short, agree on a schedule, stick to it, and make him save his game and get off when it isn't his time to be playing. He will be annoyed at first, but eventually thank you for it. If he doesn't, I would look for a more sinister problem beneath the surface.
Video games are a great way to slowly blow off the g/f you don't want around anymore without getting confrontational, I am a low low sack of ****, and have done it many times ^_^
I sincerely hope that isn't the problem, but you might wanna take a closer look at things.
You could try to wait for a happy moment and reinforce the positive instead of pointing out the negative, though. Wait until you have a good laugh together or greet him with a hug and tell him you are going to miss him when he goes, and you want to start stockpiling memories. Then be active and make plans for time together that get you out of the house and away from a computer. Talk alone won't fix it.
As for To+em's comment, there is a probability both of failure and of success for every combination, no matter your backgrounds, and people that come out on both sides. It's all a crapshoot. Give it all you've got and at least you can say you didn't puss out before you even tried.
As for To+em's comment, there is a probability both of failure and of success for every combination, no matter your backgrounds, and people that come out on both sides. It's all a crapshoot. Give it all you've got and at least you can say you didn't puss out before you even tried.
Rate ups all around scince I'm noticing some camping. Oh except for Niobia who I'm wishing would go sub default. Here I'll even start book marking her posts to make it easier on you lazy people.
And welcome back to you Katie! And pray tell, please pass along some sexed up activity stories of your hubby's welcome home.
Nudity trumps video games. Negativeness will just breed more negativity and that will just create more of a need for the "escapism" the video games provide. I recommend as much sex as possible, and bring up the schedule thing in the middle of it, he will agree to anything then.
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Nudity trumps video games.
At my house, all video games are played naked
Do what now?
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Posted: Nov 08 2005 at 1:50 PM, Rating: Sub-Default, (Expand Post) Perhaps if these undersexed, overweight, heffer housewives took the time to pull themselves away from the trough long enough to shed a few pounds their husbands might pull themselves away from the virtual escape mmo games provide. Oh and women; men love homecooked meals, just saying.
*sniff* *sniff*
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Edited, Tue Nov 8 14:07:06 2005 by Spirish
Quote:
Perhaps if these undersexed, overweight, heffer housewives took the time to pull themselves away from the trough long enough to shed a few pounds their husbands might pull themselves away from the virtual escape mmo games provide. Oh and women; men love homecooked meals, just saying.
I was right. I did smell pig. <<<<<< Varus
Edited, Tue Nov 8 14:07:06 2005 by Spirish
ElneClare wrote:
NAS Lemoore isn't known for it's nightlife. We had to go 40 miles to see a first run movie, back when I lived there. I couldn't wait to get back to civilization.
Thumbelyna, you can see if you can set up marriage counseling at the Family Center for the two of you and get his CO to order him to attend. Just complaining to his command is sure to get his attendion. If nothing else book a few parties while he is at home and fill the house with other wives playing loud Tupperware games.
Were are you going to school if I may ask. I did one year at West Hills in Lemoore to try to stay sane during our last year there. When he was working Mids, I use my term paper to torture him with a drive to Frenso State 2 days a week so I could use the Library there. Made up for his playing computer games while I was stuck with bedrest for 13 weeks, in next room.
Thumbelyna, you can see if you can set up marriage counseling at the Family Center for the two of you and get his CO to order him to attend. Just complaining to his command is sure to get his attendion. If nothing else book a few parties while he is at home and fill the house with other wives playing loud Tupperware games.
Were are you going to school if I may ask. I did one year at West Hills in Lemoore to try to stay sane during our last year there. When he was working Mids, I use my term paper to torture him with a drive to Frenso State 2 days a week so I could use the Library there. Made up for his playing computer games while I was stuck with bedrest for 13 weeks, in next room.
I'm at West Hills also. After this semester, I'll have my degree in Administration of Justice. After 2 more semesters, I'll have another degree in Psychology.
NAS Lemoore has grown a lot since you've been here. We now have a Target and Applebee's. Chili's will be here soon. The area is no longer okies, just redneck.
We go to the movies every so often on the base (they're free and you can get popcorn and drinks for the entire family for less than $20 so it's a deal).
He must have realized last night that I've been pissed/hurt/frustated about this situation. He logged off his games early and came up stairs to watch some TV with me after I told him point blank that he's been spending more time with the 2-dimensional people instead of his 3-dimensional family. When he asked what I was so stressed about, I told him I was stressing about the fact how was I going to raise the kids alone and he was like "Why? I'm here." So I told him yeah, you're here as a person, but not as a daddy or a husband.
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