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#27 Nov 03 2005 at 2:51 PM Rating: Excellent
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So then at what point in time does flirting really become flirting? I mean to say that at some point you and the receiver know your actions carry intent.


Well, if at any point you begin to even wish that you could be involved with the other person, even with no intention of acting on that wish, you have no business flirting with them. It's a dangerous game. Don't go there.

It requires some introspection to decide if you are behaving in a manner that is appropriate or inappropriate and really you're the only one who can answer that question. If you're dating someone and you're sexually attracted to someone else then I think it's quite obvious that you shouldn't be flirting with them, whether it bothers your partner or not. Too many people opt for self-sabotage and then say "but I didn't know, I didn't mean to, etc".

Again, I think flirting is fine and I do it alot, but only because I'm in touch with my own feelings enough to know when it's inappropriate. If I have a little crush on someone developing, I back the hell off and spend more time with my husband.

Am I making any sense?

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#28 Nov 03 2005 at 2:55 PM Rating: Excellent
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See but when I flirt I dont do it with strangers.


Sorry DSD, I should have said that I wasn't referring to you personally, but people in general. I know what you mean and I'm the same way. I just meant that people need to self-monitor their feelings and make sure things don't get out of hand. It happens to good people far too often, people who know they will never cheat and somehow do.

Of course, when you're single, it's a different dynamic altogether, but since Joph was coming from the angle of an attached person, that's basically what I'm responding to.

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#29 Nov 03 2005 at 2:58 PM Rating: Decent
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Am I making any cents?




Well I was going to pay you a dollar for the lesson, but if a quarter is enough so be it.


Edited, Thu Nov 3 15:18:07 2005 by fenderputy
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#30 Nov 03 2005 at 2:59 PM Rating: Excellent
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You can throw the quarters on the table but you'll have to use bills if you want to get into my g-string.

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#31 Nov 03 2005 at 3:01 PM Rating: Good
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What is flirting?


Attention without intention.

I'm gonna guess you're not much of a flirt.

Edited, Thu Nov 3 15:18:59 2005 by Atomicflea
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You can throw the quarters on the table but you'll have to use bills if you want to get into my g-string.

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See? That's flirting!
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You can throw the quarters on the table but you'll have to use bills if you want to get into my g-string.


Smiley: sly

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#34 Nov 03 2005 at 3:03 PM Rating: Excellent
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On the contrary. I flirt with everyone.
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#35 Nov 03 2005 at 3:04 PM Rating: Decent
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nexa wrote:
You can throw the quarters on the table but you'll have to use bills if you want to get into my g-string.

Is your coin slot broken?
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#36 Nov 03 2005 at 3:05 PM Rating: Good
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You can throw the quarters on the table but you'll have to use bills if you want to get into my g-string.

Is your coin slot broken?


It just takes more than the stack of dimes you have to offer to please her.
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#37 Nov 03 2005 at 3:05 PM Rating: Excellent
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See? That's flirting!


Agreed! But, is it flirting of the variety that my husband would be uncomfortable with, that I would look back upon with regret, or that I fear fenderputy would take to heart? Not so much :)

In fact, I thought that was pretty quick! /pats self on back

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Hmmm … sort of off topic but … how do you all act if you're the recipient of someone who's flirting? At what point in time is the flirter taking it too far? Does attractiveness matter? What if it’s from someone of the same sex?

Personally I try to take it as a compliment and move on regardless of the situation. It’s kind of fun being looked at like a piece of "man meat" from time to time.


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Hmmm … sort of off topic but … how do you all act if you're the recipient of someone who's flirting. At what point in time is the flirter taking it too far? Does attractiveness matter? What if it’s from someone of the same sex?

Personally I try to take it as a compliment and move on regardless of the situation. It’s kind of fun being looked at like a piece of meat from time to time.


Flirt back, then let them down hard at the end. It's a howl to make people go home in tears. [:debil:]
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On the contrary. I flirt with everyone.

Got it.
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#41 Nov 03 2005 at 3:08 PM Rating: Excellent
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Hmmm … sort of off topic but … how do you all act if you're the recipient of someone who's flirting? At what point in time is the flirter taking it too far?


If someone is flirting in such a way that I feel they are expressing real interest, I make it clear that I'm not interested. If they persist, I end the conversation.

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Edited, Thu Nov 3 15:26:06 2005 by Nexa
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#42 Nov 03 2005 at 3:09 PM Rating: Excellent
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On the contrary. I flirt with everyone.



Got it.


She clearly wants you.

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#43 Nov 03 2005 at 3:09 PM Rating: Good
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See? That's flirting!


Agreed! But, is it flirting of the variety that my husband would be uncomfortable with, that I would look back upon with regret, or that I fear fenderputy would take to heart? Not so much :)

In fact, I thought that was pretty quick! /pats self on back.

Nah. That's flirting just for the hell of it. There are many kinds. There are the kinds that get my tires changed, and the kind that gets ya laid, and the kind that draws a man closer when you've set your sight on him, and the kind that makes older gentlemen ask you out to dance, and the kind that lets you know your new skirt-and-pumps combo is flattering.
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#44 Nov 03 2005 at 3:10 PM Rating: Good
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On the contrary. I flirt with everyone.



Got it.


She clearly wants you.

That's why I'm not flirting back. DSD's husband may think I'm trying to nail her.
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That's why I'm not flirting back. DSD's husband may think I'm trying to nail her.
Does he have reason to believe otherwise?
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#46 Nov 03 2005 at 3:14 PM Rating: Excellent
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When I say "attention without intention", I mean just that: to me, flirting is paying attention to another person in a light, social way without having the ulterior motive of fu[i][/i]cking their brains out.


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If I rate Neph up is it flirting?

I feel so dirty after doing it.
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#48 Nov 03 2005 at 3:14 PM Rating: Good
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I'm not much of a flirt. I don't think I really know how to do it right anyway. And I don't take flirting really well, either. Mostly because I think that the person who is flirting with me must have mental problems.
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I'm not much of a flirt. I don't think I really know how to do it right anyway. And I don't take flirting really well, either. Mostly because I think that the person who is flirting with me must have mental problems.


That would add an element of something, yes.
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The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
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On the contrary. I flirt with everyone.



Got it.


She clearly wants you.

That's why I'm not flirting back. DSD's husband may think I'm trying to nail her.


He might enjoy the show though Smiley: sly
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The Glorious Atomicflea wrote:
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On the contrary. I flirt with everyone.



Got it.


She clearly wants you.

That's why I'm not flirting back. DSD's husband may think I'm trying to nail her.


He might enjoy the show though Smiley: sly


If he doesn't I would.
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