How would you define it? Where would you draw the line between flirting and chit-chat or flirting and general joking? Is it merely a question of gender that changes banter into something else?
Consider this an off-shoot of the compliments thread. I haven't seen the woman since that day so it's a dead issue but this is just something else I was thinking about. For instance, the ladyfriend claims I flirt. She's not upset or threatened or anything, she simply states it as fact that I do so. I, on the other hand, am slightly shocked at the implication. Not because I feel I'm being judged poorly but because I wouldn't guess to call my talk flirting. In fact, if someone asked me "do you know how to flirt?" I'd laugh at them. In my mind, it's a means to an end. The first step in establishing a cross-gender rapport with the intent of advancing it. So, since I'm not trying to get anywhere, I don't see it as flirting. Since she's not standing behind me she can't give her version of events but that's not too important. I'm more curious to hear how you define it.