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So I'm dropping off the kiddo today at the sitter's when, on the way out, I bump into a mother dropping off her child as well. We've never really spoken, I only see her rarely, I couldn't even tell you her name, but I immediately noticed that she had changed her hair. It used to be rather mousey in a way that was practically a liability but is now some kicky new do.

So I was about 80% of the way towards saying "Hey, I like your new hair" but I balked. I figured I didn't know her and she might feel uncomfortable given the presumption that if a guy is complimenting a woman it's for the purposes of getting laid. Which wasn't the case here -- she just has much better looking hair than she used to. In retrospect, it occurs to me that *I* have always had my mood lifted by a random compliment (not that I get them that often) and perhaps she would have. But, on the other hand, I'm not a dame so I don't know. At least if I erred it was on the side of caution.

Ladies, how do you take a random compliment? Especially one by a male stranger. Do you assume it's a come-on or can you accept it at face value?

If it's a casual, "I like your new hair cut, looks good on you", that's fine. If you gush too much you're either gay or coming on.

A comment about hair would be nice, but I hate it when people make comments on weight or other sensitive issues. Telling me I look like I lost weight just makes me feel like you thought I looked fat before, haha.

Hair, clothes, those are innocent enough and I'm sure would be flattering.

Nexa

Well, I'll keep it in mind for next time.

/nod


I love hearing and giving random compliments, but I usually refrain from giving them to men because I find that the vast majority think I'm coming on to them.

"Excuse me ma'am, I do believe you dropped something"

"Oh, really?"

"Yeah, my jaw"

Quagmire: "Ohhhh riiiight, giggity giggity!"

Ever watched "Hitch"? Some men use the detached uninterested tack especially to hit on a woman. I'm not saying it's always the correct assumption to make if you're on the receiving end, but there are women that will misconstrue a compliment as a pass no matter what. If you think it won't be well-received, then hold your peace.

I think it's nice to compliment older women. I love it when a woman takes time with herself well into her old age, and I always try to compliment that.

Correction: The only time it's ok to comment on weight is if it is someone you know from the gym. I never minded then, but maybe that was just an excuse. The gym was the only place where a guy could say something like, "Your *** is really looking great today" and leave me just feeling happy/proud.

Nexa

Did you work out at Arnold Schwarzenegger's gym?

I can just see the ad for that now.

Male Gym member:"Hey do you need help with your squats?"

Female Gym member:(Batting Eyes) "Ummm sure why not."

Male Gym member:"Wow You've got a Great Camel-Toe!!!!"

Female Gym member:" Thanks I've been working a lot on the 'Thigh-Machine'."

Male Gym member turns toward camera giving the thumbs up sign and smiles:Thanks Arnold!!!

"Schwarzeneggers Gym: Where you can get tan, buff and groped with a one year membership."

Yeah, they just refer to it as snobbiness instead of "Being a pig" so that it sounds better I guess.

DSD, repeat that again but this time sloooowly...yes..yess....that's it...

Giggity Giggity!!

*wide eyed rollback

...

um, as you were.

Edited, Mon Oct 24 16:04:55 2005 by Smoggy

I do the same thing, Nadenue.

I've noticed several threads have been rated down. Like, every post.

Someone's on a new "I hate the Asylum" crusade!