Parents of schoolage kids, quick adviceFollow

Barbarism is the only way to go in situations like this. I let kids mess with me for like the first 12 years of my life. I was even bigger than most of them, I was just too timid because of the psycho-babble bull my mom had fed me. Violence isn't always the answer, but when your a kid, it is quite often.

as a parent with two children that went through similar things at differant stages during preschool, i can only tell you what we did. one situation was a class biter, the other was a child constantly pushing one of my children to the ground during play time.

we broght it to the teachers attention. when that didnt work, we requested a parent teacher conferance with the principal. for the biter, this worked. the school had a no-biting policy, and the school got with the parent of the biter nad flat out told her, either her kid stops biting, or he leaves the school. they did offer her counseling on how to correct the situation.

9 times out of 10, the problem origonates in the home, not the school. it is in the home the problem needs to be corrected. this you cannot do.

if the school will not deal with the problem, find another school. the potential problem of not leaving is making your child develop long term negative association with school. fear of school. that is bad.

for the child pushing my daughter to the ground, the solution was even easier. she has always been big for her age. a good 3 inches taller than all the other 3 and 4 year olds. and she is mean. what i did was wrong. i know it was. i told her to tell the teacher. after she did, and it did not stop, i told her to push him back even harder. after a parent teacher meeting saying how shoving another child into a concrete wall was unacceptable for my daughter to do, and how she said i told her she could, i reverted back to telling her to tell a teacher....twice next time.

the school took care of the biter. my daughter took care of the pusher.

In school, I have a failproof way of getting kids to stop bullying and pestering me.

Next time your kid gets hit, don't go to a teacher, or hit him back, but stand there, hold a hand over the spot where he was hit, point at the bully, and cry. Scream as loud as he can. Make sure he gets a teacher's attention. Played right, and the bully will be in the principal's office by noon.

Although, my way is more of "stand up, look at the teachers, then point at the morons, then say, 'make them quit it!' with a kind of angry look on my face. Sometimes a swear. Teachers will make them pay every time.

Edited, Wed Oct 5 22:16:11 2005 by Merodii

DSD, I just want to say I'm sorry. I've really tried to make my little angel behave, but his father is teaching him all these bad habits. Still friends??

don't tell on my little boy!

Ok so what happened? You kid knock the other kid out? Principal remove the kid from the class? Cat fight with the kids mom? What?

update for you all in case anyone is actually bored enough to read this:

I sent a note to school today, along with a notebook asking the teacher to please note any situations that may happen, why it happened and what was done about it so I could then talk to my son more in depth about what is going on with this child. The teacher had asked me at last weeks meeting to help my son understand special needs children better but as I dont know the full story of whats going on its hard for me to explain what I dont know.

I was met at the front steps by the teachers aid ( the bi[/b]tch was too scared to talk to me face to face I assume) and curtly told me they would not do anything of the sort unless I had another meeting with the principal. I was then informed there hadbeen no incidents in the past two weeks which I debunked having had multiple witnesses confirm my sons stories over the past couple weeks of being hit several times. I also explained that these two differing explanations were exactly why I wanted open communication betwen the teacher and parents so we could be on the same page. Teh teachers aid told me it would not happen unless I had the principals permission. Ive already called her and am awaiting her call back.


I have been researching several groups and talked with many professionals and sadly I am in a hard spot with little to help me. As I am the only one complaining, and this is against a school helping a special needs child, unfortunately there are no groups out there to help me advocate for my son. The best I will be able to do is bring a negligance charge through the dept of education against the school and to find another preschool.

Right now I am spitting nails, so be prepared for an ultra bi[b]tchy DSD in the next coming week.

Amen. And while you're at it, quit thinking of this as a problem with the child. It's not. He has competent adults being paid to monitor, correct, and educate him. Your quarrel is that their incompetence is ruining both his chances at an education, and your son's.

What kind of fu[b][/b]cking place do you live in? If you live in a town where your kid is getting his *** kicked in pre-school it's probably a good sign you should move out.


Inner-city perhaps?

Take this as a lesson kids, women taking steroids during pregnancy leads to mentally deficient babies who have a propensity towards uncontrollable physical violence.

Thanks for the morning yuk yuk.