The $120,000 wedding....Follow

Umm wow. Between the beautiful setting of the rotunda of the city hall in San Francisco, the stuffiness of a ******** of old men in tuxedos, the live string quartet, the opera singer, the 10 bars (yes 10 bars) all of which were open, the poached salmon/filet dinner, and the 3 bottles of wine I consumed, I was not impressed.

For all of you planning weddings, thinking of planning a wedding, or dreamin about one, let me give you some advice.

There is no material substitute for having close friends and family enjoy conversation without getting lost in pomp and circumstance.

Save the fu[b][/b]cking money and buy a house for someone.

I couldn't agree more. I was in a friend's wedding in Florida, in which they dropped about 20k. That's peanuts compared to the one you described, but considering most of my family got married either in a local bar or prison, 20k seems like a fortune.

One of my buddies is getting married in April, I'm guessing it's going to be in the 20-30k range. I keep telling him to just elope but he won't listen to me. The funny thing is after it's over he's going to come back and say I was right and he wished he would have listened. I should be fortune teller. They could call me The Great Joey Bagadonuts.

Bride's parents is my guess, although both families have alot of disposable income.

Don't get me wrong, they are great people. If you make the money, you deserve to spend it however yo usee fit. They are a very loving family, the couple has been good friends of mine for years.

I'm sure that on their flight to Tahiti they aren't too concerned about the money though.

I think $20K is a decent wedding that would pay for catering for about 200 guests, the cake, rings, church, tuxes, rings, etc.

That's about what I spent all said and done and it was a pretty decent wedding. We saved money on things like wine, cake, church (and associated costs) and rings because we had connections but it wasn't that hard to digest. My wife and I paid for it ourselves, and received about $3K in gifts from guests that helped.

Really about 70% of the expense is in the reception, and of that, food and liquor are what'll getcha.

Mine was just my wife an I.

No Family (they are crazy), and couldn't afford to fly the friend to Hawaii.

Was a nice time, and well worth it!

You could always do a reception thing. That's what my brother and his wife did. They were planning a wedding with all the goodness and then said ***** it and went before the justice of the peace. Two months later they had a nice reception where everyone dressed up and they did the cake thing, dance thing, etc. It saved them a lot of money.

I'm not going to put my future husband or myself through the stress of a formal wedding. My plan is to elope. I'd rather spend my money on a house or condo than to blow it all on one day.

Cost us ~10k.

150 guests... The reception was around 8k. (open bar!)

The church was around 300...

The mints for the favors were cheap.

The reception was the highlight... even though it went from 4pm - 8pm it seemed like it was about 20 minutes long.

Having all the family there was great... I'd say about 100 people there were people we were related to.

It was fun. And drunk.

I think all together my wedding cost...maybe $75.

Nexa

Whew, I wish

Neither my wife or I remember much about our wedding other than her walk down the aisle and staring at each other for 10 minutes, grunting out I Do's when prompted and posing for pictures for too Bob Damn long. We could have done the whole thing for a c-note and I would have been just as happy. After all was said and done, and we dropped the other 99%, the disappointing photographer's work is all we really have memory-wise from the rest of the party. The next time I get married it's going to be in Vegas, and cheap.

I think a "real" wedding is something that you need to do at least once. I regret not having any pictures. I also regret not having any memories other than standing at the JP. While I understand that we are just as married either way, I always pictured the whole thing with the white dress. No wedding pics for the kids to see? Sad.