Pensive wrote:
Clarify for me, when you say age of five or eight, are you talking about mild curiosity or more of a real fantasy kinda thing. I could see something like Ken sans genitals upsetting, but that's a bit different than some full on submissive fantasy.
I remember at the age of five, I had a bed that had bar-like dowels in the headboard, and very distinctly remember imagining being bound with my hands tied to those dowels in a sexual context. Maybe I was slightly older than five though--I did have that bed for several years. I do know that the fantasy pre-dated my experience with sexual abuse, which happened at the age of 8.
I played with Barbie dolls from the age of 7 to about 11, and I know that Ken "ravished" Barbie a number of times.
Part of the reason I may have been slightly more sexually precocious than your average child is the fact that my mother did lead a very, er, "colorful" lifestyle. But I was at least partially removed from that, because from first grade on, I lived with other relatives and not with my drunk!****! mother. I did, however, spend weekends with her and whatever boyfriend she was living with at the time and there were frequently sounds coming from the bedroom.
Also, my older sister would have been 9 at the time I was 5, and she filled me in on the birds and the bees as she was learning about them, mainly because of a "see what I know?" sort of impulse, I am sure. So I had a bit of a leg up where sex ed was concerned.