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I know I haven't posted hardly at all but I am just furious and I don't want to tell anyone in RL yet what is going on. Three months and two weeks ago my husband got back from Iraq. It was a horrible year. I hated it. I cannot fully describe in words just how really bad it was. The day I dropped him off at his unit parking lot at like 2am to fly off to Baghdad was one of the worst in my entire life. I do not want to repeat it, ever ever.
Well, he came home finally at the very end of June. Yeah, he signed up in the first place, so I just dealt with this deployment like any army wife, even though it was so awful. He is sick of the army though, ready for a change after 9 years, and has 9 months left. He is taking his ACT next month and is getting ready to apply to college for fall of 2006. Today he, along with 3 other people, got transferred to another unit. That unit is deploying in DECEMBER!!!! Deployments last a year. I am in shock. I just got him home again. Why him? There are single soldiers who have more time left in who wouldn't mind going, and they transfer -HIM-??? I am so furious. I am beyond upset. I am like, throw things at the wall and scream and kill people raging mad.
Send the people who voted for Bush. Send the ones who drive SUV's and need the extra gas. Just why in the **** are you sending my husband right after he came home? I wish Bush could see what went on in my house this evening. If he could see that, and the fact that it goes on in alot of other military houses, he might rethink things. Send Laura or the twins, I know that is cliche, but hell, I really feel that way.
/end rant
That truly sucks. I hope you are making the best of the little time you will have together.
So long as I am reading it right, he's done with the Army in only 9 months. Look toward that.
So long as I am reading it right, he's done with the Army in only 9 months. Look toward that.
Katarine wrote:
I am in shock. I just got him home again. Why him?
Katarine wrote:
Yeah, he signed up in the first place
You answered your own question
Yes, he was supposed to be done in 9 months. But, when you get deployed, they don't care when you were "supposed" to be done. So, if he goes in December, he will be extended about 6 months. When he was deployed last time, there was a guy who was supposed to get out the week they left. Did they care? No. They don't have enough people as it is.
And I guess by "Why him" I meant, why him and not some guy with more time in, or some guy that wouldnt mind going. But yes, you are right. It pisses me off daily ;P Him too! Damn reeinlisting ;P
Well. I know this isn't going to comfort you at all, but let's put things in perspective.
For most of the history of mankind, if your husband had signed up for military service, he'd be gone for years at a time. Not 6-9 months and then back. It's frankly amazing that during wartime, we're cycling soldiers back as frequently as we do. I'm not aware of any military in history that has done that.
Instead of being angry that he's going to be leaving in another 3 months, how about you be happy for the time you have with him, and make the most of it? It just seems like railing against and about something that isn't particularly unusual (soldiers in wartime being away from home for long periods of time) isn't terribly useful...
For most of the history of mankind, if your husband had signed up for military service, he'd be gone for years at a time. Not 6-9 months and then back. It's frankly amazing that during wartime, we're cycling soldiers back as frequently as we do. I'm not aware of any military in history that has done that.
Instead of being angry that he's going to be leaving in another 3 months, how about you be happy for the time you have with him, and make the most of it? It just seems like railing against and about something that isn't particularly unusual (soldiers in wartime being away from home for long periods of time) isn't terribly useful...
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Oh girl, I'm so sorry. I cant imagine Mr.Katie turning around and having to go back. I blame this whole "operation blue to green" where they are sizing down the forces, which means all our men and women in uniform are going to be spending a lot more time over there.
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Posted: Sep 30 2005 at 10:56 PM, Rating: Sub-Default, (Expand Post) yeah hopefully they'll stop it my uncle was supposed to go back twice but they called it off for some reason
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Posted: Sep 30 2005 at 10:57 PM, Rating: Sub-Default, (Expand Post) Thats sounds like something you'd say to a dog after stepping on its tail
I agree with Gbaji. You have 3 months before he deploys again? Make the most of it. Yeah it's unfair that he's leaving again so soon, but seriously, cherish the time you have with each other. Don't waste time being pissed off about something you can't change.
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Gbaji said "Well. I know this isn't going to comfort you at all, but let's put things in perspective".
Over 1900 dead from the USA. thousands more from USA injured.
The whole war, illegal from the start and completely based on lies and fabrications.
How about that for a perspective?
To the OP. why not talk to your hubby about concientious objector? He wouldn't be the first, he sure as hell wont be the last. Why go fight for something he doesn't believe in and take the risk of NOT coming back?
Your family has GOT to be more important than continuing to participate in something so f'ckt up as the hell on earth that the Bushies are planning in the middle east.
gbaji...why don't you volunteer to take his place? You seem like a believer......
Edited, Sat Oct 1 01:12:06 2005 by paulsol
Over 1900 dead from the USA. thousands more from USA injured.
The whole war, illegal from the start and completely based on lies and fabrications.
How about that for a perspective?
To the OP. why not talk to your hubby about concientious objector? He wouldn't be the first, he sure as hell wont be the last. Why go fight for something he doesn't believe in and take the risk of NOT coming back?
Your family has GOT to be more important than continuing to participate in something so f'ckt up as the hell on earth that the Bushies are planning in the middle east.
gbaji...why don't you volunteer to take his place? You seem like a believer......
Edited, Sat Oct 1 01:12:06 2005 by paulsol
"If you have selfish, ignorant citizens, you're gonna get selfish, ignorant leaders". Carlin.
If I could reach threw the internet and strangle people....
If I had been in the military when this war started, I would have gone to Afganistan to hunt for Osama. If they tried to send me to Iraq, I would have said no and gone to jail.
I'm sorry, Katarine, and I hope your husband comes back in one piece.
I'm sorry, Katarine, and I hope your husband comes back in one piece.
I now understand the term, "Backdoor draft"
I'm sorry for you, good luck to you both.
I'm sorry for you, good luck to you both.
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I am very sorry. That sucks. I can't imagine what I would do if I were in the same position. I assume your husband shares your view but you haven't really specified.
If he does, he can leave. It's not impossible. However, if he doesn't, well, then there's nothing you can really do about it since he makes decisions over his person and welfare just as surely as a woman would hers. I suspect this is the case and your rant was just about blowing off some steam.
I suggest you take some time off and take a family vacation. Make some good memories to tide both of you over as long as you need it.
Good luck. I hope he comes back home safe and soon.
If he does, he can leave. It's not impossible. However, if he doesn't, well, then there's nothing you can really do about it since he makes decisions over his person and welfare just as surely as a woman would hers. I suspect this is the case and your rant was just about blowing off some steam.
I suggest you take some time off and take a family vacation. Make some good memories to tide both of you over as long as you need it.
Good luck. I hope he comes back home safe and soon.
Love him long time. When he leaves, then it's time to invest in a handy-dandy vibrator.
In all seriousness, I'm sorry for your situation and I wish you and him the best of luck.
In all seriousness, I'm sorry for your situation and I wish you and him the best of luck.
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To the OP. why not talk to your hubby about concientious objector?
This doesn't work anymore ;P They are really desperate. I joked and said to say he was gay, and hell, that doesn't work either. They are really desperate for folks.
Yes, he shares my view. He has always disagreed with this particular war, he just went because it was his duty. This is just insane though. I know I am not the only family this is happening to either, which makes it suck even more. And that is not even starting on the almost 2000 families who have lost a soldier. I am 24 years old. How many of those soldiers had young wives who are now young widows? Pisses me off. The post I made wasn't really for sympathy for myself, it was more to illustrate what this stupid war is doing to families. Last deployment, there were too many divorces to count, and my husband and I feel lucky that we were strong enough to make it. Can we do it back to back? I sure as hell hope so.
gbaji wrote:
Well. I know this isn't going to comfort you at all, but let's put things in perspective.
Belkira wrote:
Wow. Regular ol' Joph fan club in here.
That sucks. It happens. For your husband's sake, try to keep a positive attitude and have fun with him while you can. It'll make his last trip to the desert more bearable.
Some people are like slinkies, they aren't really good for anything, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.
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Posted: Oct 01 2005 at 10:49 AM, Rating: Sub-Default, (Expand Post) Hah. Sucks being you.
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you might want to check to see if he falls under the COTTAD which basically insures you 1 year time off when returning from a combat theater. The only other thing i wonder is if he has a crucial MOS EOD,Radar etc that would entail a a technician or someone whos job cant be replaced by a pvt. Im in iraq now coming home in 30 days and have been guaranteed not having to come back for 18 months but my job is to kick doors in which you can train any monkey to do.
He is in signal. In fact, his MOS is being phased out, he has to learn how to use all new equipment before he goes. From what I hear, stabilization here is 90 days for everyone. We are at fort drum with 10th Mountain Division. *sigh* I am curious what it is you mentioned though, I am not familiar with it.
Kat, use this time to be with him. We can rage and scream all we want but unfortunantly the military will still come and pick him up. Just try not to burden him further, which I'm sure your not, let this time from now until he's gone be wonderful. Love him, hold him, talk to him, just enjoy each other. You are his rock and he needs to know you will be ok while he is gone. Get things in order, POA's done, important documents in a safefy deposit box, copies in a folder somewhere safe in your home. Makes plans to go home and visit your family while he's gone or go visit close friends. Get your support network together. Some places "over there" they can have cell phones now. See about getting him one or get him a laptop so you two can communicate more than the 6 phone calls a month with the Hearts Apart program. Be strong girl, he'll be back in your arms again.
the army is doing that alot now. My unit was deployed, got back, then changed into another type of unit uner a different brigade. We then recieved 2 months of training and are getting deployed again.
I hope your husband makes it through ok. I wish you the same luck.
Make every minute count. Surprise him by wearing lingerie on the last day, but tell him he cant take it off until he returns.
I'll bet that's the image he'll have every time he thinks of you for the whole while he's over. ;)
Make every minute count. Surprise him by wearing lingerie on the last day, but tell him he cant take it off until he returns.
I'll bet that's the image he'll have every time he thinks of you for the whole while he's over. ;)
Oh!!! That is an awesome idea FFXI! Mind if I use that next deployment?
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I hope your husband makes it through ok. I wish you the same luck.
Make every minute count. Surprise him by wearing lingerie on the last day, but tell him he cant take it off until he returns.
I'll bet that's the image he'll have every time he thinks of you for the whole while he's over. ;)
Make every minute count. Surprise him by wearing lingerie on the last day, but tell him he cant take it off until he returns.
I'll bet that's the image he'll have every time he thinks of you for the whole while he's over. ;)
It will make it easier to get off with the prostitutes too. Over there they even come with a towel over their faces.
Edited, Sat Oct 1 17:50:22 2005 by Elderon
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