So I'm getting divorcedFollow

Edit: now without a whole bunch of sad stuff.

Edited, Sat Dec 10 09:54:55 2005 by Nexa

Stop that!

My deepest condolences to you Nexa.

Everyone deserves to be in a trusting relationship. I know there are many people that will try to look past an indiscretion like this, but rarely is doing so a good thing.

In my experience, "once a cheater, always a cheater". If he did it once, he'll do it again. As horrible as it may feel, you are doing the right thing. This isn't an environment you want your child growing up in.

You are by no means an idiot. Wanting to believe and trust someone is a good thing. Sadly many times that trust is taken advantage of. The decision to cheat was his and his alone.

I know the dreams you have about the perfect family life, and I assure you that you will have them. But hopefully they will come to fruition with someone who treats you with more love and respect.

Hang in there and don't think about the things you want as things that "could have been"...they will happen, I promise you that.

Maine really helps out Mother's, exspecially in cases like that. The house shouldn't be any big deal.


And job or no the State should be able to help you out, there are alot of programs in Maine to help out with what you need.


Again best of luck in all this.

All I can say is that my hatred for your soon-to-be-ex-husband and his kind (the cheaters/scumpiles) knows no bounds. If it were me (and if I was a woman) I'd strip him of any and all parental rights. He doesn't deserve the happiness a child brings. And you and your daughter shouldn't have to just deal with it. It should be considered criminal.


Bad Husband = Bad Father. Any man who cannot take care of his wife is most certainly not qualified to take care of his kids, no matter how good he seems with kids. You can't have one and not the other.


Ugh. If I had a say in world matters, adultery would be punishable by death. Mostly because I see it as deplorable and inexcusable, similar to rape. Heck, it IS rape, just not physical.

Who??

Amazingly callous and cold. Bravo tricky.

Ok children, today's word of the day is jealousy. Can anyone tell me what "jealousy" means?

Sally: Is it when my brother starts a fight with me over my toys and my mom says he is jealous?

Good try Sally, but not quite. Does anyone else care to give it a try?

Bobby: Is it like when the kid down the street steals my bike and beats me up?

You are close Bobby, let's try one more time. How about you Timmy?

Timmy: Is it when Trickybeck makes a callous post regarding lost love because he is so ugly and has such a small ***** that he has no hope in hell of ever finding it himself, so he feels he needs to lash out at those who have had it?



Timmy, what room are you supposed to be in?

Timmy: The bathroom, but I got lost in this fuc[b][/b]king place and ended up in this grade 2 classroom. I wondered what the sign saying 'Asylum' meant.

How is it callous?

Oh, I guess I should have added something about God's plan. That'll help.


I've found that if you tell someone enough how "sorry you feel for them," eventually they start feeling sorry for themselves. People in wheelchairs don't want to be constantly offered sympathy and doted on.



Edited, Thu Sep 22 15:58:41 2005 by trickybeck

I said "I'm not offering my deepest condolences and sympathies," not that I didn't feel sympathy.

And as explained above, I wrote it because I didn't think that's what she needed to hear at this point. So as you can see, I put more kind thought into my post than those who offered stock responses.

The hi-jack of this thread by you guys is approaching callousness though...

True, divorce no longer really has a stigma attached. But when you want to be married and have your family all under one roof, it really hurts. And some of us still get married with the thought that it will be forever.

I'd say Nexa's not too concerned with what others may think right now.

I think he's just jealous that you're taking his shtick. Neph isn't exactly a paragon of sensitivity himself.

Wait--- he was cheating on u and u decided to marry him??? bad move, sorry that it puts u inna sticky spot (which you will make it through) but that was poor decision making, no matter how charming he was and good he made you feel. And no matter how much you wanted him to, and what steps you took to make it happen, he (and all of us) wont change. so say goodbye, OR be willing to deal with the way he is, which will include sex with other women and apparently not having a job.

we only change by our on volition.

Note: i am not trying to be mean, nor am i trying to be supportive, i dont know the OPer and i have no will towards them one way or the other.


to everyone (women specifically) else: human beings are like any other animal in most ways, there is nothing set in nature that requires us to be a part of a life-long exclusive relationship, marriage is a farce really, and as women become more "equal" to mean in the areas of business politics religion and all of these social pillars, on a social level makes marriage all the more usless to everyone. he is not a ******* for humping someother chick, UNLESS he entered the relationship on the express intention that he would be exclusive. the lying is not so nice, esp if he said he loves u, but when someone tells u that, you cant just take it for face value.

Edited, Thu Sep 22 16:46:38 2005 by blkswrdsmn