...or not :O
Edited, Sat Dec 10 09:52:38 2005 by Nexa
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“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
Nexa you have been lurking and posting for a long time and I wish you posted more often like you once did.
I truly am sorry.
I truly am sorry.
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Um.. 
Yeah. The bright side is maybe you can trade him in for a newer model with more features?
Remember, keep your chin up that little one needs you.
Edited, Thu Sep 22 12:27:30 2005 by ElderonXI
Yeah. The bright side is maybe you can trade him in for a newer model with more features?
Remember, keep your chin up that little one needs you.
Edited, Thu Sep 22 12:27:30 2005 by ElderonXI
From another girl with cummings in her sig and who can empathize, I'm deeply sorry. Know that your behavior now will be something you can be proud of later, even if occasionally you feel like the world is caving in. Your husband is an idiot, but I'm sure you're aware. Take comfort in the fact that it will make not loving him that much easier.
Sell the house. Or renege on the closing, if you can do so. Get a small place, and see what the other moms in the area do. Around here, there is usually one in the apartment complex that stays at home and watches kids to make money. More affordable than daycare.
Have you talked to him about child support and alimony? Do you have a lawyer?
Sell the house. Or renege on the closing, if you can do so. Get a small place, and see what the other moms in the area do. Around here, there is usually one in the apartment complex that stays at home and watches kids to make money. More affordable than daycare.
Have you talked to him about child support and alimony? Do you have a lawyer?
What a horrible thing to have to go through.
Leave the fu[b][/b]cking scumbag and make sure that your beautiful child has all of your love. She needs you more than anyone.
God has a purpose and a plan. I know it sounds dumb to hear, but sometimes God has something better for you waiting.
Leave the fu[b][/b]cking scumbag and make sure that your beautiful child has all of your love. She needs you more than anyone.
God has a purpose and a plan. I know it sounds dumb to hear, but sometimes God has something better for you waiting.
wow
/comfort
I'm having a ****** week too.
Take care of yourself and the kid... I'm sure things will unfold as they should.. I would say try not to stress too much.. but.. that would be meaningless.
Keep your wits about you.
/comfort
I'm having a ****** week too.
Take care of yourself and the kid... I'm sure things will unfold as they should.. I would say try not to stress too much.. but.. that would be meaningless.
Keep your wits about you.
Babe, I'm sorry. As someone who's been through something close, please let me know anything I can do to help or talk. PM me or whatever. Every situation is different but I think I have a fair idea of how it feels and I'm sorry for you.
Belkira wrote:
Wow. Regular ol' Joph fan club in here.
Oh, I forgot to add, where do you live? I'm long on free time and if I'm close, I'd love to watch her.
I know you don't know me from Adam, but really, I would.
I know you don't know me from Adam, but really, I would.
Don't know what to say. I've been in your shoes and I didn't know how to figure it out. It just did all by itself in time.
Words can not describe the extent to which I'm sorry for you, Nexa. Please make sure to update us when you work things out so that we know you're okay.
Jophiel wrote:
I managed to be both retarded and entertaining.
I realize that I don't know you but I really felt compelled to respond.
Sometimes life gives us trial that are hard to comprehend but are necessary none the less. There is really nothing that anyone here can say to ease your pain but my heart goes out to you and I wish you the best.
Sometimes life gives us trial that are hard to comprehend but are necessary none the less. There is really nothing that anyone here can say to ease your pain but my heart goes out to you and I wish you the best.
A divorce is a horrible thing on its own. The situation now with the child and the house just makes it so much worse. I am truly sorry that this sh[b][/b]it hand was dealt your way. It may take time but see your way through this.
Best of Luck
Best of Luck
I also want to say I'm sorry to hear this. I really don't have anything more to add to what the others have said, though. What a fuc[/b]kbag. (him, not you.) 
Flea, Nexa's in Maine. Helluva commute for you
Flea, Nexa's in Maine. Helluva commute for you
Sorry to hear about your troubles 
Having been in a situation like that I wish you the best of luck
Having been in a situation like that I wish you the best of luck
So...
How you doin'?
How you doin'?
publiusvarus wrote:
we all know liberals are well adjusted american citizens who only want what's best for society. While conservatives are evil money grubbing scum who only want to sh*t on the little man and rob the world of its resources.
That's a really ugly situation.
Without knowing the details, I'd also say you shouldn't close on that house. Back out now rather than digging yourself further into that particular hole. Get something you CAN afford.
Marriage splits are hugely expensive to all parties involved and if you're not sure you can make it right now, after two months, you'll KNOW you can't make it.
I'm sorry for the loss of your relationship, especially with such a tiny child involved. If you weren't so clear about how dead the relationship is (and the fact that the affair continues), I'd actually say you should try to work past it, not because he's worth it, but because many people manage to do so.
Nothing about the situation shows a lot of hope, but you're just going to have to be tough. Keep your chin up and don't be too proud to accept help from those who are willing to offer it. This is a horrible set of events, but life is a struggle. The measure of your success is not where you end up, but how you got there.
Without knowing the details, I'd also say you shouldn't close on that house. Back out now rather than digging yourself further into that particular hole. Get something you CAN afford.
Marriage splits are hugely expensive to all parties involved and if you're not sure you can make it right now, after two months, you'll KNOW you can't make it.
I'm sorry for the loss of your relationship, especially with such a tiny child involved. If you weren't so clear about how dead the relationship is (and the fact that the affair continues), I'd actually say you should try to work past it, not because he's worth it, but because many people manage to do so.
Nothing about the situation shows a lot of hope, but you're just going to have to be tough. Keep your chin up and don't be too proud to accept help from those who are willing to offer it. This is a horrible set of events, but life is a struggle. The measure of your success is not where you end up, but how you got there.
Go right now and talk to all the lawyers in a 30 mile radius, that way they can't deal with him it would be conflict of intrest, even if you don't plan on using them they can't help him. Thats the first thing you do, second get a really high priced lawyer and make his worthless ass pay for it, make sure you get Child support and alomoney and he has to make payments on the house. Lets put it this way you did nothing wrong and he has all the blame, take him to the cleaners. As for the heart break, if you not breast feeding then you should be drinking and how! Get your family in on this to help with child care, Parents, siblings, grand parents are all good. Sadly I know to much about all of this, Also if you are still married you can have your husband commited for 24 hour physcratict work, with out a doctors say so, just call bellvue and tell them you think he is haveing a mental break down. Trust me on this stuff it all works.
Chin up, Nexa. You're a strong woman and you can get through this. Just take each moment at a time and hold on. You deserve much better than what your husband is giving you. If you can, back out of the house ASAP. Find yourself someplace cozy and affordable. Whatever you do, hug your child. While she needs you, you need her as well. Look at her and remember shes the one you need to stay strong for as well as yourself.
You can get through this even though there are times you feel like you wont. Just take it slow and know you do have people here who you can talk to as I hope you have friends and family who are close by as well
You can get through this even though there are times you feel like you wont. Just take it slow and know you do have people here who you can talk to as I hope you have friends and family who are close by as well
Chances are that you've helped family members and friends in the past with their difficulties; don't be shy about asking those same people for help now that you're in need of it.
You'd be surprised, but for every asshat in the world, there's a good person who would go out of their way to help you. I hope that his karma comes around to bite him in the ***, and you find a better man.
You'd be surprised, but for every asshat in the world, there's a good person who would go out of their way to help you. I hope that his karma comes around to bite him in the ***, and you find a better man.
The very best of luck Nexa.
No matter how sh[i][/i]itty it feels right now, and how impenetrable the problems may look, you'll find a way through for the better.
No matter how sh[i][/i]itty it feels right now, and how impenetrable the problems may look, you'll find a way through for the better.
"I started out with nothin' and I still got most of it left" - Seasick Steve
that is always a tough situation to be in. my prayers go with you and yours for things to work out in the long run.
god bless.
god bless.
Rip his nuts off. Sue him for alienation of affection. You'll get everything. Hopefully he isnt a dead beat that doesnt own anything independant of your income, otherwise, you just madea poor choice of mate all around.
Uhmm, you could try to contact the husband of the chick he's porking and try to get her shizznit too. After all, both of you are in the same boat. Perhaps she's a big earner?
Edited, Thu Sep 22 13:28:41 2005 by Lefein
Uhmm, you could try to contact the husband of the chick he's porking and try to get her shizznit too. After all, both of you are in the same boat. Perhaps she's a big earner?
Edited, Thu Sep 22 13:28:41 2005 by Lefein
I'm really sorry to hear that Nexa :(
I agree with everyone else, back out of the house if you can, or at least sale in lieu of foreclosure. Also don't forget to drop the other woman's husband a line, his testimony may help in your upcoming divorce. Be strong for your daughter. Men are as[/b]sholes, most of us really are.
I agree with everyone else, back out of the house if you can, or at least sale in lieu of foreclosure. Also don't forget to drop the other woman's husband a line, his testimony may help in your upcoming divorce. Be strong for your daughter. Men are as[/b]sholes, most of us really are.
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Mistress Nadenue wrote:
Flea, Nexa's in Maine. Helluva commute for you
Bah. You're right.
If you have a lawyer, start proceedings or at the very least have them draft a letter to him stating your intent to do so, about $50. It's not convenient for him, since cheating on you gives you the upper hand, and if he has a lawyer, he should urge him to do everything possible for an amicable divorce, ie, meeting your terms. Don't be proud. Think of your daughter. She'll need that money, and it's her right to have it.
Nexa, that so sucks. I'm sorry to hear this.
You'll get through it. Take deep breaths, and take things one step at a time.
On the up side, if Smash's wife leaves him for being the nutcase that he is, you'll be available!
Okay, okay, it's not much of an upside. Work with me here.
You'll get through it. Take deep breaths, and take things one step at a time.
On the up side, if Smash's wife leaves him for being the nutcase that he is, you'll be available!
Okay, okay, it's not much of an upside. Work with me here.
In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
Debalic wrote:
So...
How you doin'?
How you doin'?
Bastid beat me to it.
Best of luck Nexa. Things will get better, eventually.
Some people are like slinkies, they aren't really good for anything, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.
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