Go right now and talk to all the lawyers in a 30 mile radius, that way they can't deal with him it would be conflict of intrest, even if you don't plan on using them they can't help him. Thats the first thing you do, second get a really high priced lawyer and make his worthless ass pay for it, make sure you get Child support and alomoney and he has to make payments on the house. Lets put it this way you did nothing wrong and he has all the blame, take him to the cleaners. As for the heart break, if you not breast feeding then you should be drinking and how! Get your family in on this to help with child care, Parents, siblings, grand parents are all good. Sadly I know to much about all of this, Also if you are still married you can have your husband commited for 24 hour physcratict work, with out a doctors say so, just call bellvue and tell them you think he is haveing a mental break down. Trust me on this stuff it all works.