Late vs. LATEFollow

Me and the Mrs have had arguements/situations similar to this. For awhile I was doing Promotions for Miller Lite at night almost every day of the week. She unfortunatly had to get up for work at 5 AM and could not join me. I would call her 1/2 way through the promo with an ETA and for the most part I made it home at or around the time I told her.

Rare occasions I would hang out at the bar after a promo was over and have a pint or two. I would just lose track of time and next thing I know it is 2 hours past my ETA. Oops! I wouldn't call because she was sleeping and I did not want to disturb her or I figured she wouldn't notice.

Well she would notice and she would be extremely upset. She would say stuff like "your out hooking up with 21 year old whores!",etc. Also working at that hour with drunk jackoffs on the road can be trying on ones nerves and she would think the worst.

I would be defensive at first fighting back with, "I was not late, like only 15 minutes" But she was right and it (the arguement) would get to the point where I'd fess up to being an *** and a poor judge of time.

It was a bit irresponsible to pick up your son at 10pm when he was aware that he is used to going to bed at 8:30.

Although, in his defense he may have been frustrated already at not finding a spot to break away from the BBQ gracefully when he knew he should have and mostly angry with himself over the situation and then just deciding to take it out on you.

Oho! I think we got one of them wanna be trolls testing out the waters here.

The point was made by the hubby. Its that simple. Quit making something out of nothing. I was using *** in the sense that you're (assuming you are a guy) are acting like a typical irrational female.

how is it irrational to be worried over a loved one who is several hours late with no phonecall when that is not the normal behavior of said man, and then to be hurt when said man irrationally verbally cuts down the one who was worried for him with no provocation?

Edited, Fri Jul 29 10:16:17 2005 by deadsidedemon

Well with it put that way it certainly is not irrational....however you've already told us what your husband did (or did not do).

Look, it really is nothing. You are making an issue of something that shouldn't be one. Your husband said he was going to be late. To you, that may mean 1 hour...or 30 mins. To him it may mean something different.

If you *must* make an issue of it, then let it be the meaning of "late".

aand again, you are missing the point entirely. I am not mad for him being late. I am annoyed he didnt call, but I am more upset at the way he treated me when he finally called, urged by my mother, who knew I was worried. Maybe you dont think its such a big deal to cut down your SO verbally and make insulting remarks when there is no provocation to it, but in a normal decent relationship, it is uncalled for, and it hurts.

I am not making a big deal of this, I made this post to vent where I couldnt do it in real life at the time. I am not raging at him, but I was upset, and I feel, rightfully so.

I make it a point when there is a discussion, debate, or argument in my household, to be careful of what I say and to make sure whatever I say is not intentionally hurting the other. Thats called respect and love. SO when the tables are turned over a situation where I was merely worried over the safety of the one I love the most, and I am insulted with no reason other than the fact I was worried for him, I have every right to be hurt and upset at the way things were handled by him. I would expect you and everyone else who was in a similiar situation and had nasty comments thrown at them would feel the same way.

Get over the fact you think Im pissed cause he was late. Its not the major issue of the situation, and its not the point of my venting

Well obviously he thought there was provocation.

well obviously he was jumping to conclusions before I could open my mouth, if that were the case. In that case, why?