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Wife and I have a mutual friend. A mother of two boys ages 3, and 5. The husband was on crack, and is now in prison.

Last month she gets in this huge fight with her current boyfriend, and he kicks her out. We go help her move her stuff into storage, and offer a place to stay, which she accepts and moves in.

These kids are out of control, and I find myself regretting our offer to help.

We had hoped she would try and get some state help in order to get an apartment. But it seems that her only interest lies in latching onto a man to pay her bills. (I thought I knew her better than that.)

I guess it's true you never know someone untill you live with them. The other night she askes my wife to watch the kids while she goes out with her new man. My wife laughed at her and explained where she goes, the kids go.

I feel this girl is out to take total advantage of all she sees and everyone she meets. We are too old as cats, to be screwed by a kitten but, I just can't bring myself to kick those kids out onto the street. Killing her is wrong .... right?

Anyways, just venting a bit.

Kick her out and report your concerns to child protective services. Or if you're really heartbroken about the children, adopt them. She won't change, and it's better to kick them out now while you're still on decent terms, for your wife's sake.

Some people are just born underachievers.
/shrug

A friend of mine is in a slightly similar situation. Her sister lost her house and so the sister, her sister's husband and their two kids moved in with her. Her house was small to begin with for just her and the son so now it's bursting with people, they don't seem to be in any hurry to move out, continue to make demands and are a general nusiance. My friend is loathe to "throw them out" because one of the kids is a baby but eventually she's going to have to do it because some people just take advantage of a situation and justify it to themselves enough that they're never going to feel guilty about it.

You already know what you're going to have to do.

Give her a set time limit decided by you and your wife, of when she needs to be out and on her own two feet. If you have to, set it in writing. POst it on the fridge so its blatently there, both letting her know youre serious, and also to save your *** when the time comes for you to remove her from your property. If your wie feels the same as you but slightly guilty for wanting her out, this is a perfect way for you to get what you want. You wont look bad and it shows this parasite you mean business.

Make it understood you are here to help her get on her feet, but you wont do all the work for her. She has a family she needs to provide for, and even if that means working at McDonalds until the right "man" comes along, than thats what she has to do. If after the allotted time, she hasnt done anything, tell her you can no longer support her family. Dont worry, I am pretty sure she'll fnd another friend to leech off of. Those kind of people are really good at it

Live in your semi. It's the only way.

Hire hookers as needed.

Give her a month and then at the end of the month, ask her to pack up her bags and go.

If you're worried about the kids, call Child Protective Services anyways and explain the situation. They're in a bad situation as it is and need the help from some mature adult.

You are correct, sir!

Perfect!

Or do like my husband and I. Make sure we can always legitimately say "gee, we'd like to help, but it's simply impossible." Right now we have an attack cat that precludes us having house guests.