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Following in our recent trend, I have a question about a standard practice that I don't have a lot of experience with. Apparently some single gals I know have told me that they have a special someone, either an ex or a friend but sometimes even a barely-known acquaintance, that they use for the purposes of no-strings-attached sex.

I personally can't countenance the stranger bit, but the rest seems like it would eventually spin out of control as well. Anybody have any interesting stories to share? Are you able to carry on this kind of thing long-term? I tend to advise them, since I think that emotions will overrule practicality on one side or another, and eventually make a mess of things.

There was a long thread about a similar topic a few months ago, in which the OP stated that she was pretty sure that everybody has had Friends With Benefits at some point. An assertion that baffled me, anyway.

I'd give it a shot (what guy wouldn't), but I'm positive I'd become desperately clingy and emotionally attached within a few weeks.

Its my assertion that while people can become quite fond of one another without sex, that its ultimately sex that leads to love.

That being said, there is no such thing as casual sex. While you may THINK there is, its a trigger for the heart to get more involved than it should.

I only ever had one booty call/friend with benefits and it was incredibly short lived. Due mostly to the fact I fancied myself in love with his roommate...

edited due to an annoying tendancy to repeat myself.

Edited, Mon Feb 21 15:13:08 2005 by sheebasaurusrex

Tried it once with an ex. I could write a series of books about how that was a bad idea.

While I say I'm all for it, deep down I know it's a bad idea, and would never actually be able to practice it.

Fascinating. Some people may just have the right wiring for it, I suppose.

Only sex I ever had with an ex was shortly post-breakup, and awkward as all get-out. When you're contemplating the viability of jumping out of the window in the course of the act, you know it's just wrong.

Whenever Ive had sex with my "chewtoy" it has been absolutely amazing because we've been friends for so long. Of course the same is even more true with my current girlfriend because we've been friends for almost five years now and have been close since day 1. I think we're foolish to have sex or put romantic interest in people we dont really know. We simply superimpose all the things we want out of a relationship on someone we dont know so all they can do is ***** things up from there. But with a friend you know what they are about and they know what you are about. Its a much much more intimate experience whether romance is involved or not.

This is the main reason why I advocate the whole "friends with benefits" thing.

You sweet-talker.

And on a side note, she told me I rocked her like a Slipknot vs. Metallica concert.

Noisily, in a way that would affect her future hearing?

It can be done, but you both have to be on the same wavelength of expectations. If either one of the people has a crush on the other, it's not going to work.

If you have a casual friend (a friendly acquaintance is better than an actual friend) whose company you enjoy, find attractive, but have no real interest in having as your "one and only" then you may have a recipe for success. The biggest restriction is that I don't know that people can have the same playmate for any length of time without at least one of the parties getting emotionally attached.

All things being equal, ************ is easier and leads to less complications.