love her dearly, I think that is why I feel the way I do. The town we all live in is a dead end. She had dreams, hopes, etc and messed it all up in a moment. I am extremely worried about the physical aspect of this. She is a very petite.
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weather her life is messed up permantly or not is yet to be seen. i used to work with a girl who had a child at 16. she was 15 when she become pregnant. i knew her when she was 23.
she lived on her own. worked a full time job, and was going to a junior college 2 nitghts a week to get an AA degree.
yes, she was on food stamps, which Bush plans on cutting 1 billion dollars from this year. and yes, she was getting her after school care for her kid subsidized. but she was making it. all by herself. one of the most mature youung adults i have ever met, and most of it can be attributed to her having a child at such a young age.
if your friend has some familey support for caring for her child, there is no reason she cannot finnish school, and even get to college.
and if she really is your friend as well as your familey, your support would help immensly.
her life is not over. it is just starting. what she makes of herself is still totally up to her.
4 years ago, there used to be reproduction health taught in high school. her parents clearly failed her in this department. adn the current addministraition cut funding for schools teaching this type of material in public schools, thus guarenteeing your young friend would remain ignorant of the ramifications of her actions after her parents failed her.
she is not ignorant any more.
neither is she lost. life is not about a smooth road to a predetermined destination. life is about overcomming adversity. life is the path, not the destination.
your friend has a bumpy road to navigate, not a dead end....unless she makes it a dead end.
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Considering the fact that half of the people in my grade are 14, I can't see ANY of them being able to raise a baby, even the more responsible ones. And judging by the fact that your cousin seems quite a bit more irresponsible, I'm just simply scared about what could happen.
What would be sadder is that the 'Boyfriend' most probably would get away scot free, and repeat the process with another girl.
(It's not like he will be paying child support.)
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(It's not like he will be paying child support.)
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Ahh, Mlynn, that comment wasnt to you.
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So.....does this mean you "wuv" me?
Rarely would I ever encourage this, but why dont you tun your filter to never filter just this once?
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I shudder to think what pregnancy in those last few months does to the mind of a teenager.
i know this is going to sound a little harsh, but i shudder to think what the mind of a teenager is going to do to a child.
i do feel for the girl, really, but omg, the poor baby.
I just love how Jay is so lovingly bombing this thread in what looks like an attempt to hide an oddly out of character post, which I have rated up to help keep visible. 
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Edited, Fri Feb 18 01:04:44 2005 by pikko
Christ Jay, that was completely inappropriate. Seriously, your normally shi[i][/i]tty posts are one thing, but that sort of tripe is the sort of thing that I'd expect out of a horny 14 year old foul mouthed schoolboy. Grow up, or kill yourself. Either way, stop wasting our air to say crap like that.
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yeah, what the **** is wrong with you?
Lactating niples, shame on you! At least tell her to squeeze out the tit cheese that has accumulated first and put it in on a triscut for you, you ******* sicko.
Lactating niples, shame on you! At least tell her to squeeze out the tit cheese that has accumulated first and put it in on a triscut for you, you ******* sicko.
No, whats wrong with YOU. Everyone knows that Womancheese belongs on Saltines. You sexual deviants should all burn in hell.
14 isnt the scandalous age that it used to be, true. But Im betting its no easier now than it was a little while back. My own mother was 14 when she delivered my eldest brother, and had 2 more children at 15 and 16. Heres the scary part. Her husband was 22 when the first was born.
While I wont condemn the girl for getting pregnant, I will certainly agree that her parents hold the bag on this one. This girl has a hard, hard road ahead and a world full of very difficult realities to face. If the parents are as disinterested as you say, are there any other family members that can help pick up the slack?
I don't mean to be indelicate, but has adoption been considered as an option?
While I wont condemn the girl for getting pregnant, I will certainly agree that her parents hold the bag on this one. This girl has a hard, hard road ahead and a world full of very difficult realities to face. If the parents are as disinterested as you say, are there any other family members that can help pick up the slack?
I don't mean to be indelicate, but has adoption been considered as an option?
14 is kinda young.. but her life is not over just cause she got pregnant.. Maybe the father is stronger than you think..
I got my wife pregnant at 17.. Here 21 years later we're still kickin it.. Obviously we've had to sleep on a few floors.. it has only made us stronger..
Best ya can do is to support her, and advise where ya can.. Tearing her a new one.. now after the fact, will drive her away.. I say this because if you love her, you might be so inclined. (I know I would be)
I got my wife pregnant at 17.. Here 21 years later we're still kickin it.. Obviously we've had to sleep on a few floors.. it has only made us stronger..
Best ya can do is to support her, and advise where ya can.. Tearing her a new one.. now after the fact, will drive her away.. I say this because if you love her, you might be so inclined. (I know I would be)
I agree, what's done is done. Now you, and everybody around her should show thier support in the matter at hand. Will she get an abortion? Keep it? Get a job? Many questions will need to be answered in a relatively short amount of time.
I was taught all those important life lessons when I was growing up, but that didn't stop me from trying to get into every girls pants that I possibly could when I was in HighSchool (2, not that I wasn't trying hehe) I could have been in a similar boat, and actually came close when the g/f was "late", a scare that probably saved me future agony. So in that respect, I can't blame the parents, although it might have been a little on the stupid side to allow her to have a 17 year old b/f at 14. (but then she'd rebel and do it anyway, at least then they could say, "I told you so", but then that's a childish thing to do hehe) :/
I'd suggest an abortion for anybody under the age of 18. Of course that brings up a whole additional thread. hehe I feel that most children born to a girl under 18 will not be taken care of "properly", in that the mother in question usually has a lot of maturing to go through. There are statistics in this matter, but I don't have the patience to go wade through it all.
bottom line, if the child is born to an underage couple, likely it will be all ****** up later down the line. (for lack of professional words) hehehe BUT, you can help them avoid that by showing as much compassion and love even if you aren't that close.
*wishes he knew the little 1c cartoon*
I was taught all those important life lessons when I was growing up, but that didn't stop me from trying to get into every girls pants that I possibly could when I was in HighSchool (2, not that I wasn't trying hehe) I could have been in a similar boat, and actually came close when the g/f was "late", a scare that probably saved me future agony. So in that respect, I can't blame the parents, although it might have been a little on the stupid side to allow her to have a 17 year old b/f at 14. (but then she'd rebel and do it anyway, at least then they could say, "I told you so", but then that's a childish thing to do hehe) :/
I'd suggest an abortion for anybody under the age of 18. Of course that brings up a whole additional thread. hehe I feel that most children born to a girl under 18 will not be taken care of "properly", in that the mother in question usually has a lot of maturing to go through. There are statistics in this matter, but I don't have the patience to go wade through it all.
bottom line, if the child is born to an underage couple, likely it will be all ****** up later down the line. (for lack of professional words) hehehe BUT, you can help them avoid that by showing as much compassion and love even if you aren't that close.
*wishes he knew the little 1c cartoon*
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When I was in junior high, (so 11-12 years old) I had a friend who got pregnant under similiar circumstances, her boyfriend lived with them, etc.
Luckily for her, her boyfriend stayed with her, and her parents were very supportive and she was able to complete school. She started her senior year the same year her son started kindergarten.
I saw her not too long ago, and she is married to the father and her son is almost 14. I can't imagine having a 14 year old at my age, but she is doing a good job, because her family was there for her.
So for your cousin, if you want her to be a productive member of society, be supportive. She probably already realizes the mistake she made, she doesn't need everyone reminding her of it all the time.
Luckily for her, her boyfriend stayed with her, and her parents were very supportive and she was able to complete school. She started her senior year the same year her son started kindergarten.
I saw her not too long ago, and she is married to the father and her son is almost 14. I can't imagine having a 14 year old at my age, but she is doing a good job, because her family was there for her.
So for your cousin, if you want her to be a productive member of society, be supportive. She probably already realizes the mistake she made, she doesn't need everyone reminding her of it all the time.
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