So I pissed off my friend...Follow

You're half right. Before I had my kid, I could care less about someone else's kid taking their first "whatever". After having one, you'll get a deeper appreciation for such stupid things in life. I'm happy (and proud) that my kid can walk and talk and begin to show signs that she is understanding what the hell grown-ups are talking about, but I try not to announce it to everyone in the world.

My 5yr started his first year at school, this week.

I'm a very proud Dad.

When you don't have kids, you could care less. I was the exact same. Yay, you're kid learned to walk. yay, you're kid learned to say mommy. Whoopdee fu[b][/b]cking doo.

It all changes when you have your own child. you watch this tiny being that you and your partner created and you can not believe that you got it right somehow.

Each time this little person does something new it's almost an acomplishment from yourself. You cant believe that your child is actually learning and you can watch it happen before your eyes.

Things like the first steps, first word, etc are major stepping stones to a childs development. And you're friend is so excited it is happening, all he is doing is sharing this excitement to you. We parents do sometimes forget that no one outside the family cares. We can't help it. We're just SO damn proud! I try very hard to not talk about my son or his proud moments outside the family, but every once in a blue moon I lapse.


I know you could care less, but another angle to look at this situation is that your friend is very happy right now, and all he is doing is trying to share that happiness with you. You know you dont get it, and a part of him knows that too. Just smile, nod, let it roll over you, no biggie. In time, when you have a child of your own, you will undoubtedly do the sam,e thing without even realizing it

Actually, I couldn't care less.

That's right, my level of caring has reached it's nadir. There is no lesser amount that I could care. (It's my pet peeve this week, sorry, LadyD)

I'm happy for my friends when their kids give them joy, I really am. I feel bad that I don't want to hang out with my friend's toddlers. It gives me a headache. I'll admit it, trying to keep a 2 year old entertained is simply not enjoyable to me.

Give me a call when the kid is 8 and can keep themselves occupied while the grown ups talk.

I'm a bad, bad friend.

There is no requirement for you to sit through conversation that you have no interest in. You should probably let your friend know so he doesn't have the false impression that you care. However, if I was your friend I might seriously consider not taking your calls as often.

I'm not worried about him stayin pissed at me. We been buds for as long as we could talk. That's not an issue, and wasn't the point of my post. It was just a satirical comment on how people with kids get carried away talking about them, and people without kids usually aren't that interested. And yes, I exaggerated a bit for effect, and apparently offended someone.

But yeah, on a serious note I imagine my views will change when I have kids. It's just a poke at the parents reading who go overboard when talking about their precious babies.

I'm a mom, and I can't deal with other people's kids, either. But the worst (IMO) is grandparents.

I work with this older woman who insists on telling anyone in the office who will listen the little gem of wisdom that her granddaughter spouted. Every. Single. Day.

I have an aunty that is really REALLY bad with this. And her daughter is 19. When I sent out my birth story to my family she wrote back with one short paragraph of congratulations and then spent the rest of her e-mail filling me in on what my cousin was up to and what my cousin thought of my e-mail. She never stops talking about her daughter and when my mom started in on my baby she had the nerve to come tell me that my mom won't shut up about it.

Now I'm kinda worried that I do this in game though.. I usually try to stick to only saying things when people ask, but I do tend to announce funny things she does when she does them so I think I'll stop doing that now.

I plan to keep my kids under control by having This Guy fly by in a copter and fire tranq darts into their hind quarters. Yours too, if they run with my herd.

actually, and i know you feel that it was you being mean for not caring about the kid and everything, but what about the dude who talks about his kids all the time and doesnt pay enough attention to the friend (not saying that this IS the case, it's just a hypothetical). so, it's kinda both ways, just like any relationship. if dad is talking about kids too much so as to bore the crap out of friend, then dad needs to remember that friend has other things in his life. and the same for friend - friend needs to remember that daddy-o has kids now, and that they're going to run his life. so, sympathy both ways. and diapers for all.