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#1 Jan 14 2005 at 8:19 PM Rating: Default


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Management consultant William Fried told eighth-graders at Jane Lathrop Stanford Middle School on Tuesday that stripping and exotic dancing can pay $250,000 or more per year, depending on their bust size.

"It's sick, but it's true," Fried said in an interview later. "The truth of the matter is you can earn a tremendous amount of money as an exotic dancer, if that's your desire."

Fried has given a popular 55-minute presentation, "The Secret of a Happy Life," at the school's career day the past three years. He counsels students to experiment with a variety of interests until they discover something they love and excel in.

But school principal Joseph Di Salvo said Fried may not be back next year.

The principal said Fried's comments to the class came after some of them asked him to expand on why he included "exotic dancing" on his list of 140 potential careers.

Fried spent about a minute answering questions, defining strippers and exotic dancers synonymously. According to Jason Garcia, 14, he told students: "For every 2 inches up there, you should get another $50,000 on your salary."

"A couple of students egged him and he took it hook, line and sinker," said Di Salvo, who also said the students took advantage of a substitute teacher overseeing the session.

"It's totally inappropriate," Di Salvo said. "It's not OK by me. I would want my presenters to kind of understand that they are coming into a career day for eighth-graders."

That stripping advice wasn't the only thing that riled parents. Di Salvo said one mother said she was outraged when her son announced that he was forgoing college for a field he loves: fishing.

"He really focused on finding what you really love to do," said Mariah Cannon, 13.

Fried, 64, said he does not think he offended any of the students: "Eighth-grade kids are not dumb," he said. "They are pretty worldly."



I am almost lost for words, middle schoolers may not be as innocent as we think, but this is outrageous. If I was a parent I'd kick that guy's ***. Teach my kids how to be whores, and I'll beat you like one.

Edited, Fri Jan 14 20:27:19 2005 by Nabraben
#2 Jan 14 2005 at 8:25 PM Rating: Excellent
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Yes, yes. God forbid we tell our young minds the truth about the world. Let's wrap them up in social blankets that shield them from the truth that is the world, because, if my daughter knows the opportunity is out there, that means she will take advantage of it first chance she gets. And since I, her father, have no control over her sense of morals or self-respect, I must make sure she does not ever know of the evils that she can embrace or avoid.
#3 Jan 14 2005 at 8:28 PM Rating: Excellent
Where was the school adminstration during this event? I think the principal needs a lesson in supervision!
#4 Jan 14 2005 at 8:33 PM Rating: Decent
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Hey, it's a profession, and you can make money doing it. Chances are, the 8th graders will find out about it soon enough anyway (if they haven't already). It's probably better for them to find out in school. Frankly, I think this
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Teach my kids how to be whores, and I'll beat you like one


I cannot personally vouch for this, having never visited an exotic dancing establishment, but from what I'm told isn't there quite a difference between being a ***** and stripping?
#5 Jan 14 2005 at 8:42 PM Rating: Default
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I cannot personally vouch for this, having never visited an exotic dancing establishment, but from what I'm told isn't there quite a difference between being a ***** and stripping?



I wasn't referring to the literal ***** as much I was referring to the figurative. I.E, a promiscuous woman, rather than a person who has sex for money.
#6 Jan 14 2005 at 8:42 PM Rating: Default
Post so nice I had to post it twice.

Edited, Fri Jan 14 20:49:18 2005 by Nabraben
#7 Jan 14 2005 at 8:49 PM Rating: Decent
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I wasn't referring to the literal ***** as much I was referring to the figurative. I.E, a promiscuous woman, rather than a person who has sex for money.


Why do you think a stripper is promiscuous?
#8 Jan 14 2005 at 8:49 PM Rating: Decent
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I wasn't referring to the literal ***** as much I was referring to the figurative. I.E, a promiscuous woman, rather than a person who has sex for money


Ahh I see, well statement retracted.

Make no mistake, I don't condone anyone activly encouraging an 8th grader to strip for money. If there was a way to show them the opportunity without actually encouraging it, I may not have a problem with that.

I realize that there is a fine line between presenting and condoning, when the dust settles, I would probably rather not have my child shown exotic dancing as a profession, maybe tell them that people do it, but not in contex with a career fair.
#9 Jan 14 2005 at 8:50 PM Rating: Decent
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Because he has never seen a naked woman in person?
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#10 Jan 14 2005 at 8:53 PM Rating: Decent
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Because he has never seen a naked woman in person?


er... what exactly was that asking about?
#11 Jan 14 2005 at 8:56 PM Rating: Decent
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That was in response as to why Nabraben believes that strippers are promiscuous.
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#12 Jan 14 2005 at 9:15 PM Rating: Excellent
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Pensive wrote:

Make no mistake, I don't condone anyone activly encouraging an 8th grader to strip for money. If there was a way to show them the opportunity without actually encouraging it, I may not have a problem with that.


Except he wasn't actively encouraging 8th graders to strip for money. He simply listed it as one of 140 potential careers. He did exactly what you said you wouldn't have a problem with.

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I realize that there is a fine line between presenting and condoning, when the dust settles, I would probably rather not have my child shown exotic dancing as a profession, maybe tell them that people do it, but not in contex with a career fair.


Why not? Exotic dancing *is* a profession. It's a legal profession. Would you rather your child grow up naive of how the real world works, thinking she must go directly into a 4 year university and then a white collar job or she's "failed"? What happens to the 80% of students who *don't* follow that path? Do we just toss them aside?

You're actually increasing the likelyhood of those girls becoming "whores" by hiding the truth about that industry. If you make it just "something people do", but don't present it as a legitimate profession, then they'll think there's something wrong with it. By extension, anyone practicing that profession must have something wrong with them too (in addition to being a failure in society's eyes). And if you're already scum of the earth and an overall lower class of human being, you may as well get the quick bucks whoring while you're at it, right?


It's a legal profession. I'd question the motivation of someone who actively avoided mentioning it far more then someone who lists it along with 139 other professions. By doing that, you are implying something about the profession that exists *only* because some people think it's that way. It becomes self fulfilling. Guess what? No matter what that guy says in that classroom, a certain percentage of young girls will go on to be strippers at some point in their life. You can either have them approach it as a legitimate source of income, or something to be ashamed of and hide. Which do you think is the healthier attitude?
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#13 Jan 14 2005 at 9:31 PM Rating: Excellent
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Would you rather your child grow up naive of how the real world works, thinking she must go directly into a 4 year university and then a white collar job or she's "failed"?
And that's a risk if someone doesn't extol the virtues of exotic dancing to 8th graders?
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#14 Jan 14 2005 at 9:34 PM Rating: Decent
As an added to what gbaji said:

I've been to a few Strip Joints. Nothing special. Women dancing. Taking off clothes etc. Fun if you understand the concept. They dance, try to make you horny, waitresses try to get you drunk so you'll tip more etc. Just as long as you understand it's their job and nothing more.

Now, most of the strippers I've met have been young and pretty. About 18-25. They have told me they're working their way through college or supporting a child, or both.

Well that may be a line to generate sympathy for more money or the truth. Point is, is that there ARE alot of strippers who work dancing to pay for college. I've even known a few girls in college who, as it turned out, were dancers.

So they are advancing their career futures by doing something that is good for their health (if they stay off drugs and don't drink to excess) and pays for school.

Not compared to whoring which has no health benefits and is far more dangerous.
#15 Jan 14 2005 at 9:40 PM Rating: Good
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And if you're already scum of the earth and an overall lower class of human being, you may as well get the quick bucks whoring while you're at it, right?


Whoa, Whoa, there I never said this at all. Really, I probably misspoke. There is a big difference between a stripper and a prostitute

Look, It's a legal profession, and pays lots of money apparently. I have nothing against those that choose to persue the profession for money or otherwise. Frankly, in an ideal world, I would want the job to be presented in a career fair.

Furthermore I certianly don't consider anyone that can make 250 grand a year a "failure" to society. I would love to make that kind of money, and if someone can make it exotic dancing, more power to them.

There is just some part of me that thinks, well, 8th graders are impressionable beyond anyone's imagination. I remember about then five years ago when everyone and thier brother were interested in doing the "cool" thing. Except for several like me considered outcasts, everyone basicly copied everyone else.

The thing is, if and 8th grader saw one job offering 250,000 a year, and another paying 60,000 a year, the vast majority will get $$$ in thier eyes and forget about anything else.

I have nothing personally against how anyone chooses to make thier living, stripping or otehrwise. The thing is, other people do, and an 8th grader needs to know, if they choose to go into a profession that is looked down upon by the "proper" and "right minded" folks and ideals that pervade the country, then the 8th grader should be made aware of those consequenses, just as in any other job.

In other words, if you go against the societal norm of what is a "good" or "bad" profession, awesome, you even have my encouragement, but only if you realize that not everyone will see the profession as respectable or good.
#16 Jan 14 2005 at 9:40 PM Rating: Decent
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Edited, Fri Jan 14 21:48:25 2005 by Pensive
#18 Jan 14 2005 at 9:47 PM Rating: Decent
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I have nothing personally against how anyone chooses to make thier living, stripping or otehrwise. The thing is, other people do, and an 8th grader needs to know, if they choose to go into a profession that is looked down upon by the "proper" and "right minded" folks and ideals that pervade the country, then the 8th grader should be made aware of those consequenses, just as in any other job.

In other words, if you go against the societal norm of what is a "good" or "bad" profession, awesome, you even have my encouragement, but only if you realize that not everyone will see the profession as respectable or good.


But that's true about a lot of professions. I wouldn't suggest he not talk about sanitation work, or clerical work, or cashier work. Not to mention something like the military, which a lot of peaceniks look down on. He's teaching a simple thing--a job and its value, not the sociological consequences of a job.

As said, it is a valid profession, a well-paying one, and there's no good reason IMO not to show it's a possible future profession. In denying them the truth, all we do is perpetuate the stereotype that it's a "bad" profession. I agree with Gbaji.
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I wouldn't suggest he not talk about sanitation work, or clerical work, or cashier work
None of those jobs has the societal taboos that stripper does.

Cult leader is a legal profession (provided you stay within the law) that can net you millions of dollars. Would you recommend that?
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#20 Jan 14 2005 at 10:34 PM Rating: Decent
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The article doesn't say he recommended being a stripper, just that you could make money doing it.

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"It's sick, but it's true," Fried said in an interview later. "The truth of the matter is you can earn a tremendous amount of money as an exotic dancer, if that's your desire."


If a kid has the charisma to pull off being a cult leader, he should go for it. If he has the family connections he should aim for the Presidency.
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#21 Jan 14 2005 at 10:45 PM Rating: Good
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The thing is, if and 8th grader saw one job offering 250,000 a year, and another paying 60,000 a year, the vast majority will get $$$ in thier eyes and forget about anything else.


I think you're forgetting one thing. Most 8th graders are extremely self-concious about their bodies. They are usually in the midst of puberty, and their worst nightmare is probably being naked in a room full of people. I doubt they'll see the money and forget about that very pressing fact.

Edited, Fri Jan 14 22:58:14 2005 by KakarSmakar
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#22 Jan 14 2005 at 10:55 PM Rating: Decent
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Aere you people aware that most strippers are fu[b][/b]cking all junkies? This is not a stereotype, it IS a fact. Wehn they hit the dressing room, the powder hits their nose.
It comes with the job. It's a sub-culture, to deny that is naivity.
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#23 Jan 14 2005 at 11:04 PM Rating: Decent
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link the stats please?
#24 Jan 14 2005 at 11:17 PM Rating: Decent
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1) My taboo is not with strippers, but 8th graders being told its a good idea.

2) My problem is that many 8th graders are already aware of the stripper proffession, but an Adult reinforcing the idea of it to kids is NOT, okay by me.

3) Another problem is that William used deceptive techniques, a stripper making 250k a year is a very rare case, if strippers were paid that much on average there would be a lot more.

4) Sounds more like a recruitment drive than career day to me.

Hope that clears up my point for you.
#25 Jan 14 2005 at 11:21 PM Rating: Decent
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this is based on my personal experience and observations.
Maybe it's differnt outside of danky *** Baltimore.
I watch for that sort of thing for some reason, maybe I just developed an eye for it when most of my close friends became junkies themselves. I'm sure there's the working college girl trying to make an honest buck.... but really... come on now...
matter of fact 2 weeks ago I was talking to a friend who was friends with the head cook for the XXXXXXXXXX Club Smiley: wink2, and she was on about how she would never go into that dressing room, because not only are most of the dancers junkies, but bi-sexual too, and as soon as they get off the stage they're snorting and licking everything in sight. Sad and harsh and stereotypical of me, I know, but I call it as I see it. and I'm an ******* to boot.

Edited, Fri Jan 14 23:45:53 2005 by Kelvyquayo
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"Aere (sic) you people aware that most strippers are ******* all junkies? This is not a stereotype, it IS a fact. Wehn (sic) they hit the dressing room, the powder hits their nose.
It comes with the job. It's a sub-culture, to deny that is naivity (sic)."

Good facts. Cause, ya, they give out coke when you show up for the job. I imagine that since you know this, you yourself must strip. Why do you hate yourself so much?
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