I live with my parents. They would not be able to afford the mortgage and all thier bills if I didn't pay them rent. I have half the house to myself, and this allowes me to have extra cash on hand usually, and also to buy all the "toys" I love.
My girlfriend and I live about 2 hours apart. She has her own home, and will also inherit one. She has a job that pays well, as do I, and neither of us are unhappy about where we live, and our arraingment on seeing each other.
My girlfriend and I don't want kids, both of us are happy without them, and don't want to give up what we enjoy to make some newcomer feel special. I am not comfortable around kids, and she gets her fair share from her job.
Our biggest problem is I love pets, and she is allergic to animal hair and feathers in general. We don't fight, we talk, and then we reslove our issues. We enjoy each others company when together, and when apart we both do think about each other and also spend time on the phone.
Physically we are compatable since we both are very liberal in bed together, and we are both comfortable with showing affection to each other.
On rare occasions I feel as if I am spinning my wheels, but on most occasions are am happy with life and with my girl. I smile when I think of her, and smile when I am with her.
So, on that note, would any of you be able to be happy in this type of situation?
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Well, if *you're* happy, what does it matter what the rest of us think? Only issue I could see if it were me would be the animal problem. I've made a commitment to my pets, and will not shirk that responsibility like many others do/would.
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Sounds like an independent adult relationship to me!
You get big points for being willing to help your parents out!
You get big points for being willing to help your parents out!
It wouldn't be the ideal situation for me but everyone is different. Sounds good that it's working for you. If your girlfriend is happy with the arangment as well then it sounds like you too have it pretty good right now.
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I don't see anything 'wrong' with it.
Not for me, but then I'm antisocial, paranoid and several other antis/oids.
Not for me, but then I'm antisocial, paranoid and several other antis/oids.
Sounds cool to me, not that i could live that way myself but horses for courses and all that.
If you like it and everyone around you is benefiting from the way you are living that is just about the best you can hope for.
If you like it and everyone around you is benefiting from the way you are living that is just about the best you can hope for.
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Not for me, but then I'm antisocial, paranoid and several other antis/oids.
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Out of curiousity, what do your parents plan to do if you and this girl get married and raise goldfish together? Sell the house? You make it sound like you're the only thing allowing them to afford the place they're in now but you also say you have half the house to yourself so it seems they don't really need you around as much as they just need a smaller place.
As for your story, I'll parrot everyone else: I wouldn't be happy but it sounds like you and everyone else involved are so go for it.
As for your story, I'll parrot everyone else: I wouldn't be happy but it sounds like you and everyone else involved are so go for it.
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Wow. Regular ol' Joph fan club in here.
My parents are only keeping this house because my sister and I still live in it. Once we move out, they won't be able to keep the house neither.
Once we leave, they're gonna buy something smaller, in the city. I think his parents would do something like that too.
To OP: It seems like you and your girlfriend have a very wonderful relationship, and yet, there is something in your post, the way you ask the final question. I wonder, are you happy with it? It sounds like you've been asking yourself that question a lot and now seek answer from other people. I fear that the only answer you should follow is the one coming from yourself.
I would move out of your parent's house and in with your girlfriend. I don't know your age, but I think you're both old enough to have your own house by now. As for your parents, don't worry, they've probably been thinking about their situation when you would leave since the day they got you. I know my parents are just waiting for me to move out so that they may sell the house and buy something smaller. I would advice you to ask your parents what plans they have made for the future. Talk over the situation.
But first, search your mind for the answer to your question. It sounds so cliché, but in your heart you know what you want.
That is all I can help you with.
Edited, Sun Dec 26 18:46:03 2004 by Qaoz
Once we leave, they're gonna buy something smaller, in the city. I think his parents would do something like that too.
To OP: It seems like you and your girlfriend have a very wonderful relationship, and yet, there is something in your post, the way you ask the final question. I wonder, are you happy with it? It sounds like you've been asking yourself that question a lot and now seek answer from other people. I fear that the only answer you should follow is the one coming from yourself.
I would move out of your parent's house and in with your girlfriend. I don't know your age, but I think you're both old enough to have your own house by now. As for your parents, don't worry, they've probably been thinking about their situation when you would leave since the day they got you. I know my parents are just waiting for me to move out so that they may sell the house and buy something smaller. I would advice you to ask your parents what plans they have made for the future. Talk over the situation.
But first, search your mind for the answer to your question. It sounds so cliché, but in your heart you know what you want.
That is all I can help you with.
Edited, Sun Dec 26 18:46:03 2004 by Qaoz
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