I will refrain from making a "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it" comment, my mum said it all the time to me growing up. But... I shall answer your questions. Keep in mind, I do not have children, nor do I plan to. However, I have an idea as to what my reaction would be.
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1. Dad/Mom Suzy and I where thinking of going to a party on Saturday and we where thinking of trying drugs.
First, I am glad that you are comfortable enough with me to even approach me about this, because most kids won't. That shows that you're responsible and honest.
You've been lectured since childhood about the dangers of drugs and drinking, and the impact these things can have on your life, so I won't stress that. The fact is that as a result of this lecturing, you're going to be more curious about these things, and thus be much more prone to trying them. Speaking from my own experiences, drugs are not all they are cracked up to be. There is ridiculous hype surrounding them, positive and negative. I know you are aware of all the dangers surrounding drugs, and that your real decision whether or not to do them lies in what you think they will accomplish. An escape? Not really, they just make you dumber and less able to handle your current life. Want friends to think you're cool? Really, it won't much matter. Having people like you is a big thing, I know, but if their judgement on you is based solely on your willingness to do drugs, they aren't a very good friend.
I am going to trust that you know what you are doing and trust that you can make an intelligent, informed decision. I strongly and sincerely hope you won't try drugs. It's illegal, it's unhealthy, and it just isn't worth the trouble. I respect you to do what's right. However, if I find out you are using drugs, I will take action.
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2. Mom/Dad Suzy and I are getting to a point in our relationship where we are trying to decide are condoms the right choice or should she use the pill?
I understand that you care for Suzy quite a bit, and feel like you're ready. However, you are young, and your hormones and your brain tells you things that might not neccessaraly be logical. Before you do anything like that, take a step back and examine your relationship. Sex is something that should only be shared with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Are you sure you know you want that this early in your life? Children are not ready to have sex. There is much more you can share just by talking and getting to know each other than there is by having sex. It's supposed to be special, not meaninglessly done, and thus should be saved.
However, there is no way I can keep you from doing it. So I will say that I advise condoms AND birth control. Condoms keep you safe from pregnancy and STDs but they can break -- as an emergency combatant to at least the pregnancy there are the pills as a backup line.
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3. Dad/Mom I was thinking of going to a meeting with a bunch of my friends on wednesday night. I know we have never discussed this issue before, but is it all right if I go to church?
I personally do not believe in any religion, but that is my own personal belief. If you are old enough and wise enough to question your own existance and meaning as well as the possibility of a higher power, then you are most certainly capable of making such a decision for yourself. Go, and if you want to talk about anything or just hear another opinion, I'm here.
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4. Dad/Mom I'm getting these funny feelings everytime I'm around george, I mean there like more intense than when I thought suzy was the girl for me? What if I was gay?
You're young and at this point the line between "Gay" and "Straight" becomes blurred and skewed. You're too young to know for sure what you are. Having feelings for another male isn't disgusting, though, and is something alot of adolescents face. Wait a bit and see how these feelings develop.
If you were gay, I would see nothing wrong. I don't see anything wrong or immoral about being gay. Humans have souls capable of loving another being soul-to-soul, and the precense of a certain organ are in no way vital to that love. Humans mate for much more than mere procreation, and having feelings for someone of the same gender is normal, albeit shunned in our society.
I care for you gay or straight, it's your decision. See where it takes you.
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5. Dad/Mom the condom broke when Suzy and I where at the park awhile ago and now Suzy thinks she's pregnant, what should I do or should she get an abortion?
If she has obvious signs of pregnancy, get her a pregnancy test. First, get one of the 'home' kits, and if it reads negative but the symptoms persist, get her tested by a doctor. Keep in mind that she might be so frightened at the possibility of pregnancy that she can imagine the symptoms.
If she is pregnant, what she does with the baby is entirely up to her. She can abort it if it's early enough, as long as she makes sure she is completely and totally sure about the decision. Another advisable course of action is to put the child up for adoption, there it will find a loving family to raise it.
However, being so young, she is not fit to be a young mother, nor are you fit to be a young father. Children raising children is not a good idea, and not only can mess up your lives, but the child's as well.
I hope you see that there are consequences to these actions, and how serious they are.
Well that's my two cents. Bye!