Most of this thread has devolved into mindless namecalling, but I want to address this (since you kinda asked a question):
Weatherwax wrote:
" We want to be able to marry eachother! I've been with her for 30 years and I want all the legal benefits that married couples get! "
How dare you!! Your shoving that down my throat! Bahhh!!
Come on! You can pull something better than THAT out of your ***.
I will admit that this gay marriage issue has not been handled the best possible way by all these equal rights activists. But I guess our lawsuits are just our way of saying, " No. Im not moving to the back of the bus. ".
There are more reasons for opposing gay marriage then the ultra-religous ridiculousness that Varrus is spouting. If you don't like his reasons, then try listening to mine.
Way back in time, when man first started forming larger communities, they discovered (ok, they already knew this but bear with me) that if a man and a woman had sex there was a chance that the woman would become pregnant. Pregnancy in the ancient world was a pretty serious hardship (and is still a pretty big deal today - ask any womens rights activist about something as basic as materity leave rights). Additionally, human young are notoriously weak and defenseless for a significant amount of time. Not days or weeks like most animals in the wild, but *years* of being unable to care for themselves. Early settled societies had to come up with a mechanism to ensure that there weren't a ton of starving women because they were unable to find food and support themselves due to the time requirements of caring for a child. Additionally, they needed to make sure that the children weren't dying for the same reasons. Thus, the concept of marriage was born. The idea being that a man who had sex with a woman must care for any children that result.
Over time, this concept became more refined. After all, if men and women were having sex with anyone they wanted at any time, then how is one to know which man must care for the children that result? This led to concepts of monogamy and rules forbidding pre-martital sex. As with all things though, in order to force people to do something that is for the greater good of the entire civilization, you must have laws, and those laws must carry with them rewards for following them (social acceptance and support) and punishments for failure to accept them (social outcasting, refusal of support, ******* children being lower classes, etc).
When we think of civil marriage, we're looking at the result of that process. If you break down what a civil marriage is about here in the US, 100% of it is applicable to the idea of ensuring that the children that result from a man and a woman being sexually active together are cared for. We have laws about guardianship, and joint power of attorney, and inheritance, shared resources, and everything else that is intended to ensure that children are cared for as much as *both* parents can together. While the concept has gotten a bit displaced from the original idea, it's still not that far removed. We certainly don't require that married couples produce children (or ostracize them if they don't), but that's because we don't live in ancient times with hideout mortality rates, a highly labor intensive society, and the need to outpopulate other neighboring civilizations in order to survive long term. We also don't hold as strict rules against pre-marital sex as we once did.
Despite all this, the institution of marriage is still based on the assumption that a man and a woman who are sexually active together may produce children, and those children should have to legally bound parents in order to ensure proper support. We've added more rules for what to do when a man and a woman *don't* get married before/when they have children, but there is *nothing* to support the idea that a gay/lesbian couple should be able to get married. It's kind of like a blind person insisting on the right to get a drivers license. You can't drive a car anyway, so what's the point? We give you an ID card instead, right?
The point that Varrus touches upon (the idea of gays pushing the issue) is that gays are not happy with the equivalent of an ID card instead of a drivers license. They (as a lobbying group, not individually of course) refuse to accept some sort of alternate status (like "life partner" or something similar) which could allow for the legal needs of two people who choose to share their life. Nope. They insist that they must be able to be legally "married". There is a reason for resistance to this. Most states explicitly define marriage as a legal union between a man and a woman. I've explained why that is the case. Now explain to me why a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be able to gain the same legal state?
As a note, while many ancient societies did not have any prohibition towards homosexuality, it was *never* to my knowledge considered a "replacement" for marriage. To the Greeks homosexuality was essentially an acceptable sexual outlet for men before they got married (still playing on the "no pre-marital sex concept). It was specifically someth8ing you did before or *instead* of getting married, but was still tied to the same concept. You had sex with another man so as to avoid ******* children if you had sex with a woman in the same context (ie: not married). I am not aware of any ancient society that actually had homosexual marriage as an institution.