Girls are dumbFollow

My Grandfather used to have a saying about Women.

He used to say "Marry for looks boy, because on the inside, there isn't a nickels worth of difference between any of them."

I don't know if it's true or not, but my wife is a hotty.

My mother started menopause back when I was still in high-school and her whole mood-swing thing went into turbo mode. She was... well, she was a hateful she-***** from the very depths of Hell. It totally wasn't her, it was the hormones she was trying to process. However, my mother is allergic to all sorts of medications, so she didn't have a medical option to turn to to help her balance things out (she's allergic to most mood-affecting medications).

What her doctor told her to do was meet with a "natural healing" specialist. The doctor she went to see (yep, even doctors are turning to herbal medicine these days) suggested she try a couple of things.

First, he had her taking St. John's Wort, which is sort of a natural anti-depressant. It doesn't have any side effects like chemicals do, it just helps the body regulate its hormone balances. Secondly, the doctor suggested that my mother keep chamomile (the fresh herb) or chamomile tea on hand. Chamomile has a natural effect of centering your moods when you're in an extreme moodswing. My mum bought chamomile flowers and started an herb garden, and whenever she went off the deep end she would go pick a leaf from the flower and chew it. That's the best way of taking it because it's absorbed through your tongue and mouth and starts helping ASAP. She also bought a *lot* of herbal teas, and just the act of boiling water and sitting down for a quiet cup of tea would help her calm down and regain control of herself.

You might try doing the same thing, we all DEFININTELY saw a big difference in my mother once she started doing all that. There was something else she was taking to help her sleep at night, Villaron Root or something like that. Next time I speak to her I'll ask about it and find out for sure what it is and what it does for you.

I'll look into the herbal teas for sure, thanks Sabo ^^

St. John's Wart is great all except for one tiny detail...it nullifies being on birth control.

Hmm...reinforcement, eh? That makes sense...it's like, "sweetie, I know you don't feel well right now, but I'm here for you!".

I need someone to tell me that right about now T.T

One last thing...

My fear is that once someone knows I can be like this they won't want to have anything to do with me afterward. It truly feels like a disease sometimes. I just want to feel normal :-(

Again, at the risk of sounding sexist i just believe that women are more geared for relationship life than guys. There are a LOT of people who have role reversal problems. When a guy seeks to not take charge he puts all the problems on the woman which ALWAYS (seen it from many many instances in my life) ends up making both people miserable. When I see the girl seeking leadership or to "be the tough one" she always ends up with a worthless sap *****-man she can push around. It gets old to her and she starts looking for an "alpha male" usually without fail ar the six month mark. We're just different. If we were as dependant emotionally as women are then relationships would be very unhealthy for everyone. Co-dependency is the scariest most lame ish I have ever had the misfortune of running across in my life.

I can't tell if I try to be too independant or what...

I'm so afraid of upsetting the person that I keep it all inside till I can't handle it anymore. I don't want to weigh them down, that's not what relationships are about...

Bah, it's hard to explain, I'm not exactly in a relationship right now but there are hints of things and that can be a hard situation when you're upset, you don't know where the right place to turn is.

Thanks Sabo, I needed to hear that, more than you know.

Man I hate being mushy >.< someone insult me quick!

Seriously, guys, you're scaring me!

I was expected to be flamed into oblivion for posting this.

Thanks for your help, it means a lot to me, I don't like talking about this sort of thing often (bah there goes that independant nature again), but it's nice to know I'm not the only one, that's for sure.

So far it seems that the guy I've been talking to is pretty understanding. I shy away from being too emotionally open with people that I'm not exactly dating, not really sure why, guess I just don't think they want to deal with it that's all.

Final thought.

Give him ****, he'll be yours forever.

I cant help but wonder if she is discussing **** sex with her date or emotional issues? I find this quite amusing

Trust it from a guy with Tourette's, you'll feel a lot better if you run around your backyard screaming your fu'cking head off. Another thing that helps is punching things until you get tired. Violence owns.

Lefein thinks men have to be in control in the relationship because he's dating an asian girl that likes to pretend she's 13.