DumpingFollow

Dumping via email = lame. Whats a bunny boiler? :)

Sounds to me like the split already happened. He is just trying to explain some things.

Yes, it was established already that we were splitting up, the email was in response to an email she sent me asking "what happened?".

You guys never seen Glen Close in Fatal Attraction?

Ahhh, bunny boiler = snakes in the head.


Now that's cleared up, I can address your original post a bit better.

If I think I can get them to dump me instead, I'll do that. It's much easier on them that way.
But if they refuse to take the hint(s) and it progresses to the point I absolutely must be the one who's doing the dumping, I prefer to be as tactless as necessary. Honesty doesn't even really enter the picture. If I'm dumping someone, I don't really want to see them for a while. So I try to make sure it's mutual. I quietly and calmly tell them a few things they really don't want to hear about themselves.

This hasn't always been successful for me. It seems that some women thrive on abuse. Since physical abuse is not on the menu, I have had to tuck tail and run/hide a few times after trying to drive one off. I suppose I could have chucked rocks and yelled, 'Git on outtaheah!' but it's just not my style. I prefer non-confrontation as much as possible.

Only rules I have are be honest, and no farewell nookie! I don't want it drawn out either, so I want to get it all out in the open in one fell swoop. It may not be kind, but it is for me the best way, I tend to try way to long before giving up.

no farewell nookie!


That's just harsh.

Even I have succumbed to farewell nookie once or twice.

Heheh, funny thread. And had you been breaking up with me, Pat, I'da bought you a beer for making what normally is an awkward situation better by injecting some humor into an otherwise tedious task of ending a relationship that both know, deep down, was fatally flawed anyhow.

Solid feedback from a jilted SO is tough to get since they normally take that opportunity to vent on you. She should consider herself lucky. Of course, when we read about a young man slain in a gruesome fashion by a neurotic ex-girlfriend, whose body was subsequently found in a large pot boiling merrily away on the stove, we'll know what really happened...

Totem

Wanna beer?

Totem

There's nothing better than goodbye lovin'

That works too.

I'd think one of your should at least leave the room before you're offically broken up.

Wow is that wrong on so many levels... I kind of wish I hadn't clicked that link now

No, then you write "Goys next door --> "