It's a little ball surrounded by soft skin, towards the top of the ******.
When giving oral/finger pleasure, you have to be aware because sometimes the more aroused a woman gets, the deeper the **** goes into it's protective layer of skin. Most times you don't want to put too much pressure on it, as it is a very sensitive area. Most times rubbing around it is enough, until you're well into intercourse where your lady is nice and warmed up and ready for direct stimulation.
It's not a thing that is very easy to explain, you have to be comfortable with a woman, and she has be comfortable with you as well. It's a very "hands on" type of subject.
So, tough luck Crim, looks like you'll never know.
Edited, Mon Sep 6 20:38:20 2004 by Skeeter