Am I just being cynical?Follow

Today at work, a co-worker, and friend of mine, told me he was having his girlfriend move in with him.

A little backround on this relationship...

He met her about eight months ago, at a bar.
She was there with her HUSBAND.
As the story goes, husband and wife had a little spat, and the husband left.
My buddy to the rescue...

So, they have been "dating" ever since. Apparently, she has filed for divorce, and it will be final the end of this month.


Now, I have never been one to condone adultery, but at the same time, I wasn't the one doing it, so I held my tounge. However, after his statement today, and his talk of his deep feelings for her, I had only one question for him.

"How do you know she won't cheat on you?"
I mean, she's done it before, right?
He called me a cynical bastage.

So, what do you all think? Is it something you would be concerned about? Or am I indeed, just a cynical bastage?

you know those movies where the friend of the bedt friend who is about to make a huge mistake knock him out in some comical way and kidnap him to some other location resulting in hilarious hijinks and the guy eventually avoiding the train wreck relationship through a typically slapstick comedic ending?

yeah, those movies.

You might want to consider it as a viable option?

Nope you were completely right. I wouldn't trust her as far as I could throw her. I think people forget their vows after they marry. Especially if your a christian, the vows say it all. I just won't fully trust a person who has been divorced. Of course, I don't think people understand the word commitment anymore either. Probably the reason I am holding off on marriage for another 6 years. Most people make my teeth ache.

Nah, he is a grown man, and very capable of making his own decisions. I have just never thought of myself as a cynical person. Well, untill now.

I just think I would have a problem trusting her.
Has this ever been an issue for you?

Not being cynical at all. More like being a realist.

My story (from about 6 years ago):
Started seeing a girl, she said she was single. We dated for about a year, she cheated on me while i was away at college, end of relationship. Found out from a friend of hers (bumped into her at a bar) about a year later that she wasn't broken up with her previous boyfriend when we started dating (they were still together for about 6 weeks before she fully commited to me.

On the other hand, when i'm not in a relationship i know i can call her anytime and hate **** her.

I usually don't post on subjects like this, but come on. So it's better a woman stay with a ******* who beats her? So she gets divorced and that makes her a bad woman? Gimme a break.

I agree, I have no problems with divorced women, but married ones cheating on thier husbands.

I don't mean to come off as a high and mighty, and I am not a religious person. However, I think that if a marrige isn't working, get a divorce. I see no need in adultery.

*edit* Also, married men, cheating on thier wives.

Edited, Fri Jul 16 18:28:57 2004 by Frederick

That's grand, but the statistical odds of her remaining faithful are against you.

Just saying.

OMG, was I?

On second thought, don't.

That's right.



Edited, Fri Jul 16 19:44:36 2004 by CrimsonMagician

Sorry, I was just being cynical.