RL males using IG female charaters: Why play the female roleFollow

As I logged in last night a LS member sent me an interesting tell.

Damnit hit return to quick,
Anyways here is my question to this forum. So we all know that some female accounts are controlled by RL males. { I'm one of them} When you do this you get the usuall play from people of flirts, hitting on, and harrassment. Myself personaly, I get a kick outa telling them that I'm a guy. Here is what I don't get, why would player X {ie: the one acting to be a rl girl} lead player Y {ie: the one acting like a rl guy} to belive that they were a female and go out of their way to make someone belive it. [ie: sending a picture of a rl girl to player Y} To me this is just twisted. And the only reason I'm posting this is because there can at times be emotions involved. {as strange as that sounds}
This may be a lame post and I may get rated down, But the moral of my story without going into the details of it is this.
People have feelings, This is a game of fantasy yes, but to flat out lie is just wrong. To take advantage of someone helping you because they think your a female, is wrong. To accept gifts from someone because they think your a female is just flat out taking advantage of the situation.
I guess I'm just trying to vent and maybe get some input back because I have developed some great friendships with people from this game. And to log on and hear that someone you have played this game with for the last 8 months did get their feelings hurt from being lied to by someone else sucks.
So, sorry for ranting here, but its just something that I needed to get off my chest about my friends situation. And for those of you that read this thread and are in anytype of a similar situation, I have a saying for you that come from my line of RL work.
" I'll need two pices of I.D. , your social security #, D.O.B. and your home phone# starting with area code."
Point is know who your dealing with the best you can.

one more thing: I read a thread here about harrassment of female players. My wife plays pebble also, used to play more than I did till some jerk harrased her to the point that she wont log in anymore. So yes I can understand that situation 100% of wanting to not play anymore due to other players actions that are just flat out imature and uncalled for.

nah... that only happens if you disagree with someone on the forum... even if what you say makes sense

if one of the "pcak rats" disagree with you, then you need to backpeddle and agree with them to avoid being rated down

I could read all of what you said, but i think i got most of it.

I think its nothing wrong with Males Playing Female characters.
Its a roleplaying game after all. But Shemales(Lets call us that.) that lure other people to think they are Female IRL is just wrong.
In my opinion its worse then Scamming someone of some prizy item.
Because we all know that you can create feelings with someone over internet, and when you find out that your "Net GF" is a man, you might get hurt.

I personaly tell the other guy that i am a Male if that person starts talking to me in a way that would imply(?) that he thinks i am a Female. But most of the people i play with at highlevel already know that i am a Male, so its not often it happens.

But one thing that has happened to me, was in Dunes when i leveled some job. A girl was starting to hit on me. She was lesbian and wanted me to do strange stuff with my avatar. That was freaky.
And she wanted me to go to Gusgen on a date. O.o

I just wanted to try something different. Male characters look so plain and boring. It isn't to intentionally decieve any woman or man in the game..if I sense they are getting a thing for me(happened alot..)I tell them what I am. If no one never asks, I don't never say anything. However I get irritated by the question sometimes because in the past I have been in arguements with guys who were angry because I wasn't female.

Well, I'm a girl with a female char. I'm not 100% certain as to the point of an in-game relationship. For the most part, I try very hard to avoid them.

One of my best friends played a F char. He didn't know about marriages at that time either and he regretted picking an F. But he wanted it because he didn't want to stare at a male *** all day. I'm usually in 1st person mode so I don't really see much ***. I've heard another theory that some guys want to feel "in control" of a girl... this is a good outlet for that I suppose.

Perhaps this is not the best thread to also pop the question why do people feel the need to have them? I definitely have good friends in-game, but no IG boyfriend. To have a relationship makes this game "too real" for me. I rather keep it as a "fantasy" and be grounded in the world around me. I'm not sure if I'm alone in my feeling.

If I did go out with someone IG as by bf, I would feel more comfortable with the idea if he really was my IRL bf. I do hear of people hooking up IRL due to the game and it's awesome to see something like this bring two people.

Now here's an interesting question.


Why do girls get treated differently than guys do? Why are males driven to give gifts or money or go out of thier way to help just because they believe that person to be female?

Why is it so blatant that those SoB's that are out for themselves would consider pretending to be female just so that they could score gil/items/favors?

Role playing is part of the fun of the game. If someone wants to role play for fun, I have no objection to that. But using role play to gain favors, it is something I will not tolerate.

About in game relationships, I think it is up to the player to decide. I myself would not mind, but I am aslo well aware of the risks taken. If one is willing to take the risk, then it is one responsibility to take the needed precautions and ready for the outcome for it.

I actually know someone that who allows his gf to play his character -- and the model of the character is a Girl Tarutaru. It is best to assume the gender of the player be unknown until that person tells you what his/her gender is. If someone prefers to remain anonymous -- he/she has the right to do so. But in the situation when it may matter, it is best to be honest. I myself always be honest I am RL guy -- but some people claim me actually play female role quite well >< saying I tend to use more femine language and behavoir... but anyway. I am a "straight" guy, and I come clean all the time.

IMO -- the best way to round it up :
It is just all up to the player how to play their character as long as it does not (edit:) intentionally hurt other's playing experience.

PS: I added the word "intentionally" because dramas and conflicts because of whatever reason is part of the game. There are times this game is really annoying as hell, or get you angry. That is matter of fact...

Edited, Wed Jul 27 22:37:04 2005 by scchan

I get really annoyed that guys play female characters. I have gotten to the point where I just assume that mithras are all male in RL and about 50% of the hume females are really males. I have a female character and so does my husband. He picked a female character because "she is hot". :P
Anyway, when RL men play female characters and pretend to be female IRL- that is over the line. Do they do it for gifts or whatever? I certainly don't get treated special. Maybe that is because I am a female taru and therefore, am not "hot". But when I play my husband's female hume, I get flirted with a lot. But still, no gifts! I am jealous!

Amanada, maybe you sound feminine because you sound more mature. Girls I guess tend to be usually associated with being more mature than guys given the same age level. Though in this game, age is irrelevant but you can still tell who sounds like the 14-year old spoiled brat.

Definitely an Algar-esque post. LoL. You crack me up some times man.

Ok so I'll admit it, I even find myself acting differently to someone that claims to be a female IRL, just as I would to a girl IRL. I'm a naturally flirty person and that is prevelant in conversations with females. Just in my nature.

I have dealt with a person that played the "I'm a female" to a T for a LONG time before fessing up. Did I have interest in this person outside of Vana? LoL No. Separate game from RL. But, I still have no interest in conversing with this person because I now see the type of person that he is. If you want to pretend to be the opposite sex IRL, that's your choice and they have places you can go. Don't hide behind a computer screen, it's just not healthy and it's rude to people that you are lying to.

I also knew someone that did the same thing and became emotionally involved with another that I know on the game. It was a complete and udder mess. Be honest with yourself and others. You'll come out better in the end.

Hadn't heard that term in a long time.

I think there is a difference between men who play Mithra, and those who play other races a female. Mithra have great Dex and AGI, so that alone makes them enticing for most low lvl DD jobs. I think a lot of these guys would play Mithra men rather than female, if they were able too. I know a few dudes that play as hume females, but none that play as Taru or Elvaan females. I think they just like to look at hot chicks lol.