Hey Joqua...
I lead ClanDestine. We're a chill and mature LS. We all generally do our own thing, but help each other as needed with missions, information, quests and anything else that might come up.
As a bit of background, we began when me and 4 other RL friends were level 8 and dedicated this LS to simply collecting people who we found to be "cool" during our adventures in Vana D! Needless to say, we've come across many. Some have stayed, some have not as everyone has their own agenda and people seek the type of LS that best suits what they are looking for (And this is encouraged^^). But for those who have stayed and been in the LS for some time, they have simply become icons within the LS and bring their unique personalities and skills.
There is no drama in my LS. And I think we've been lucky that way.
We don't "recruit" per se, and there are certainly no requirements other than being a mature individual who wants to spend time in Vana D, enjoying all aspects of the game: crafting, questing, leveling, exploration, etc.
If you're looking for a more social "chat room" type LS... we're probably not for you (not to say we don't talk..lol!) But we're all aware that while people are leveling or otherwise, spamming the LS log with mindless chit chat CONSTANTLY is somewhat annoying. We have our moments, but in general we keep it to a minimum.
So if you're interested, i'm more than happy to provide you with a pearl. Spend some time with us, and if you fit, great. If not, then enjoy your time if Vana D nonetheless! There are about 10 of us who are on almost daily at various times (PST being the heaviest) and are very active in the LS. And probably 10 more who pop in and out or who don't play as often.
At any rate, I hope you find the type of LS you're looking for. The LS you pick will probably have the biggest impact on your "life" in-game!